It's probably a really bad sign that even though I work full-time, I dread weekends with H, huh? - Page 2

[Mom31]

oh and do not reply to the texts at all.  that was hard for me- but don't reply.  At all.  disengaging is a good tool.

[sren]

OP, here are a couple of good reads that helped me find some clarity and might apply in your situation.. The Verbally Abusive Relationship (by Patricia Evans) and Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay.  You are definitely not alone!!!

[chefmommy]

So sorry you are oing through this. It actually took me about 3 years to finally go to a lawyer. Things would be good for a little while and then he would go back to his addictions. I would get him help - he woul be better for a little while then back to it again. I never saw myself as a divorced woman, but, it is better than living with a selfish addict! Best of luck. Save all the money you can - you will need it and stay positive. You need to do what's best for you and your kids!

[Ellien C]

thanks everyone. He's been good this week. Well - until I called him at work with the kids school schedule and asked which days he wanted to take off so I could arrange care. He started swearing and cursing and wondering why the schools had a 2 week break - partial before Christmas and partial after. It was so stupid. That kind of "help" I can do without. I really couldn't even tell if he was swearing about the school schedule or something else that was happening that moment at work. Nope - it was school schedule problem. I really do appreciate everyone's words of support and warning. 

[Megamum2008]

I just want to second the recommendation for 'too good to leave, too bad to stay'. really interesting read

[Ellien C]

Is that one the book of lists? I did read it a couple of years ago, but I guess it didn't really take or I didn't do it right.