My 2.5 yr old ds is generally a happy calm pretty well behaved kid. He is an only child and gets almost constant attention from either me or dh. But lately he has been having tantrums and screaming when he doesn't get what he wants, or for whatever reasons and it is driving us nuts! We are first time parents and not sure how to deal with it. He will be pretty happy (thankfully) most of the day but then just get set off really easily into screaming and tantruming- usually they last only 5-15 minutes. We have never done a time out with him- mostly because I am unsure how I feel about them and also not sure how to implement it. Dh and I are not super pushover parents either- I do try to set boundaries and be stern when I need to. But ds will tantrum for example when dh leaves the room and he wants dh instead of me he will scream till dh comes back. or when he wants to empty the contents of the fridge, etcetera. Often times his screaming drives me and dh nuts so we distract - we say- no screaming ds, and try to be firm- but we end up just tryint to ditract him or else we give in. My sister syas with her kids she puts them i ntime out till they can be respectful- her husband is more stern than dh and I are~ so it works for them.
Should we try time outs when he gets like that? We try sort of but he just screams so we give in. I do not want to raise a spoiled brat but I feel like dh and I are spoiilng him somewhat. I must restate that he is 85% of the time well behaved and happy and calm so I feel pretty proud of our parenting. We ar every attachment parenting style, but I always thought of myself as not a pushover parent. but now I just feel like I need gentle but effective discipline techniques so ds does not keep walking all over us! my mom keeps saying that dh and I need to be more in charge and not let ds run the show- and I agree but I don't know how.
Any ideas? Should we try time outs and if so hw does one implement a time out on a screaming 2.5 yr old? And it is not about telling him- I hear that you are upset, etcetera- he is very well heard- he talks pretty well and we are very attentive and responsive. It is more how do we set boundaries when he is scereaming and tantruming so he doesn't walk all over us? thanks!
Edited by Snapdragon - 10/11/12 at 6:05pm