Dd1 and I are having trouble in the mornings - wake her up for school, say it's time to get dressed. She sits on the bedroom floor staring into space tiredly, changes outfits several times, doesn't leave enough time for proper hygeine routine, and we are often standing out in the hall with our coats, shoes, bags, etc. waiting for her to slip her shoes on. I can't be late for work and it's very aggravating and anxiety provoking to get all rushed out the door, 3 kids to 2 different schools/daycares, and me get to work.
She is extremely strong willed (like her mama ) and doesn't seem motivated or respond with action when I ask her nicely. I try to gain her cooperation, positive discipline/reinforce desired behaviours, but inevitably the only time she moves her tooshie is when I start yelling. And I hate yelling. She hates it too.
When I pick her up from daycare and say it's time to go, she dilly dallys and hangs behind and visits with friends or checks out a couple of toys before coming to get her coat on. It's very frustrating to try to get out the door. She doesn't seem to care that it's difficult for her younger siblings to wait so long. The daycare people always give me looks because while dd1 dilly dallys, the other two are running around. If I grab and hold ds he tantrums.
Any suggestions for dealing with dd1's behaviour?