Hey everyone! This is something I've been thinking a lot about in the 3 weeks since I found out I'm having a girl. How do I raise a smart, informed, strong, independent daughter? My childhood wasn't awesome, but it could certainly have been worse. One thing I really appreciate from my mom, though, is that she always taught us to be independent (sometimes a little more forcefully than was probably appropriate...). My parents split up when I was pretty young and my mom did the whole "working several jobs to support us" thing. So, from her, I learned to be self reliant. I did not, however, learn how to function very well as a member of a family (I love my sibling, but I'm pretty sure it's not a coincidence that we all live in completely different parts of the country from the rest of our family- and each other.) My DH, on the other hand, grew up in a totally different environment. His mom was a stay at home mom who left the heavy lifting and home repair to her firefighter husband (my DH's father). My big concern is how our two completely different (both totally good and bad in their own ways) upbringings will inform how we raise our daughter. How do I teach her the independence I learned from my mom while still letting her know that she doesn't need to be afraid to ask for help? How does my DH teach her the importance of family while still teaching her to be her own person? I guess these are just things we have to figure out for ourselves! We'll just go into it knowing our end goal is a strong, well adjusted woman- and we'll figure the rest out along the way
Anyways, I just thought other people might be struggling with this as well (whether you're having a boy or a girl!) and thought I'd bring it up.