I was really hoping I would be back to give you all an awesome update, especially after all the words of encouragement. But, it seems I needed those words to continue my fight, not to pave the way to an easy resolution.
I didn't mention in my original post, when I first informed my Supervisor that I was pregnant (way back in September) that she had suggested I work in the Control post.
[If anyone has seen jail TV shows, Control is like the Traffic Control Centre at an airport - over 400 camera, radios, telephones, and a few 50+" computer/TV screens of all areas of the jail. Plus, every time someone needs to get through a door, they push a button, and that needs to be answered by Control. So, kinda a busy place. So busy in fact, that they have their own policy that no one person is supposed to do more than 4 hours in there without having 4 hours off (doing something else within the jail) before going back in.]
So when my supervisor suggested this, I said that there was no way that post would be good for my blood pressure and thought that we should look for something else. She said she might need a doctor's note saying something to that effect, but that she'd speak to the warden. It didn't appear to be a big deal, and it seemed she understood. I mean, historically, they've tried putting every pregnant staff member in there and no one has made it more than a week before getting a doctor's note to get out, so it's not like I'm the first one to say that it didn't seem like a good fit for my "condition."
That said, after the union forwarded my doctor's note to mgmt, they replied last week saying that they would accommodate me in Control. I emailed the union, freaking out, saying that that was the worse thing ever. To put it in perspective, I was offered that post in September and chose to remain where I was (at risk of assault) than work in a high stress environment like that. I ended up having a nightmare that night (about having a meeting regarding my accommodation and having to convince everyone in the room that it would be too much for me.)
Disability Mgmt was cc'd on the email chain, and said that they would only step in if needed, and it didn't seem like they were needed anymore. Thankfully, the union emailed them back (without cc'ing everyone else, and explained that this was such a high stress position that "normal" people couldn't work in there for more than 4 hours!)
I went to the doctor yesterday, had a breakdown the second she asked about work (I guess I brought it up, I told her I had been in to see another doctor because I needed a note for work.) I think she thought I was exaggerating a bit, but when I couldn't stop crying and my blood pressure was over 160 / 100, she became quite concerned and said that I couldn't remain at that level. She wrote me a note saying I was to remain in "low stress" positions for the duration of my pregnancy. I got the union to forward this to my supervisors.
So my supervisor replies saying: we'll have to talk with her doctor to see what she defines as low stress. <snort> She knows DAMN WELL that Control ISN'T low stress. She's just being difficult and I'm finding it very hard not to take it personally. I want to punch her in her face. If this baby is a girl, I'm NOT naming her Clara, that's for damn sure (not that that name was even being considered, but I'm just sayin'.)
So now I believe Disability Mgmt HAS to get involved, since the employer and the employee were unable to reach an agreement. (Due to the employer not being able to see past their ass.)
A small light during all this. My supervisor had emailed me at my work account about my new accommodation in Control (an email I didn't get as I'm on vacation - which she knows!) The union lady asked if I'd spoken to her, and I said no, and she was quite surprised because she's claiming we've spoken. Then she checked her emails and saw that she'd used my work account. So in the last email she sent, with my new and improved doctor's note, she first scolded her for not contacting me directly, as I haven't been at work to check my email! And a lot of people were cc'd on it. She looked kinda dumb. ha. ha.
So, no resolution yet. I'm not budging on this. But it's incredibly stressful. Every time I think about it, I tear up. It's simply not a respectful way to treat a person, pregnant or not.
So I meet with my midwife on Friday. She knows NOTHING of this, our last appointment was 3 days after my assault, so I still thought I'd be happily riding a desk by now. I think I'll just copy and paste my posts from here and email to her. I'm not sure if I want to start from the beginning of this story (nor do I think I'll be able to get very far without crying and I'm so f&cking tired of crying over this.)
The thing is, instead of all these doctor's notes I've been getting (and I'm sure I'll need more) I'd rather get midwife notes, but they're not recognized up here, or licensed, or anything, so they probably won't be accepted. But she's my primary health care worker for this pregnancy and part of me wants to drag midwife rights into this whole thing, too. I mean, I can get a note from her, have it rejected, and then go to the doctor. Just to prove a point. (I can be stubborn like that.) I think I have a small reserve of energy left for that... Because it pisses me off the Yukon doesn't believe in midwives....
Thank you to all of you who have been following my saga - the comments are so thoughtful and so uplifting, they continue to give me energy to fight this.
Oh yeah, my dad left this AM and we had a great time!!! We accomplished a lot, plus it was just great hanging out.