Weekly Chat Oct. 14th-20th - Page 3 « Back to Group Discussions

[babytoes]

Oh thank God I'm not the only one hunting in the corners and under dirty clothes for the lost libido! I know it was here the other day!

Maydaymom I have lots of pillows that I use, and the one for between my legs is a very fluffy stiff one, so it's soft yet stays thick enough to keep my leg on it all night without needed to be fluffed up. I am like Spughy and refuse to buy an expensive pillow I won't use once the baby is here. I'm glade you are getting some time off, I have a feeling doing 26 hour births is just going to make you feel run down, and possibly make you sick from lack of sleep and a lower immune system. No fun while pregnant! 

[Linnaea]

I almost wish I had a low libido--mine has skyrocketed since I got pregnant, my fiancé can't keep up!! . I don't have a lot of energy, though, so I typically just endure the frustration. It feels like some sort of weird joke--feeling like a sex machine but not having the energy to keep up with it. Plus I'm starting to feel kind of frumpy more than sexy which doesn't help either...oh well.

[chocolatechip]

Wow, I miss a few days online, and the thread goes crazy! 

GranolaMama, sorry things are still so dramatic.  I keep thinking your partner's ex must come to her senses at some point, or reach her limits of craziness, but it doesn't seem to happen. Still sending you good thoughts in hopes you can work it out!

writermama, good for you for writing in the spaces when you can, and Linnaea, good luck making it happen. I have some academic articles I should be writing based on my dissertation, and I don't even have a toddler to distract me, but it's so hard to get myself to do it. But maybe just because I'm finding it hard to get started, I should try telling myself it's okay to sit my rear in the chair and work on an article for only 15 minutes, so that I at least get going! 15 minutes would be better than nothing!

Linnaea, I also had to laugh a little about your fiance's aunt's visit. My mother-in-law is a lot like that, though she doesn't smell like garlic. She's just an incredibly chatty and extroverted person, and she visited us for two weeks smack in the middle of my first trimester. Well, technically she was actually here for 10 days, in a six day and then four day chunk, separated by a four day trip away. I was exhausted, and still having really slow mornings trying to wake up and feed myself slowly, and as soon as she'd realize I was awake, she'd come start chatting! She has recently said she wants to come up after the baby's born for a visit, "to help us out and let us get some rest," which is totally sweet of her, and it IS her first grandchild (my husband's an only child), but I just can't help but think that it won't necessarily be restful. But maybe she'll be so distracted by the baby it'll actually turn out that way. I am just glad that MY mother, who intends to be the first person visiting after the baby's here, is very helpful, great with babies, and tends to have a good calming effect on me! 

As for libidos, mine's definitely stronger than it was in the first trimester, when it was non-existent, but I was kind of hoping for a big ramp up and that definitely hasn't happened. :( I think it's partly timing issues too - I get sleepy in the evenings, and I am not a morning person, so that cuts out weekday fun for the most part! And then we've been really busy on weekends, and my husband was sick, and... Sigh. Maybe it'll keep increasing? I hope?

[cabbitdancer]

Do we need to start a new one of these? ;)

I haven't had much of a libido for a rather long time... or, when I am interested, it's usually in the middle of the day when my husband and I can't do much about it. ;) It was really high when I was pregnant with my daughter, but I'd bleed every time we DTD, so we kind of stopped, and then it was too painful for about a year after my daughter was born, so... :(

Anyone else been feeling BH? I don't remember feeling them that much in my last pregnancy, but I'm pretty sure I'm getting them, now. It's... weird.

[spughy]

Here's a new thread.
 

[GranolaMama09]

I may or may not have had some last night...DP and I were playing around since he's still too sick to actually DTD (AHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!).  I got off the bed and literally hit the floor from the pain in my stomach right where baby unicorn has been sitting.  I was so scared!  I felt like something ripping away.  But there was no blood and after I calmed down a bit and bumped around on google I relaxed a bit and figured it was either BH or baby moving and hitting that round ligament just right, kwim?  I had lots of BH with my daughter but I think this baby is sitting very differently and I'm not feeling as much.