Hank is down for his (consistent, HOORAY!!) late morning 2 hour nap and I figured I would start up this week's chat!
Couple of things from last week:
Anya - sorry for your rough patch! This is a tough job for two parents and you're doing it on your own! You're one tough mama! It sounds like you're doing a great job and sometimes babies just cry. It takes some serious trial and error to figure out what works for you two and even then, you never know. When Hank is fussy, I do a lot of the "mommy dance" where I just hold him to my chest and bounce around and sway or walk up and down the hallway. We've kind of slowly figured out the exact routine that works for this and I also use it when it's time to put him to bed or down for a nap.
Weight - I'm definitely "squishy" too!! That is the best way to describe it. I'm down 35 lbs from birth but have hung onto this extra 15 for the last two weeks. I think if I I can come down another five, I'll be okay with having a little extra fat stores on me while BFing. DH and I just started an exercise routine and I'm excited to get in good shape again!
Development - I just googled games to play with newbons. I've never been around babies or kids much and so I have NO clue how to be silly and interact and sing funny songs, so I had to google it. We also do "tummy time" in the Boppy pillow so he's not just like laying there on his face. He really likes it when I put something interesting in front of it that he can stare at. He'll kind of slip down into the center and I'll put my hands behind his feet so he can push himself back up and I'll put things into his hands for him to grip. I also do "tummy time" on the recliner with him laying on my chest but then he gets distracted by the close proximity of the breastaurant and starts bouncing his face off of me instead of looking up. So then I try offering a boob but he's not actually hungry! Silly guy. :D
I also give him some time to himself on his back first thing in the morning after he eats because he seems to really like to kick his legs and coo and gurgle to himself. Then I kick back on the recliner with him leaned against my lap facing me and we do some face to face stuff where I just talk away and make silly faces and sing songs. If I'm doing stuff around the house where I can't have him in the wrap, I stick him in his little hammock where he can see me and I'll just chat with him about whatever it is that I'm doing. I got this cool mobile that has little clips on it where you can put different things on it and sometimes I'll put him under that to look at. Right now I just have a couple of little mirrors and some feather butterflies. But really, his favorite thing is just being outside and looking around so we do lots of walking and hanging out in my "garden".
I even read him books. I know that's probably dumb at this point, but he really seems to like it! He looks at the pages and likes to listen to my voice.
One thing about crying it out - Hank really isn't a fan of his car seat and I feel sort of trapped because of it. I strap him in and he gets so mad at me until I bring it outside. Then he'll be okay for a little while in the truck, but when he starts fussing and crying, I get so stressed out about getting to where I'm trying to go! I reach my hand back and hold his hand or sometimes give him a pinky to suck on, but that's probably not the safest practice. Ugh. What do I do? It makes me crazy! How much crying is too much? Do I need to just be okay with a little bit of crying in the car or does he feel like I'm abandoning him? Stupid cars. It's so unnatural to not just walk everywhere with baby in your arms and be able to immediately meet his needs.