Hello all - here is my (imaginary at this point) dilemma.
I don't want to have any ultrasound at all in this pregnancy. My midwives would REALLY like one at 20 weeks, but I still haven't made up my mind. I'd rather have none. Last time they caused a lot of fake problems (placenta previa, heart malformed, breech - none of which turned out to be true) that caused my stress to skyrocket and contributed to hypertension. I want all of that out of my pregnancy this time!
I go for my second appointment next week, which should be just before 12 weeks gestation. I have heard that a doppler may or may not pick up a heartbeat at this point (meaning - the pregnancy might be healthy, they just can't hear the heartbeat yet). If there is no heartbeat, what do I do? Just wait? I don't want ultrasound to detect a miscarriage.
I have had no bleeding or cramping - nothing to suggest a miscarriage. A little low back pain, but it has subsided.
We have also decided not to tell family or friends until we hear a heartbeat, to avoid the pain of having to go back and tell about a miscarriage if one were to happen. So, if we get no heartbeat at the 12-week appointment, then I have to wait until 16 to tell, and I am already FAT with this one.
So, what would you do in my situation?