I have three ex-husbands.
Ex #3 - His parents have zero interest in seeing or having a relationship with any of their grandchildren. Grandma Kat went as far as to tell the kids on a rare visit, "just call me Kat, don't call me Grandma or any variation of Grandma because it makes me feel old". Ok, whatever, they probably won't see her again for years so who cares. She lives 20 minutes from me.
Ex #2 - His parents have a wonderful relationship with their grand daughter (my daughter) facilitated by me because they live 40 minutes from me here in the states and ex-husband lives in Malta (off the coast of Italy).
Ex #1 - His mom is great. She and I arrange visits between her and the kids all the time. She is about 20 minutes from me.
His dad and step mom live 5 minutes from me and they have children at the same school as my children. They have NOTHING to do with my children but they let their other grand daughter live with them! I have tried reaching out to them via email (as was encouraged by my children's aunt, my ex's sister, when I talked to her about my concern that they had basically no relationship with that part of the family and I have to say that even though she lives in NY, the aunt has really been making an effort to engage the kids via email and phone) and they completely ignored the messages. My ex lives in Hawaii now and we are in GA. Even when my ex lived here he would only very sporadically take the kids to his dad's house. My 12yr old doesn't even recognize them when we see them at the grocery store. They "friended" my kids on Facebook so now the kids can see all the pictures from family reunions that they weren't invited too! I think that last part and the fact that they see their other grand-daughter is what really pisses me off. Last year there were all these pics from Thanksgiving and over the summer 4th of July family reunion that my kids brought to my attention. We are coming up on holidays again and I am getting irritated just thinking about this. Should I try another email? What should I say to the kids?