My 27 month old son is a sweet boy. We practice attachment parenting and dont believe in time outs rather try to acknowledge and correct behaviours. When he does something wrong-like throw or kick (which isnt daily)-we make him say sorry and walk with him or make him pick it up, ect. When he is mad-he sometimes hits or swats at your face. I have realized he does this when he is more tired than anything else, so I try to avoid that trigger. However now when he does and you try to say, "lachlann, that hurt mama", he squints his eyes and wont make eye contact-he knows it bad but wont even look and then tries to get away to bring a toy (yes great manipulation). Should I force the issue of making him say sorry and look at us? What else can I do to get him to make eye contact and not try to dodge us. Typical Gemini behaviour I might add. Thanks!
gentle discipline suggestions needed
I generally do the opposite with hitting issues. Instead of trying to engage her, I put her right down, say something like "You may not hit me, even if you're mad" and walk away disinterestedly. I've never done much with "hurt" because I feel like it's not terribly meaningful to my daughter. It's like saying not to do something because it makes a mess, or because we'll be late for something. She understand that that's why, but she doesn't understand why those things are bad. Losing my attention for a moment - THAT she understands. And it's a natural consequence, since nobody wants to hang out with someone who might hit them.