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post #21 of 89

Thanks for the lavender tip! I have a little aloe plant in our kitchen and my husband immediatly cut a piece off and I rubbed the juices on the burn. It actually doesn't hurt now, it just looks bad. (Tropicana74 - I can't believe you did the same thing! Like I wrote in the picture, I'm blaming it on my belly that is now sticking out way too far. orngtongue.gif )

post #22 of 89

Hi all.

 

Purplemamaturtle- Oh you poor thing! I hope your ok? Luck y that aloe plant was so close!! How are you feeling?

I am constantly getting bruises and scratches on my belly as I just dont take the extra bump into account lol. Silly!

 

Things are slowly healing here. Obviously it hurts, but they said there is not a lot they can do except prescribe drugs that I dont want to take in pregnancy reguardless of the what the studies show for baby in utero.

We had a check up at emergency yesterday.. To check out my eye they had to paralyse it :( It was not fun. Repeat- Not fun. I couldnt feel my eye, and partly still can't.....

Urgh I dunno :(

 

Things that have been on my mind/things i need to do- Wash baby clothes/blankets/sheets etc

                                                                             - Super clean baby room/bathrrom/laundry

                                                                             - Fix now broken fireplace :(

                                                                             - Orgnaise, sort, buy more birth supplies!

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post #25 of 89
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Originally Posted by nhklh View Post


My back is killing me.  I can't get comfortable.  I am constantly switching between chair, ball, standing, walking, lying, kneeling etc.  I think I'm kind of in denial about labour/birth/baby.  


I love that they are both willing to help with these things, but I also feel pretty shitty because my family don't do anything.

I totally get the not being able to get comfortable thing. I feel like I shouldn't be this uncomfortable with 8 weeks still to go. I just sat and watched a movie with DH and had to change positions about 20 times. rolleyes.gif

 

I totally get the family thing too....whine away!! My daughter is 9 and my father has met her once (when she was 2 weeks old) and my mom has only met my children a few times and has only met my 3 year old son once. It's just shitty any way you slice it. None of my siblings have met my children either (or my husband for that matter).


DH's family is just amazing and totally fill in the void where my family should be but I have to agree with you...it doesn't make my own family of origin seem any less shitty (it actually just magnifies how bad they are). hug2.gif

 

I hope you are able to work things out with the scooter soon. I can't imagine having that additional stress. greensad.gif

post #26 of 89
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Originally Posted by purplemamaturtle5 View Post

Thought I would share this bit of loveliness (shake.gif) with you all..... This took place yesterday.

 

 

 

Yeah...this was NOT fun at all. I'm fine though. (oh...that little brown dot is just a mole. lol)

 Ouch....I did that with my first.  I wasn't even wearing maternity clothes at the time (I'm known to just wear the XL t-shirt from DH etc.) and I was baking and I leaned in a little too close to the stove and OUCH I actually touched the edge of the pans I took out with my belly!  After a while it disappeared thankfully, but I felt so stupid!

post #27 of 89

Aaggghh!  Everything itches and I can't sleep.  Also, I think I double dosed myself with my asthma inhaler because I was kind of half-awake for a while and convinced myself I had dreamed taking it and took it again.  This is not dangerous, but it is really annoying and makes me jittery.  I'm not sick so far as I can tell, but my nose is so stuffed up!  And I have to take my kids to our homeschooling coop tomorrow and stay there all day.  In 3 hours.  I am going to be a mess.

 

Nhklh, I wish you luck with the scooter - and the clothes dryer!  Generosity is great but I do know what you mean about having a hard time appreciating it when it highlights others' non-generosity.  DH's family is much more generous (in lots of ways, not just financially) than mine and I feel so lucky to have learned that value from them cause I sure didn't learn it from my family. 

 

Glad you are somewhat better, Travelmumma!

 

Okay, second page can't figure out how to go back and respond to first page comments in aggravated state!  But have been reading along and thinking of everyone!

post #28 of 89

Really uncomfortable over here too.  Armchair, couch, bed, with/without pillow mountain...

 

I've also been really inactive physically this past month - no long or brisk walks (because it makes me contract so I've been wanting to take it easy).  But now I am paying the price - I've really fallen out of shape, I get out of breath really easily, and have put on major weight - hence much fatigue... +/-7 weeks to go...

post #29 of 89
So I dreamed last night that I had the baby. He was a little African-American baby who was "too pretty to be a boy." I got my VBAC and felt awesome, but the recovery room was recovery for EVERYONE... random patients from other parts of the hospital, etc. It was this huge common-room area. I kept trying to do some skin-to-skin with the baby, but he kept wiggling and fussing and having none of it. For some reason, DH wasn't with me and his phone doesn't have a camera, so I couldn't text him pictures of his son. I went ahead and just posted the pictures on Facebook. I took two pictures, and the first picture, the baby looked like a toddler already, and in the second picture, he looked like a preschooler, lol. I was a little bummed in the dream b/c I ordered a piece of jewelry that we were going to use for our name announcement on Facebook, and it shipped yesterday (in real life) and in the dream, it hadn't arrived yet, so I couldn't use it.
post #30 of 89

@Travelmumma - I'm doing just fine now, thank you for asking smile.gif (It just looks really bad right now)

post #31 of 89

Whew!  We have finally come up for air.  My poor little bubs had Roseola.  Days and days of a high fever, and then last night the fever broke and 2 hours later, the tell tale rash popped up.  She seems to be feeling about 50% better, which is a HUGE improvement.  4 days of being trapped on the couch or in a rocker with her was pretty awful.  And way uncomfortable!  I'm definitely on the uncomfortable train as well.  Driving the carpool to DD1's school is pretty miserable.  By the time we get home I'm SO grouchy from sitting in the car.  I think last time I had a small pillow in the car with me that helped a bit.

I hope you burn mamas heal very quickly!  Burns hurt so badly, I feel for you.

I wish I had time for personals this week, but as I'm sure you can imagine, I now have loads of housework and schoolwork to catch up on.  

Oh...one piece of loveliness.  DH took DD2 (sicky) to the in-laws for a few hours on Sunday so that my mom and MIL could throw me a small but wonderful shower.  The food was delicious, the company was marvelous, and the games were super fun and competitive and totally un-cheesy.  It was so nice to get to hang out with my friends for a couple of hours...I miss them.

Uh oh, toddler smushing food into everything...gotta go!  Have a great week mamas!

post #32 of 89

I think almost every single time I'm pregnant I end up burning my belly on the stove top or oven - you're just not used to having it stick out so far!  I also scratch it on or knock it into things when I have to walk sideways through a space I assume I can fit through, but can't.  

 

Harmony, in my most recent baby dream mine was part fox;)

post #33 of 89
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Originally Posted by kel View Post

I think almost every single time I'm pregnant I end up burning my belly on the stove top or oven - you're just not used to having it stick out so far!  I also scratch it on or knock it into things when I have to walk sideways through a space I assume I can fit through, but can't.  

 

Harmony, in my most recent baby dream mine was part fox;)

ohh...I just burnt my poor belly cooking on the stove! how silly and terrible!! haha

LAst pregnancy I tried to fit through the doorway while the fan was also in it and took the whole thing down and crashed it to the ground, broke it--all in the middle of the night. I cried! it really upset me because I had 'sucked in' my belly and still didn't fit by it--hahah hubs almost had a heart attack woken up like that!

post #34 of 89

I have grease stains at the front of the belly on virtually EVERY maternity top or shirt I wear. (Our cast irons live *on* the stove, and I'm constantly bumping the one DH uses--and doesn't clean very well.) eyesroll.gif

post #35 of 89

OMG - I burned my belly last night making dinner too! Mine was hot oil - I was making roux for gumbo and the roux was nice and dark brown and tossed in the onions and splash all over my belly. My t-shirt was thin and it burned my belly in one spot and my arm as well. I used the lavendar essential oil - my go to for kitchen burns and helped. They are still nice red spots today though.

 

Then last night I scraped my belly on the corner of the counter and again then this morning, I was leaving the bathroom after my shower, still naked and scratched my belly with the door latch! Clearly my belly is getting bigger and I don't have a good sense of it!

 

To all those who said they can't get comfortable - me too! I keep thinking that it's crazy that I'm 34 weeks tomorrow, could have 6-7 more weeks of this and I'm already feeling really unbearable. There's my hips and muscles, but when the baby moves lately, it is very uncomfortable sometimes hurts a bit. I love it when the baby move, but this I don't love.

 

No more brown CM for me since Sunday... So as we (including me) thought it was nothing. But it was scary!

 

Can I just put out a shameless promotion for my midwifery supply business to you mamas in the States purchasing birth supplies? This is my own business that I started five years ago and has grown, but is still small compared to most of my competitors. Radiant Belly (www.RadiantBelly.com) - I have pretty much everything that you would need for a HB and last time I checked my prices were the same or lower than most of the competitors. Ok, thanks for reading - hope that was not inappropriate blush.gif

post #36 of 89
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Originally Posted by lulubikes View Post

 

To all those who said they can't get comfortable - me too! I keep thinking that it's crazy that I'm 34 weeks tomorrow, could have 6-7 more weeks of this and I'm already feeling really unbearable. There's my hips and muscles, but when the baby moves lately, it is very uncomfortable sometimes hurts a bit. I love it when the baby move, but this I don't love.

 

THIS! I am 32 weeks, but am feeling and looking VERY pregnant. I went to costco yesterday and barely made it. A cashier asked me when I was due and when I replied DEcember she said, 'REALLY?!' --she def. thought I would say, 'NOW!' haha

Mostly my back and pelvis are painful and spastic because i am carrying so far out this time that my muscles are totally taxed--I got stretch marks this time, too, and didn't last time. But like you mention lulu--it is really craazy how much the baby can actuaally almost hurt me when moving. I love feeling baby move, but more often thaan not I feel like he/she is going to break me and it isn't kicks to the ribs or kicks--it is like whole body movement still--like babe is arching or sstretching out and when he/she does I have no choice but to go with the movement or fear getting knocked off my feet!

post #37 of 89

We just back from Portland wedding weekend last night and wanted to check in and say hello. I have been reading, but haven't had a chance to write anything for the last week or so. No time for personals right now, but I am thinking of all of you mamas.

 

I had a follow-up ultrasound this morning and got the bad news that my placenta has not moved at all since the last ultrasound 6 weeks ago. They scheduled yet another follow-up u/s in 4 weeks, but I am not feeling particularly hopeful at this point. I am still processing all of this, but feeling really really bummed out. This may be a bit premature, but can anyone reccomend any good resources on caesarean birth? Particularly the emotional aspects of having one?
 

post #38 of 89
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Originally Posted by kateadelle View Post

We just back from Portland wedding weekend last night and wanted to check in and say hello. I have been reading, but haven't had a chance to write anything for the last week or so. No time for personals right now, but I am thinking of all of you mamas.

 

I had a follow-up ultrasound this morning and got the bad news that my placenta has not moved at all since the last ultrasound 6 weeks ago. They scheduled yet another follow-up u/s in 4 weeks, but I am not feeling particularly hopeful at this point. I am still processing all of this, but feeling really really bummed out. This may be a bit premature, but can anyone reccomend any good resources on caesarean birth? Particularly the emotional aspects of having one?
 

hugs to you, mama. Do you have a local ICAN chapter? Look here: http://www.ican-online.org/ We have a very active chapter here and we have an active FB page, too. I will ask those mamas for resources for a gentle cesarean--I have a mentor who speaks about this--how to have a gentle 'natural' cesarean and it can be done! It can be beautiful and healthy for you, DP, and babe. I will let you know when I get some resources for you.

That being said, It's not that you are 'jumping the gun'--you have to do what you need in order to feel ok with your present info, but I am gonna get esoteric on ya for a moment and say that we can draw the experiences we don't want by focusing on them, researching them, and by saying, 'i DON:T want a cesarean.' --The universe doesn't rcognise negatives, so, instead of saying 'i don't want a cesarean' change your words and say 'i DO want a healthy, normal vaginal birth'. Also, start talking to your body!! Talk to that placenta--so weird, right?! I swear this stuff works though! Why else would people do it?! Just to be fruityloopy ; ) really....spend some allotted time doing 'research' because you need to be informed and ready in your situaation, but the rest of the time get fruit loopy and talk to your placent and your baby and the universe and KNOW that it WILL move!

{{{hugs}}}

post #39 of 89

Kateadelle--I put out for some info on this to my local ICAN and have heard some great things about planned, necessary cesarean birth. I am still waiting for more, but I will share this post with you because it really sounds like with some SERIOUS advocating you can birth with dignity and within YOUR comfort zone as much as possible.

"Yes, I did this with my last section because of breech. I advocated for myself and my hospital (in IN then) was very accomodating. Not all hospitals will be (as I have found here in SPring Hill-they are ridiculously uncompromising), but I really recommend writing a birth plan and going over it with her OB, anesthesiologists, surg techs etc...anyone who will be involved in her birth. How far along is she? I was able to get things like: having my husband present for the administration of the spinal, not being tied down, getting the screen lowered so I could see my baby being born, not having baby be bathed, not having baby be suctioned, delayed cord clamping and then refusing all the typical newborn shots and procedures. Baby never left my sight, was with me in recovery, nursing, about 20 minutes after birth. I carried him on my bed down the hall to my room where he remained the rest of my stay. They did allnewborn checks, weigh-ins, etc... in my room."

To which I asked: 
 So Lisa--they never took the baby to the nursery even as they closed you up? Hubs and baby were able to stay at your side for the whole thing?!

"Yep! I asked for those things specifically in my birth plan and negotiated them with the anesthesiologist prior to the birth. I made several copies of my birth plan and brought them in when they did my pre-testing. They put them in my chart and every new person who came into my room, without me asking, acknowledged that they read it and took it seriously. It was seriously awesome and the most peaceful birth for that reason. Sections still suck but it was nice to know I still had some choices and that they listened to me. It was very empowering. I also was planning a home birth and that was VERY hard to let go of-but having a voice in my care really helped me to feel good about my decision."
 I should say-yes, they gave baby to my hubby, he carried him into recovery and gave him to me to nurse and then I had him the whole time in bed with me after that. He didn't spend one minute in the nursery. This was a newer/progressive hospital that isVERY focused on patient care and keeping patients happy (almost like a customer service focus), and I know not all will be so fortunate to have that kind of support, but it never hurts to ask. Chances are she may have to make some compromises, but she might just be pleasantly surprised too."




This mama has had 4 cesarean births and is currently planning a VBA5C!

She is also open to communicating directly with you, if that is something you would like, I can certainly link you two. She said she likely can still dig up that birth plan if you were interested in it.

Besides ICAN for emotional support Birthing From Within offers some GREAT mentoring and birth trauma healing. Also I have a dear friend who is a birth mentor and is really great with this kind of thing: http://thepeacefulbirthproject.org/
Again, hugs to you and knowing that things can and do change even when it appears they may not and that you will have the perfect birth for you! 

post #40 of 89

This is a "what would you do" question for all of you mamas. I know that I have brought up this topic before somewhere in our group, but I wanted to give you my actual scenario. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and my doctors keep asking me if I'm going to be getting the flu vax/whooping cough vax. I had one doctor say that if I were to only get one, get the flu vax. I have never gotten a flu shot in my entire life and getting one for the first time during pregnancy scares the heck out of me. My MIL just had a flu shot recently and now she is sick with a high fever, she thinks she now has the flu. Also to consider, my husband works as a security officer and in the warehouse that he patrols, they have a lot of foreign temp workers that come in and he doesn't want to bring home anything. Also, I have a nephew that visits frequently and he is constantly sick because his mother is nurse at a hospital. I just have no idea what I should do. I keep hearing of people getting sick after they get the flu vax and because I've never gotten one before, getting one for the first time while pregnant seems extra risky, but I certainly do not want to want to get the flu from not getting the shot and put mine and my baby's life at risk...What would you all do?

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