(Okay, a little background. I am active duty, and my husband is civilian. We travel all over the place. We live in each place about 2 to 3 years, but while we are there we see most of the cool things in surrounding areas. So from outsiders, we are just all over the place all the time and should give our money to people that need it versus blowing it on traveling.)--That's another story--
I only have 31 friends on my FB. It is my close family and friends. Just because we are 1st cousins or you are my boss or coworker or went to high school with me, doesn't give you the right to details of my life.
My mom will aggravate me to death about keeping her pictures on there so she can watch her GDs grow up. FB is the only thing she can work, and she's come a long way to be able to use that. I tried instagram, but she says she like FB. Regardless, my mom, sister, and close friends all keep in touch that way and share our pictures. Keep in mind, I only have 31 friends on there whatsoever. So I have pictures from other countries, and that we go to Disneyland almost every other weekend.
Now, this is my way of thinking.... I have DDs of my own. I have only been to 3 of my oldest bdays, and only to only 1 of my youngest bday, she is 4. I am always gone for work whether its for days, weeks, or months. I don't choose to be, but the gov't tells me to go so I do my job. So when I am home, if I want to take them to see all kinds of stuff, it's my money and I have every right. If I share those experiences with my close friends and family, it's my right.
Many people think it as it was my choice to join the military. And yes it was, over 10 years ago. This was prior to getting married or having childrens or a SD. This was my choice, and how I wanted to live my life. My choice, my decision. Don't tell me I am a bad mother for not raising my kids, but then always have your D*** hand out, and get mad when I tell you I had plans already and I can't give you the 100th handout.
My huband has a DD. She is wonderful. But now she is starting to act like her BM, but that's another story too. Her BM says that her DD, my SD, says that I have been the reason her daddy left her. Whether my SD thinks that, I'm sure it is in the back of her mind regardless if her BM put it there. We always take her to crazy places during the summers. We tell her that she is always welcome to come whenever she wants. She has her own room at every place we move. So it's not like she is a guest. I know it's hard b/c she wants to be with both parents, but don't all kids want that?
But she is getting older now. And she now has a FB. She asks me why she was couldn't see my pics on my FB cause she knew I had lots of pics. So I acted dumb and said let me check on it and fix it.
So I fixed it, and now her flippin BM sees about our life. She is raising so much H*** because how dare her daughter not have clothes and go to the movies, but we go to Asia or Alaska for a couple day vacation. She says nothing about FB, but I know she gets all mad from looking at it. We send more than enough Child Support. I even send the child support for years while my husband was a stay at home dad. But she doesn't see as me helping. She sees it as our problem, when it's not our(my husband and I's Problem) it's their(hers and his) problem. I help out for my SD. The BM is a SAHM of 6 kids and lives with her parents in their garage. Her husband is in and out of work. So I know they struggle and I've tried to help, but I'm done with all of that after 9 years of getting S*** on. She is the one who says I pay to have someone raise my kids. And my response was I do what I have to do to provide for my children, and she lets tax payers provide for hers.
I am just so angry that it's always something with that woman. FB or cell phone or money. I'm so tired of this. I know it will never ever stop.