Wow, I miss a few days online, and the thread goes crazy!
GranolaMama, sorry things are still so dramatic. I keep thinking your partner's ex must come to her senses at some point, or reach her limits of craziness, but it doesn't seem to happen. Still sending you good thoughts in hopes you can work it out!
writermama, good for you for writing in the spaces when you can, and Linnaea, good luck making it happen. I have some academic articles I should be writing based on my dissertation, and I don't even have a toddler to distract me, but it's so hard to get myself to do it. But maybe just because I'm finding it hard to get started, I should try telling myself it's okay to sit my rear in the chair and work on an article for only 15 minutes, so that I at least get going! 15 minutes would be better than nothing!
Linnaea, I also had to laugh a little about your fiance's aunt's visit. My mother-in-law is a lot like that, though she doesn't smell like garlic. She's just an incredibly chatty and extroverted person, and she visited us for two weeks smack in the middle of my first trimester. Well, technically she was actually here for 10 days, in a six day and then four day chunk, separated by a four day trip away. I was exhausted, and still having really slow mornings trying to wake up and feed myself slowly, and as soon as she'd realize I was awake, she'd come start chatting! She has recently said she wants to come up after the baby's born for a visit, "to help us out and let us get some rest," which is totally sweet of her, and it IS her first grandchild (my husband's an only child), but I just can't help but think that it won't necessarily be restful. But maybe she'll be so distracted by the baby it'll actually turn out that way. I am just glad that MY mother, who intends to be the first person visiting after the baby's here, is very helpful, great with babies, and tends to have a good calming effect on me!
As for libidos, mine's definitely stronger than it was in the first trimester, when it was non-existent, but I was kind of hoping for a big ramp up and that definitely hasn't happened. :( I think it's partly timing issues too - I get sleepy in the evenings, and I am not a morning person, so that cuts out weekday fun for the most part! And then we've been really busy on weekends, and my husband was sick, and... Sigh. Maybe it'll keep increasing? I hope?