Weekly Chat October 22-28 - Page 5 « Back to Group Discussions

[MIrandaM]

So last night I was feeling tired and frumpy and sorry for myself so while I was walking the crying baby around the block I made this big list of things I wanted to do to start feeling more like myself again . . . and this morning I made a point of getting up early, taking a bath, drying & straightening my hair, put on some make-up and a dug through my closet to pull together a cute outfit, all while managing the baby, and I was feeling pretty good! Walked out of the house to go out to breakfast with DH and promptly crashed down the last few steps and sprained my ankle! Baby was in the Ergo and was completely fine, he didn't cry until I took him out of the Ergo and handed him off so that I could see how badly I was hurt.  Now I'm in bed with an xl super swollen foot and an ice pack, so much for my big comeback!! I'm settling under the covers (it's snowing outside!) nursing the baby and about to start a Downton Abbey marathon, so life's not too bad :)

So happy about all of the wrap instructions going around and thoroughly enjoying the confessions!! 

[BRC_MacKenzie]

@MirandaM - Oh no! It's awesome that you took some actions to feel better but I'm so sorry it didn't quite end up working out. But Dowton Abbey always did wonders for my soul so I think you have a good plan B going on. 

[MamanFrancaise]

Sorry about the foot, Miranda! Ugh!

To feel normal, I also make a point to do things while managing the baby. I prefer to do all the chores while baby is awake so that I can rest when he's sleeping. So the other day, "we" organized the tupperware cupboard and chopped vegetables in advance  for supper that evening. We also vacuum (which he LOVES) and do laundry. I think he likes the fast pace and change of scenery. He gets tired and we cuddle and nurse, then he sleeps for a few hours. Lather, rinse repeat. 

Although, if I'm lucky enough to brush my hair and teeth, I consider myself dressed up. LOL

[MadiMamacita]

Judy- yellow poop bathwater! aghhhhh!

moby- i'm wrapping like this: http://www.mobywrap.com/t-instructions-NewBorn.aspx (newborn hug hold)
or like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-VHUEM6K0Q (front wrap cross)

[Faliciagayle]

many things to say but quickly wanted to say to Moto and Teegan and whoever else may wonder - but an empty breast = faster milk production.  It's not the norm to feel engorged for the entirety of your nursing relationship.  Supply evens out and you'll feel less full.

Kellymom has an AWESOME description.  Love the Red and Green light graphics:)  http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/milkproduction/

back to battening down the hatches for hurricane sandy.

[Princessjules]

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Moto - We don't have a cosco near us... I wish we did!!! The closest thing we have to a Cosco is a Sam's Club which I get a lot of our produce from. I haven't ever seen coconut oil there ... I also love the SHit Crunchy Moms Say video on youtube! Hilarious!!

To feel normal - I am so buying pajama jeans so I can look dressed while at home but still be comfy... I have also thought about getting up early and making sure I take a shower and stuff, but I will wait untill we all get over this sickness. I haven't been wearing makeup much at all and am actually geting used to the way I look without it so I actually like that.. I just hate this pp sweat.. I can't stand my own BO smell, so gross!

AP Friends - Seriously, the only support for AP we have around us are my parents and somewhat my in-laws.. It's ridiculous, it's so instinctual to me and I hate having to listen to other moms talk about letting their 6 week olds CIO!! I know that every family is different and different things work for different parents but when people insist on leting tiny babies CIO and then complain about not feeling like a good mom or insist on scheduled feedings and then complain that their baby cries all the time, it just makes no sense to me.. FOllow your instincts not some book darn it!! I really try not to judge , not that it is apparent by this post but those are my two hot buttons

Since we are really the only AP family in our community this forum has really kept me out of some crazy PPD.. Thanks mamas!

[hyde]

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Miranda, that's awful! Leg/ankle/foot injuries are the worst. :(

Judy, I know that one all too well.. the bathtub was our go-to in the ~1.5 weeks where R. was having a rough time figuring out how pooping worked. I'm guessing the experience is a bit different when you're expecting it, though!

[MotoMom]

Miranda - Sorry about the spill! I hope it's not too serious. I think my stair incident traumatized me but probably in a good way. I'm constantly picturing myself pulling some awful clutzy move and damaging my son. It makes me super careful.

The best laid plans... - I haven't blow-dried my hair in months. DH digs the wild hair - or so he claims - so I'm rocking it. I've entertained the idea of busting out the blow dryer several times but never got any further than that. Plus it's easier to hide the spit up Hank has recently decided I should use in place of hair gel. Hank has actually puked right into my hair and I just dabbed it dry and went about my day. Okay, more than once. That's the biggest thing I've discovered in this whole transition into motherhood: just go with it, man. The only thing you can control in this life is how you choose to react to it. Even if it means using puke as a hair product. Or poo as bathwater? Yeah, okay. Too far. 

Thanks for the link, Falicia. Boobs are awesome!! What a cool function.

So last night the house was too cold and when Hank woke up hungry around 4, I just pulled him into bed with me to nurse and fall back asleep. Usually I don't do that unless it's only another hour or so before we get up for the day because I really can't sleep with him in the bed with me. I think I'm just really paranoid about bed-sharing. So tired me is walking down the hallway, thinking DH is outside and as I walk past the garage, I see him out of the corner of my eye just standing still in the doorway facing me in a totally creepy way. (DH is a huge man, btw). I gasped and reared back and assumed some bizarre ninja pose like I was going to karate-chop him in the neck. Completely involuntary. And hilarious. Don't mess with tired mamas. Apparently we possess secret ninja skillz. 

[MadiMamacita]

Originally Posted by MotoMom 

Hank has actually puked right into my hair and I just dabbed it dry and went about my day.

bad ass!

my older DS once puked RIGHT IN MY MOUTH. and I was consoled by the fact that it was "just breastmilk spit up"

[AnyaRose]

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Originally Posted by MotoMom 

Hank has actually puked right into my hair and I just dabbed it dry and went about my day. Okay, more than once. That's the biggest thing I've discovered in this whole transition into motherhood: just go with it, man. The only thing you can control in this life is how you choose to react to it. Even if it means using puke as a hair product. Or poo as bathwater? Yeah, okay. Too far. 

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Originally Posted by MadiMamacita 

bad ass!
my older DS once puked RIGHT IN MY MOUTH. and I was consoled by the fact that it was "just breastmilk spit up"

hahaha to all of this. You two are hilarious. 

[nukuspot]

Oh yeah. DD1 puked in my mouth once too. She only spit up about 5 times ever, but those times were amazingly memorable.

[Jend1002]

I am one handing this on my phone do can't quote or even remember who said what but there are some funny little stories here- love it!

I know it was falicia that posted the kellymom link- how much do I love that site?!

So I gave DS a bottle yesterday and he was less than thrilled but took it ok. I want to get back to the gym and while I plan on nursing him before, I want DH to have milk on hand if this guy gets hungry. I also am starting to get terribly upset that I have only 6 weeks left of leave. I can't imagine going back to work and leaving my little man. I did the same with DS1 and it truly sucks but we both have to work. He will eventually go to daycare but I get some comfort in knowing he will be with family for a little while first. My happy 4 year old (who has an incredible bond with me) reminds me that it will be ok.!

[Princessjules]

Originally Posted by Jend1002 
So I gave DS a bottle yesterday and he was less than thrilled but took it ok. I want to get back to the gym and while I plan on nursing him before, I want DH to have milk on hand if this guy gets hungry. I also am starting to get terribly upset that I have only 6 weeks left of leave. I can't imagine going back to work and leaving my little man. I did the same with DS1 and it truly sucks but we both have to work. He will eventually go to daycare but I get some comfort in knowing he will be with family for a little while first. My happy 4 year old (who has an incredible bond with me) reminds me that it will be ok.!

How sweet!

Miranda - Is your ankle feeling better? I'm so jealous of your snow! We had a frost this morning but nothing really exciting... and it is supposed to get up in the 80's by Wednesday, gotta love the Ozarks!

Carlin - Are you guys feeling any better? I am on the mend over but DH and DS1 still aren't feeling well... DS2 still has thus far escaped *knock on wood*

Poop and Puke mishaps - So far nothing nearly as exciting as poo water or puke in the mouth (pretty sure I would freak out!) but I'm not really complaining about it lol

[Worldshakerz]

I just joined the facebook group and added all of you also. I will still be hanging around here too though, since I definitely want to stay in touch with those who aren't on facebook as well!

Benji just got through his 6 week growth spurt. It was super tiring for me. I haven't been at the computer much because it hurts to be sitting and typing - my neck/shoulder is killing me! It's been sore and stiff for about 4 days now. My sweet DH has massaged my shoulder nightly, which helps it feel so much better. But then I wake up and its more stiff/painful again. If its not better in a few days I'm heading to the chiropractor. 

So I got the parts I needed for my breast pump. I pumped for about 5 minutes today and got 1 1/2 ounces - then Benji woke up. So I put what I pumped into a bottle (Born Free) and DH was cutting raw meat up so I had 9yr DS feed the bottle to baby. He took it with absolutely no fuss! I definitely felt a tiny twinge of sadness but mostly I'm happy he is okay with a bottle for occasional times that it may be needed. My DS1 and DD hated bottles - DD would take one but with a lot of fussing. I think I waited too long with DS1 so he wouldn't take it at all. Benji took it happily, and what I was happy to find is that after he was done he wanted mommy and latched right on as usual 

Today is a laid back Sunday. I do think baby is done with the 6 week growth spurt and now he is napping a whole lot, both yesterday and today. He's napping now, DH is off work and just relaxing and playing guitar. We've got a nice roast in the crock pot for dinner. 

My confession for the day is that I slept in and let my older kids feed themselves this morning - they had hot dogs and potato chips for breakfast. :P Then DS1 made coffee for my husband and I. We are now having breakfast for lunch: sausage and eggs. Overall we've been having much healthier food days, especially since DH is on board with paleo now. But there are days like the last few where we have a growth spurt happening and a sore shoulder and a DH working overtime so I don't beat myself up for off days. 

Judybean, that picture of your daughter's art work made me giggle. That is exactly what DD used to do all the time. Every wall was written on in our old apartment, as well as many of my books and my journal has a few of her drawings/messages in them too. Finally at age 7 she mostly keeps her drawings on paper :)

[hyde]

The stories are hilarious this week! Comic relief is great.

I've got basically 2.5 days left with my MIL here. So we've (almost) survived it, but the whole thing was not great for my relationship with my husband. It'll be in the past soon enough, but I just feel so let down by how he's been. I wanted to see him in action as the family man, integrating his mom's and brother's visits with the life we have here. When we go visit his family, we have to follow their way of doing things (always in big groups, weird hours, long days- stuff that goes completely against my nature).. turns out that for the most part, that applies when they come here too. He was a family man, alright- just not so much of our family of three. I've spent the week babysitting his mom while he's at work and not seeing much of him in the evenings since he wants to talk to her when he is home. He went out sightseeing and shopping with his mom yesterday, which is great during the day, but they got back at 9pm. This happened last weekend too. No thought of, oh hey, I know the evening hours are the most challenging and she's been doing solo childcare duty, let me maybe truncate some of my plans since we left the house four hours later than planned.. For him, because "it's temporary", it shouldn't be a big deal. And that's his honest belief. :\ Not always the most perceptive.

With a baby in the mix, this has me thinking very seriously about what needs to be set up for a trip we're planning to see his extended fam in Februaryish. Starting with- a week is the absolute maximum I'll go for. And staying in a hotel is unheard of, basically offensive, but if I can't take care of my daughter the way I need to while we're staying with his folks, he needs to be on notice that we (or I) will take the baby and check into one. I feel for him that he doesn't get to see his family much, but I hate how imaginary my needs seem when we do see them. Our differences are normally fine, but they are so magnified when there are more of him- my way of being and doing things is just that much less understandable. And the lack of understanding creates a vicious circle- the lack of independence and alone time means I enjoy myself less and am less enjoyable, that limits the quality of my interaction with everybody.. Argh. But okay, enough of that.

Thinking of you all in solidarity during our nightly grunty baby time!

[Princessjules]

Hyde - I'm so sorry you're dealing with that... At least the visit is almost over. Maybe after your MIL goes home your DH will be a little more perceptive, I know that doesn't help much  now though... I know family dynamics are important to work around but I don't think it should be out of the question to stay at a hotel if the adult's schedule is not baby friendly for naps and nighttime etc. I hope you and your DH can figure out a good way to balance your extended family and your immediate family's needs. Hopefully he realizes which is most important and needs him the most!

Ugh that nighttime grunting! I should go to bed early so it doesn't affect me as negatively... but it's almost 10 pm here now... not so early I guess

[Worldshakerz]

Hyde, I'd be doing the hotel too...that seems like a good solution. It's hard when our significant other doesn't get it. My husband is super smart about many things...but some things that seem so basic he just doesn't really realize on his own. I'm glad your DH is mostly understand and I hope he comes around on this for you!

[AnyaRose]

Just took the job in NYC and booked my flight there with Nico. (: It'll be his first travelling experience. I'm kind of proud to start him early. ^^ He'll be 6 weeks when we go (Nov 10th). Are any of you mamas in New york? 

Hope everyone in Sandy's way is doing okay!!!

Also... Nico's 4 weeks and he's been nursing all day. Like, everytime I take out my boob he attacks it. even if he JUST nursed. I have a feeling tonight is going to be a doozy... lol... 

Edited by AnyaRose - 10/29/12 at 8:09pm

[Princessjules]

Yay Alison! David has been having a growth spurt also , I suspect but he has also been congested so that may also be the culprit... anyway, I hope you had a good night!