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post #21 of 40
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Thanks for the birthday wishes! Just finished a slice of leftover chocolate cake for my afternoon tea, so I should probably plan on a little of that exercise now orngbiggrin.gif !  

 

Happy Birthday! Wish I could share that chocolate cake with ya :)  

 

Anyone with chronic knee pain here?  I feel like I can handle a lot of the other stuff but the knee pain is really scary.  I saw myself being active through old age but I have already slowed down given that my knee hurts too much with a lot of activity.  Anyone had knee surgery?

 

On the bright side, my insomnia seems to have improved! 

post #22 of 40

emaye - knee pain yes. chronic knee pain - no. i think i have arthiritis. its a common thing that runs in the family. my left knee will hurt like crazy if it gets really cold. 

 

one thing i discovered in my 30s from my friends is - you cannot escape aging. i was under the impression if you ate well and exercised you'd be riding a bicycle at 95 and lead a healthy life till you drop or the last year of your life. 

 

that was true of my gparents generation. not my parents or mine. yes they may be really healthy and thin, BUT genetics/heredity like arthiritis gets them. 

 

however too what i have found is the cultural difference towards pain and symptoms of any kind in general. and i find this within myself. i come from the east where one tolerates certain things. like pain or a cut. unless its extreme pain, low pain i ignore. you dont even talk about it. you go to the doctor to make sure it doesnt get worse, to check it out - but not necessarily to stop the pain. 

post #23 of 40

All y'all are welcome over at the "Old Mamas" group. Not too hopping a spot right now, but maybe with some new folks joining, it will pick up! thumb.gif
 

post #24 of 40

hmmmm "Old mama's group" <shudder>

post #25 of 40
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emaye - knee pain yes. chronic knee pain - no. i think i have arthiritis. its a common thing that runs in the family. my left knee will hurt like crazy if it gets really cold. 

 

one thing i discovered in my 30s from my friends is - you cannot escape aging. i was under the impression if you ate well and exercised you'd be riding a bicycle at 95 and lead a healthy life till you drop or the last year of your life. 

 

that was true of my gparents generation. not my parents or mine. yes they may be really healthy and thin, BUT genetics/heredity like arthiritis gets them. 

 

however too what i have found is the cultural difference towards pain and symptoms of any kind in general. and i find this within myself. i come from the east where one tolerates certain things. like pain or a cut. unless its extreme pain, low pain i ignore. you dont even talk about it. you go to the doctor to make sure it doesnt get worse, to check it out - but not necessarily to stop the pain. 

 

I agree about cultural differences when it comes to how we view pain and discomfort.  It is fascinating.  I have always hoped I will be a healthy active senior who keels over and dies suddenly but hey, this is just one of the many things we won't have control on so I just have to wait and see what the luck of the draw is for me.  

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All y'all are welcome over at the "Old Mamas" group. Not too hopping a spot right now, but maybe with some new folks joining, it will pick up! thumb.gif
 

 

I suppose we could come over and have a peek!  We are after all Mamas and now OLD.  

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hmmmm "Old mama's group" <shudder>

 

LOL

post #26 of 40

I'm with you on the knee pain. Never had it until I turned 40. It's not severe at all...in fact I hardly notice it unless I'm stretching in a particular way. But it does give me pause...if I'm having pain now, what about in 10 years? 20 years? 40 years?

 

The time when I feel "oldest" is when I've been playing on the floor with DD and now I have to get up. It's just not a fluid, easy thing anymore. I feel like I'm kind of hauling myself up, and every time I think, "this is how an old woman gets up off the floor." *Sigh*

 

Part of me does think that if I could just get 8 hours of sleep a night, it would be like the fountain of youth, because I feel SO MUCH better when I get that much sleep (which unfortunately is rarely!).

post #27 of 40
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I'm with you on the knee pain. Never had it until I turned 40. It's not severe at all...in fact I hardly notice it unless I'm stretching in a particular way. But it does give me pause...if I'm having pain now, what about in 10 years? 20 years? 40 years?

 

Mine is pretty bad, and I wonder about this, too. At least I won't be chasing little ones, anymore.

 

 

The time when I feel "oldest" is when I've been playing on the floor with DD and now I have to get up. It's just not a fluid, easy thing anymore. I feel like I'm kind of hauling myself up, and every time I think, "this is how an old woman gets up off the floor." *Sigh*

 

I've had that exact thought many times.  I've never been super flexible or even slightly athletic...but I did have at least some of the ease of movement associated with youth. It's gone now.  When I was younger, I never thought of the early to mid 40s as old...but i'm starting to.

post #28 of 40
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Those of you guys with knee pain, ugh.  While I am glad I am not the only one, I am sorry you are having to deal with that.  It has been bad these past couple of weeks and I have been feeling down about it.  Trying to rest it as much as possible ... 

 

Joined the Old Mamas group -- looks like it could be a nice place for us girls!  There is not a lot going on there but it could be a good place to get started.... 

post #29 of 40

My knee pain is mostly in my right knee, and seems to be from driving. Then, there are the occasional twinges from my left knee, where I tore my ACL over 20 years ago. It was fine for a long time, but not so much, anymore.

post #30 of 40
CatsCradle, I always enjoy hearing what you have to say. Seriously.

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What happened to your first post, Emaye?  I often feel like the dark horse here.  No one seems to be interested in what I have to say even though I think I have relevant things to say.joy.gif

Anyway, I have on on-set of physical problems lately that bug me a great deal (arthritis and foot problems that didn't bother me in my "younger" years).  It is very depressing because I've always been so active.  Now I'm limping around like some elderly lady!  Anyway, I don't want to talk about it so much because it comes across as complaining.  But just wanted to throw out hugs and let you know that you are not alone!
post #31 of 40

the first time i felt old is when i saw and heard words coming out of dd's mouth but i could not understand their meaning. sounded like alien language but its that tween language. gosh i get such rolling eyes and mo-om do i have to explain EVERYTHING?!!!

post #32 of 40

I turned 48 this summer, and have had a lot of changes going on since I turned 40. I've developed more allergies (taxed adrenals, I'm sure) and can't sleep through the night to save my life. I have a knee injury that bothers me, and sometimes I feel like I get joint inflammation after eating nightshades. I refuse to get bifocal contacts, and finally had to break down and get readers this summer. I actually like them and feel sexy putting them on to read a menu. :) What's helped my knee- chi gung, yoga, and swimming. I wouldn't have surgery unless I really couldn't walk. Just recently I've given up coffee, and alcohol-in hopes that they were disturbing my rhythm and my sleep will improve without them (yet here it is 2 am and I can't sleep...)

post #33 of 40

Okay People, I just joined a gym today and said to the nice person at the gym taking my application:  "Enough of this shite.  To "h" with everyone out there who tells me I'm an old lady."  So anyway, tomorrow morning I'm at the gym at 5:30 am to work out.  To "h" with my 49 years!  That's right.  To "h" with it!

 

 

Not spelling certain words in case there are people who may be offended.  

post #34 of 40

at almost 48 genetics is catching up with me. 

 

that means prediabetes adn prehypertension. 

 

life is just not fair. i have lived a v. healthy life. i should not get these. 

 

but alas genetics is playing its part.

 

i have to watch what i eat. watch my calories and do more physical exercise than i have been doing. 

post #35 of 40
So where does this Old Mamas group hang out and am I old enough? I am almost 39 with 5, 7 and 14 y old boys. I creak, I pop, and my body has declared itself older than I could possibly be! In addition. I work with mostly young children all day, so am off and on the floor all.day.long.in the extreme.
post #36 of 40
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So where does this Old Mamas group hang out and am I old enough? I am almost 39 with 5, 7 and 14 y old boys. I creak, I pop, and my body has declared itself older than I could possibly be! In addition. I work with mostly young children all day, so am off and on the floor all.day.long.in the extreme.

If creaking and popping were enough for membership, I could have been a member at 5 years old! My joints have been noisy as far back as that, for sure. I had gym first period when I was a young teen, and we were doing forward and backward rolls one winter morning. When it was my turn, the gym teacher was alarmed by all the popping! One of the kids said it was like Rice Krispies just after the milk is added.

39. I'm guessing you don't need reading glasses or bifocals, yet. That'll be in a year or two.
post #37 of 40
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Okay People, I just joined a gym today and said to the nice person at the gym taking my application:  "Enough of this shite.  To "h" with everyone out there who tells me I'm an old lady."  So anyway, tomorrow morning I'm at the gym at 5:30 am to work out.  To "h" with my 49 years!  That's right.  To "h" with it!

 

 

Not spelling certain words in case there are people who may be offended.  

 

YAY!  I am working on my knee pain which means having to do really annoying tiny exercises! Hopefully things will get back to normal or something... OR maybe this is the new normal.  We shall see.

 

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at almost 48 genetics is catching up with me. 

 

that means prediabetes adn prehypertension. 

 

life is just not fair. i have lived a v. healthy life. i should not get these. 

 

but alas genetics is playing its part.

 

i have to watch what i eat. watch my calories and do more physical exercise than i have been doing. 

 

 

I KNOW.  It seems we can't really fall too far from the tree when it comes to genetics.  Lots of luck plays into it too but yeah, I also have some pretty scary family history.   I am sure some diseases will make their appearance over the next decade.  

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So where does this Old Mamas group hang out and am I old enough? I am almost 39 with 5, 7 and 14 y old boys. I creak, I pop, and my body has declared itself older than I could possibly be! In addition. I work with mostly young children all day, so am off and on the floor all.day.long.in the extreme.

Well, there is the Old Mama tribe but it doesn't seem to be so active.  And there is here... Hi, welcome smile.gif

post #38 of 40
So I'll get my proper old lady complaining out of the way. I hurt my knees in high school (band-I'm geek! Among other fun things) and the front that blew in has been killing them since Friday. My eyes are ok so far, but I am so far nearsighted that it may take me a bit to notice there's a problem lol and I really do crawl around on the floor a fair bit and the younger girls at work won't tell me it it is supposed to hurt like it does or not!

I also homeschool my youngest (long story) so floor sit with him a lot on weekends, too. And have insomnia (note posting time) since I was awakened and am unable to sleep despite the existing medicine coursing through my system. I wake up early like my grandmother always did and does:) and embarrass myself at how early I can and have gone to bed.
post #39 of 40

oh lord. i am having more and more senior moments. 

 

my 'wires' are not connecting.

 

yesterday i told my helpers to put the peeled oranges in the freezer when i meant fridge. dd understands this and accomodates for this. she actually has finally gotten used to my mistakes and doesnt point everyone out. but i ended up telling dd's friends who are also our neighbors (dd either lives in their house or they in mine so they announce they are the two dd's i never had) that if they doubt what i said to always speak up. half the time though they are falling down laughing (not rude, but really some of the wrong words i use are really funny) and that's a key to know i used the wrong words.

 

i sit in front of the laptop trying to figure out my password. i tell you i feel all the grey cells have left my head and gone to the individual parts of my body. if i try to remember it to write it down, i cant think of it. but if i just put my fingers on the keyword and let my fingers have a go at it, off they go with nary a problem. and out comes the correct password. one that i hadnt used in a couple of months.

 

i blank out more often. i cant find words. and i lose important thoughts very easily. it isnt that i dont remember. its more my access is screwed up so i have trouble getting the results sometimes. it is EMBARRASING during public speaking, but i am just getting the hang of being gracious about it, to be very stylish about passing it off as je ne sais quoi. 

 

i wonder what is the normal for memory loss. 

post #40 of 40

I have noticed hesitation in my speech, but it doesn't seem quite like you describe Meemee. (FTR, I'm 48.) I'm more searching for the right word because my mind is 5 places at once. I don't have it very much when I'm writing, but when I'm talking it pops up more. 

 

Physically, I'm not too bad. My eyes started being less flexible a few years ago. I have a slight astigmatism. I think it's always been there, but when I was younger I could compensate for it fine and it didn't bother my vision at all (20/20). As I got older, though, I was less able to compensate and my far vision acuity decreased slightly to more like 20/40. I don't have to have glasses to drive, but it makes things so much sharper so I'm happy to have them now. My near vision is also becoming less sharp, but I don't have to have readers or bifocals yet. I just can't hold things as close to my face as I used to be able to, but I can still read a book at a comfortable distance (more like 18 inches instead of 12). 

 

I have some arthritic type pain with the weather and this fall I've been having really annoying sinus headaches. I do think some stuff like that, including the brain fog, may be diet related. I get more bloating and gas after eating wheat and I think the sinus issues may be dietary, too. I think my digestive system, like my eyes, is less flexible and less able to compensate and just more sensitive now.

 

I'm trying to get on a regular exercise kick. My DH lost 50 lbs just through exercise and modest dietary changes. He got diagnosed with high blood pressure (which I have had for years, since my early 30s at least) and didn't want to have to take meds, so when his young doctor timidly suggested he could try losing some weight Dh just did it. He's in better shape now than I have ever known him to be. My weight is pretty stable and has been for years, but I could lose a bit.

 

All right, enough complaining! I've got Thanksgiving to make!

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