My parenting style comes from my upbringing...my parents did not do much in the way of helping me. For example, if I were to forget lunch or an important assignment at home, they would not have brought it to me to school. Not even once. If ever I wanted to do anything afterschool(like tryouts for cheerleading or whatever), I always had to find a ride home, or I couldn't do it. I try to be helpful and accomodating, but not to the point of pandering. My kids rarely forget anything important at home and it's like once/twice in a whole year they call home to ask me to bring something. I happily pick them up late if they need to stay late, or take them to the football games if they aren't already riding with a friend, things like that. Alot of times their friends ride with me. I try to be *that* parent where the friends hang out. My friends didn't like being at my house growing up, but my kids' friends like hanging around.
Ok...an issue has come up. My oldest is a senior, and working on her senior project. In 2 days, she is supposed to have a paper turned in, filled out by the person who is going to mentor her, saying they agree to do this. She is wanting to do her time at the animal shelter, which is over 30 minutes away. Weeks ago, she was given the deadline for this. Every time she has brought it up, I remind her to call the shelter and talk to someone before driving there. I have reminded her to do this several times, I'd say weekly. So she has not called yet, and this morning before drop off, let me know she has to have thsi done in 2 days and that she's been reminding me over and over and is just waiting on me!! I reminded her how I have told her she needs to call the place first. I feel she should have called and gotten this worked out. I always have told her to do her part and I am happy to take her where she needs to go. She doesn't have her liscense, so can't drive herself. I am feeling doubts about myself, am I being mean or unreasonable? What would you do differently? Is it unreasonable to call the shelter first and make sure there is someone to mentor first before driving all the way there?