Thatnewgirl... welcome! Thank you for offering us your side of the adoption experience :)
Patti... I am so sorry your adoption experience was so awful. It must feel like a slap in the face to have someone your trusting with pretty much the most important thing in your life lie to you and trick you :(
I am a somewhat adopted adult (raised by family but did not know my birthmother or her side of the family until I was a late teen) and I am an adoptive mom of two, one open and one closed, both based on the birthmothers wishes. In our open adoption I love knowing my childs birthmother and feel like I can understand my child so much better because of it. I wish I could know my other childs birthmother, and often wonder and think about her. Its sad, because the parents who adopted your child are really missing so much by not knowing you.
Thankfully your daughter will be old enough soon to make her own decisions about knowing you and her siblings, and I am sure she will be really upset with her adoptive parents when she finds out how things went. It would be one thing if no contact was mutually agreed upon, but instead it sounds like they told you what you wanted to hear and then just disappeared. I just don't get how they could live with themselves and feel good about raising a child under those circumstances.