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Just need to vent/Rejoice - Anniversary coming up

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So my anniversary is coming up. I do not think of it as our wedding anniversary, but when the BM started making my life HELL!  Well, I WAS that SM who tried to be the BMs friend.  After years and years of heartache, all I did was make myself vurnable and let her treat me very badly.  No matter how bad she did me, I still tried to kill her with kindness.  Well, that didn't work.  As soon as she didn't get what she wanted she would call me and yell, then hang up.  But noone talks at me.  If there is a problem, address it and we will fix it.  But she knew she had do say in anything about me, so I am just glad it is over.  She is blocked from my phone.  If anything needs to be done, it all goes through my husband.  She never says ANYTHING bad to him.  It's so crazy.  It was something everyday with me.  Now when he does say something, she asks him if that is how thinks or if that's just what I said, lol.  He has started saying that is how we run our household.  Now, I do help him but not like I did.  He makes the decisions, and I just give suggestions or reminders that certain events are coming up.  But I do not allow myself to get ran all over.  It took me 9 years to figure this out.  We have all come a long way, but ultimately my SD is not my problem.  I am here when she needs me, but other than that, she has a mom.  Regardless, if her BM is one of those.  I never wanted to be this way before, but I litterally feel like so much has been lifted off my shoulders.  Even my coworkers say I am totally different than before.  It has been 3 months with no contact with her, and that alone has made the past 3 months the best. 

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Congrats and Happy Anniversary!

 

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I found things to be much easier once I stopped trying to "fix" things and just stepped back/out.

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Very Very true....

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