Me again :)
I followed the advice above and ordered a wide assortment of bras/tanks, all with free shipping so I could try things out. I thought it might help someone else in the future if I posted my thoughts/experience on those that I've tried. Hope this helps someone else out there! :)
I ordered from Amazon and diapers.com (which are, I believe, now the same company, both owned by Amazon). They both offer free shipping, and even ONE bra would've qualified me. Both shipments came quickly.
Part 1: Bras
(a) Bella Materna Anytime Adjustable Nursing Bralet (#1155), Size 34 E/F. Of the bras that I ordered initially, this was one of the two with best fit and comfort. However, I am not in love with the way it looks under clothing - the cup fabric is kind of wrinkly (could be a sizing issue, but I think it's overall the right size for me). I am not sure if I will keep it. It IS soft and comfortable, and I could see wearing it around the house/as a sleep bra, but it's pretty pricey for that alone ($54).
(b) Melina G Glorious Contour Soft Cup T-shirt Bra (#2160), in both the Fab Curvy Small (32 E/F) and Fab Curvy Medium (34 E/F). I really wanted to love this bra. Really. Fabric is nice and soft, and the band is comfortable. I loved the lower-cut cross-over styling, and thought it would be less visible under v-neck/scoop-neck shirts. Well, it is less visible, but the trade-off is that the shaping, for me, was HORRIBLE. Truly horrible. Admittedly, I may not have had the right sizing - the cups were too large in both the Small and Medium - but I think they would be right for nursing size (??). Overall, I think the Small was better than the Medium, but not enough to keep it. The problem was this: the cross-over styling meant that the cups were VERY wide-set, and made me look (a) saggy and (b) very wide ... like breasts pointing at 10 and 2 on a clock. Not what I had in mind. The support was OK, not great. Would've been better with correct size for my current cups, I think, but ... eh. Not keeping either one. I have thought about ordering in a smaller size (the regular, not curvy cups, but I just know that I will need that extra cup size when I"m nursing, and then my $54 will be wasted. So, probably won't.
(c) Melina G T-Shirt Bra (#2115), Fab Curvy Small (32 E/F). I can't for the life of me find the receipt for where I ordered this one (can I blame it on pregnancy?), but fortunately I really like it. It and the Bella Materna #1155 are the best fitting and most comfortable of those that I have tried this time. The cups are slightly large right now, but I think will be fine once milk is in/engorgement passes. Nice soft fabric, lots of adjustability (four rows of hooks on the back, etc.) The only negative is that it is fairly high-cut in the front/center, so it shows under some shirts. Bummer. It is very similar to the Bravado Original Small ++ bras that I used before ... but perhaps slightly slicker fabric (not all cotton, maybe?) and slightly nicer shaping. Also, the old Bravados that I had were SNAP openings at the shoulder; this has easy-to-use clips. I am leaning toward keeping this one, but no firm decision yet.
(d) Bravado Allure Underwire, 34 F/G. Against my better instincts, I decided to try this bra, despite very mediocre reviews and the bad "Bliss" experience. Thank goodness for free shipping and free returns!!! It's awful. The reviews were right - it's itchy, and I don't know why/what makes it so itchy. The cups were totally weirdly shaped - almost like a minimizer, it kind of flattened my breasts out into wider, flatter disks? and my breasts did not fit well in the cups. Perhaps this could work for a person with very specifically shaped breasts, but that person is not me. Can't return it fast enough. LOL.
Part 2: Tanks
I had good-to-great success with the two tanks I ordered, and may be adding more!!
(a) Bravado Essential, 32 F/G, "Flamingo Pink" (because it was on sale) - I have to say, LOVE. Fit is great (cups are slightly large now, at 21 weeks' gestation, but I know they'll be plenty full come nursing time - hopefully large enough after initial engorgement). Super-comfortable. Soft cotton. Supportive shelf bra (actually surprisingly supportive!) Color is fine (I'm not that into light pink, but it was on sale and hey, my cheapness overrode my so-called fashion sense, ha ha). Style is nice - rouching makes the neckline a nice height for me, personally - not too high, not too low - however that is a very personal choice and different people with different bodies might feel differently. Strong plus is that the bodice (belly part) is reasonably snug at 21 weeks, which gives me hope that it will not be baggy/dowdy post-partum. The only slight drawback is that I do not love the nursing clips - they are tricky to use, though I think I will learn. I don't know how to post a link, and I know we're limited in posting to other websites, but if you look on the Bravado website, you can see the types of openings/clips available. This is the one with the little circle tab that you open/close. Not one-handed yet, but I hope it will get easier. Totally worth the $30 I paid (no tax, free shipping). Hopefully I will not stretch it out too much during the pregnancy and can use it next summer!! Also - total test = my husband told me, "you look totally hot in that shirt! where'd you get it?" Proof in pudding!
(b) Glamourmom Full-Bust Long Tank, size S, Black. I would rate this a "like, not love." Considerably longer than the Bravado, which is fine (I'm OK either way - might depend on what I was wearing with it). I do strongly prefer the clips on this to the Bravado right now, but I think I prefer the fit of the Bravado to this. The Bravado is a pull-over style, shelf-bra (no hooks), which does mean I have to carefully pull over the breasts and adjust it - no big deal; the Glamourmom has four sets of hooks in the back. However, even on the tightest set of hooks, I didn't feel this one was quite tight enough. I also felt like I was already pretty much maxxing out the cups, and no milk yet. Also unlike the Bravado, this one does not have a horizontal seam under the breasts (kind of an "empire" style), which could be a pro or a con depending on your body. For me, I LIKE that seam - I feel it helps define my bustline rather than it blending into my belly ;) but that's a very personal choice. Rouching between the breasts makes it not too revealing, but for me, it's almost too high -- but I think this is an artifact of a too-loose band being offset by over-tightened straps. So, bottom line, I am very on-the-fence about this one ... don't love the fit, but do love the clips. Just afraid it's not going to be enough cup size or support once there's milk in the proverbial house. Stay tuned ... who knows if I will keep or return?! I will probably post a separate question about this and see if anyone else has experience/thoughts on it.
Thanks for reading through my epistle. Cheers!