Yes. I suppose that whether you view it as bad or not depends on your expectations for your life. My mom got pregnant at 17, and it took her almost 15 years to finish college because she was working so much and trying to make life work as a single mom. She regrets that deeply. So do I. My mom is brilliant and would have had a very different life if she hadn't gotten pregnant. I did not have a stable or happy childhood because of the resentment and the fact that I just got in the way of her ambitions. If you don't have the desire to go to college or have a career, then you get a job and continue on your way in the same way that you would have otherwise (with the added expenses of parenting). I suppose that could be seen as less damaging in the long run. My mom was fanatical with me and my sister about sex and how much it could ruin our lives if we got pregnant (although I think she happily would have paid for either of us to get abortions). My sister and I are very different. She's conservative and religious. I'm progressive and very political. We both adhered to my mom's admonitions in different ways (her: abstinence; me: a zero tolerance policy on not using birth control). I don't want to use fear tactics with my children and want them to foster a healthier sexuality than I had in my early 20s, but I do want them to understand that having a baby changes the trajectory of your life. It's not a joke or fun or a small obstacle.
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