12/9/12 Update below in #17...
One of my parents is dealing with an illness. While we do not know how long this will go on, we do know that I am the one that will be the main source of help/support during this time. I am juggling my entire life (work, kids, husband, location) for chucnks of time each month. Dc2 is currently homeschooled and in the 5th grade. He is being juggled also in the midst of all this since dh works and can't take him to work with him, etc. He came from a school situation that he was unable to handle, has a dx of adhd and anxiety, and has spent the last year working really hard not just on learning but also on his behavior. His prior school experience was very damaging (things from earlier years with a teacher had come up after we pulled him that we did not realize had happened/affected him) and he spent so much time last year healing. I don't want his experience this year to further damage him; I really want to be able to foster as much love and support for him as I can as I know the eventual end to the illness will result in the loss of one of his grandparents.
Dc2 is currently digging in heels majorly when it comes to work. I have really worked to minimize the way I present it (way less detail oriented, etc, see my recent post- I overwhelmed him completely with my table style of planning). He is however forever a reluctant learner. He is great at memorizing facts, playing video games, and reading. I am trying so hard to get him to write, but he does not like doing it. I try to get him involved in vocabulary pages, he hates it. Anything that requires holding a pencil.
This wouldn't be so bad, but now it is various people helping him with his schooling. I see him learning as he takes some neat outings, talks to different people, and interacts with each environment. I also see him manipulate the situations when he can to avoid work. We are dealing with that as it is a behavior issue, he does get consequences. I am wondering if there is some kind of free software online that would allow me to plan for him, and he could complete work online rather than in workbooks, I could reasonably keep track of it, and it wouldn't be every last nerve I have in the time I work with him. Right now I play catch up, so he hates homeschool time with me. He is falling behind and I am less and less able to cope with that because of my own stress and responsibilities.
Any ideas on stopping the spiral short of putting him in a school? Is there anything online that would be free or of little cost that he can use to work and stay on track?
I already do some work with Kahn, Spelling City, Shepperds Software, and a few others. I had tons of other links marked on my old computer, but that crashed.
Thank you for any ideas!
ETA- I have been thinking about this all day. When do you "give up" on homeschooling? If need be, I can quit my job and move in with my ill parent. I would keep dc2 with me and put him in the public school near my parent's home (I can not keep him at home and travel to parent's home regularly due to his anxiety). I guess the enormity of everything on my shoulders has started to really sink in. :( Just not sure how to get through this smoothly.
Edited by puzzlepeace - 12/9/12 at 2:32pm