Lauriebeth, where do you live?
In Canada, there are student debt forgiveness programs for debt over a certain amount. Maybe check (if these aren't private loans) if there is some type of program like that available where you live.
Student debt is just like your mortgage. If you pay more, pay more often, and make extra payments towards the principal you will save a ton of money over time.
What are your interest rates like? Do you own a home? Do you have equity in your home? If so, you could consider a home line of credit or another mortgage to pay of the loans if you can get a lower rate of interest that way. That's another way to save money over time and what DH and I did (we had over $120k together as well). We were able to get a lower interest rate, and free up some cash flow because at the time we had to pay close to $1000 per month each and it was not feasible just out of school. We now are able to pay down the loan faster as we are earning more than when we graduated.
Is it feasable for either of you to take on another job and put that paycheck towards paying loans down (in addition to the minimum payment)?
I hope some of this is helpful!