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[AnnaBarr]

Hi, I'm new here.

I'm a mama of two, 11 and 8.  Their pregnancies went so smoothly, I loved being pregnant, at least after the nausea subsided.

This time around has been kind of a disaster.  I had such horrible, dibilitating nausea and vomiting.  I was so looking forward to the second trimester!  I thought it would be smooth sailing!  How wrong I was.

Right at 20 weeks I started having some serious contractions, and some very light spotting.  They were off and on for a day, and then the next day was even worse.  I tried to just rest and destress.  The third day I my home birth midwife checked me and found my cervix slightly dilated (>1 cm) and effaced.  I started modified bed rest, I had already been on pelvic rest since the ctx started.  

The next day I had 18 ctx in an hour, so I went in to the CNM I see for co-care.  They were of little help, and said to stay on modified bed rest for at least the day, probably the weekend, and see how it goes.  I saw them again a few days later and felt like they were throwing up their hands and saying "go miscarry your baby somewhere else".

 Well, it hasn't gone well.  I'm going on week three of ctx, I have them everytime I get up to pee, shower, do the stairs.  If I realy rest and relax I can usually get them to stop within ten minutes.  I've only had spotting twice, which is encouraging.  But my cervix is now dilated to 1 cm, and effaced to about 60%.  

I'm 22 weeks.  No one knows why this is happening, they've rules out all the usual causes.  It is obviously far worse under stress, but that alone can't be the issue.  I'm seeing a Perientologiest tomorrow, so hopfully he has some answers.  I know there is little they can or are willing to do until viability, but I just want to be taken seriously and talk about options.  I don't even have Dr.'s orders for bed rest, just a "as long as it's helping, keep doing it" with no perameters other than to rest and no sex or orgasms.

 I'm just real frustrated.  Thanks for listening, I hope my ramblings have made some sense.

 

 

[odinsmama]

So sorry you're not getting the support you need from your CNM.
Did you read the thread I posted in your intro thread? There are some suggestions in there that seemed to help many.
Hope the new doc has some better options and encouragement for you!

[AnnaBarr]

I did, thanks.  Actually that thread popped up for me last week when I did a google search regarding something along the lines of preterm labor.  I found it very helpful, and comforting to hear that other mamas have gone through this too.  Its nice to know you're not alone.

[odinsmama]

How are you doing?

How did your appointment go?

[AnnaBarr]

Thanks for asking.  The appointment was pretty unproductive, lots of "let's wait and see" and "keep doing what you're doing".  The situation over all has gotten better, so it seems like bed rest is actually working, which is really encouraging.  Lots fewer ctx!  I have another appointment tomorrow, and I will be the magical 24 weeks, so maybe we'll be able to get a better idea of what's going on, or at least some idea of what to do.  But I won't hold my breath.