I am a single mom who is expecting my first grandson in a little over a month and really am excited to meet him! My daughter has been in a relationship with dad for over two years. They are both seniors in high school - my daughter is highly career motivated and has set goals and taking prerequisites to apply for two year vet program at the local community college and plans to move to university once completed to go for her Phd. Her boyfriend lacks self confidence in even going out to look for a job unless his mother is holding his hand - don't get me wrong he's a nice young guy. I have been a very supportive mom and have tried very hard to make this pregancy as special as I can for them and have encouraged counceling, child development classes, birthing classes, etc. which they have done very willingly. I've even swapped bedrooms with her so that it will accommodate the extra baby furniture...turned her old bedroom into a multipurpose room to get ready in the morning, tv watching, play music or they can visit with baby together - I am sleeping on our living room couch...needless to say, I've made a few sacrifices and I'm not complaining they were my suggestions.
So to get to my point - at the beginning of the pregancy, I mentioned that we could probably work out that daddy could spend a saturday night in the extra room to spend more time with baby and be able to help out if needed since he goes to church with us on sundays....my daughter seems to think that I should accommodate him staying over 3 or more days a week because the baby and dad needs bonding time and he should see what all she is dealing with...she will be breastfeeding and it sounds like she doesn't want to pump right away - I say what's the point if he can visit for a few hours in the afternoon/early evening?
Help...Your input is great appreciated in How other parents of teen moms handle visitations in their home????