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Prodromal perhaps??

post #1 of 15
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I'm barely coping today.  Serious lower back pain, contractions every time I move, moodiness, nausea, frequent bowel movements.  Increased discharge but no mucus plug or show.  The contractions are definitely more than bh but I know they are not true labor.  We were supposed to go to a pumpkin patch this morning but after feeling like this all yesterday evening, I cancelled.  I thought things would ease off and I would have at least a few hours of continuous "normalness," but it's not letting up.  I haven't timed anything.  Thankfully ds is taking a second nap right now, a rarity, but necessary since he's barely been sleeping at night.  I'm wondering if maybe I would be in labor if I wasn't feeling hung up by something, the state of the house, worries about ds and support after birth, absence of newborn diaperseyesroll.gif

Or maybe she's not in a good position.  Mw said that she was posterior, but she feels to me like she is sideways, facing my right side.  I don't know what to do.  Not feeling ready, but not feeling like I want this ickiness to go on any longer.

 

Any tips on getting things right?  I feel stuck, like I'm too uncomfortable to do any prep but too unprepared too do any laboring.  My head is spinning. Yuck.  

 

I was thinking of maybe having my in-laws take ds for the weekend so I could have a little space to breathe, but I also don't know if that would be good for him.  I think I'm feeling really anxious about how he and I both are going to react to the change in our relationship. Ack!  Need to breathe.  Maybe I should ask my mom to come in to town this weekend.  

post #2 of 15

tekzec, I posted a reply to you on another thread earlier, but somehow it got lost in cyber-space (or my pregnancy brain has caused me to forget to hit the 'post a reply' button).

 

I am right there with you! since two days back pain and pain in the groin and today actually noticable contractions. I just discovered some bleeding too... I am so not ready - like you said: too uncomfy to prep and too unprepared to labor.

 

But, hey, this could be it, right? So lets make the best of it:)

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Yes! I'm on my way to making the best of it wink1.gif Feeling much better mentally, though not physically, now that dh is home. Talked to my in laws, and they will come over tomorrow to hang out with ds. And Friday they will take him to their house to spend the night so I can spend Saturday getting some mental space and directing dh on the things that need to get done in the physical space. I feel better just having made the decision to have a little break from ds. Still a bit guilty because I think it will be tough on all of them at night and for nap, but I know it needs to be done and a night of sleep and some time with dh will really make things better.
Hope you get where you want to be soon, franjapany! This part is hard!
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I'm here too. These contractions started Sunday afternoon and have been pretty much constant (with varying degrees of intensity) since. They do get worse in the evening and overnight. I had my 36 week appt today and I asked them to check me, I'm 1cm and 50% effaced. Def not just Braxton Hicks anymore!

 

Sucks though, because these HURT and this could technically go on for a few more weeks. So not looking forward to that!

post #5 of 15

I think getting your mom to come into town sounds like a great idea if you can swing it. I know when I labored with DD3 at home I REALLY wanted to be alone. Having two kids climbing on me was less than ideal, but I knew I'd be gone for a few days so I didn't want to send them to MIL's until I was ready to leave.

 

I have been having ctx very similar to what you ladies describe, stronger than BH, but not labor, on and off for the last 6 weeks. Pretty sure they've been due to sickness. Today I had two true labor pains which worry me a little, but eh, what can you do. The kid will come when they are ready whether you are or not :p

 

In the end there's very little we really NEED. A couple of outfits so babe isn't naked and diapers. We all want the house in perfect shape so we stress less when we get home, but it's not a need. Don't stress about all that's not done. Long as you've got those two things, you're ready!

 

Edited to add: I was always told if they only happen when you move then they aren't REAL ctx. A real ctx won't come and go depending on your position or what you're doing. That's what I've been told and I guess I kind of agree with that, but I know staying still always helped mine not hurt as bad :p

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Kinda in the same boat here too. greensad.gif I have SO, SO much left to do. I am having a homebirth and I literally do not have a birth space set up, *zero* newborn stuff prepped, and my birth kit is about 30% lacking, we barely have food in the house and are just about out of toilet paper. I need to do a major grocery/toiletry shopping trip AND put my house together.

 

DH and our friend are working right now to get some major projects done (shelves cut for closets and pantries, flooring installed in two bedrooms and the bathroom floor/sink replaced). I know that stuff may not sound like a "need", but if you saw the state of chaos at my (being remodeled) house right now you would understand that getting this stuff done is the *bare* minimum that needs to happen to be able to have a birth space at this point. uhoh3.gif

 

Anyways, I have had some really convincing ctx all day, including some pretty heavy mucous. For me that is *scary* because it means labor is coming SOON! I am NOT ready to have this baby, house-wise or emotionally. I am begging for baby to stay in until next week. praying.gif

 

The kids are driving me bat-crap crazy too. banghead.gif

 

Hopefully if all us mamas can get some mental space and physical space, us and our babies will be in the best all around space for labor and birth! grouphug.gif

post #7 of 15

Thyme - is there any chance you can claim a room and tell them either A get this room finished now or B this room is off limits until further notice?

 

I hear you on the remodeling :( I told DH and my dad that it was outside projects only after September. My bathrooms are undone, but at least they put a big piece of plywood over the hole in the wall in the master. We moved in February. This place sat vacant for about 5 years before we bought it so our entire year this place has been in chaos, but I told them no more inside projects. It'll have to wait until next year. There's plenty of things to do outside anyway, they just sided the well house and hopefully will fix the guttering next week and fill in the wash outs, etc.... but anyway.

 

I'm not saying that's all you need cause I'm done and gloating. I have one drawer of blankets and about 4 onsies washed. I know where the boxes that have baby toys and outfits are, but they all need to be washed, so that is undone. My crib is full of laundry, the mattress is still in our other car, I think I have a crib sheet washed..... no hospital bag... the car seat has been washed, but not put back together yet, I haven't washed my cloth diapers yet, but my sister gave me a few dozen newborn diapers after her LO grew out of them a couple months ago so I have those. I'm not ready where I would like to be, but stress doesn't help with birth :) Let it go and breathe, the things that HAVE to get done will get done.

 

Thanks for mentioning TP, need to get that while I'm out today and I forgot!

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Originally Posted by OceansEve View Post

Thyme - is there any chance you can claim a room and tell them either A get this room finished now or B this room is off limits until further notice?

 

I hear you on the remodeling :( I told DH and my dad that it was outside projects only after September. My bathrooms are undone, but at least they put a big piece of plywood over the hole in the wall in the master. We moved in February. This place sat vacant for about 5 years before we bought it so our entire year this place has been in chaos, but I told them no more inside projects. It'll have to wait until next year. There's plenty of things to do outside anyway, they just sided the well house and hopefully will fix the guttering next week and fill in the wash outs, etc.... but anyway.

 

I'm not saying that's all you need cause I'm done and gloating. I have one drawer of blankets and about 4 onsies washed. I know where the boxes that have baby toys and outfits are, but they all need to be washed, so that is undone. My crib is full of laundry, the mattress is still in our other car, I think I have a crib sheet washed..... no hospital bag... the car seat has been washed, but not put back together yet, I haven't washed my cloth diapers yet, but my sister gave me a few dozen newborn diapers after her LO grew out of them a couple months ago so I have those. I'm not ready where I would like to be, but stress doesn't help with birth :) Let it go and breathe, the things that HAVE to get done will get done.

 

Thanks for mentioning TP, need to get that while I'm out today and I forgot!

 

You're sweet! I am sorry you are dong the remodel thing while pregnant/having a newborn too. greensad.gif Sounds like your house needs a new everything like ours! eyesroll.gif

 

The guys are going to get some trim up since it's been raining and we need to protect our new denim insulation/siding/sheetrock/flooring. Then they will be laying the bedroom floors. That's all today. YAY! Last night they made all my shelves, so today I will be sanding them and then putting my kitchen, linen closet and kids nursery put together. Finally.

 

My mom is taking off next Wednesday so I can go to my midwife appt kid-free and get all my errands done, except grocery shopping, which will be next Friday. She also is treating me to a massage so that will be absolutely lovely. I can get in a good space. smile.gif It will all come together! upsidedown.gif I am feeling less overwhelmed and more positive today. orngbiggrin.gif

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ThymeMama and Ocean'sEve: We bought our "bank owned, vaccant fot years" house nearly 2 years ago and dang, these places take a lot of work and time! We moved in when DS was 4 months and have been working ever since. I am very much looking forward to this LO's arrival because then we will declare a winter of resting and no big projects. Everything else will have to wait a few months to get done!

 

About the prodromal labor- I've not had it but do get lots of Braxton Hicks and general crampiness, especially if I work too hard. I've been forcing myself to relax and rest more and honestly, it kinda sucks. There's so much to do! I had an awful night of lower back aching and pain this week and it had me wondering if this kiddo was coming. Turned out I probably overdid myself the day before but dang! It's such a weird concept to think this baby could really come any day now!

post #10 of 15

Thyme - I'm glad you are feeling better about it today!!

 

sere - oh yeah, we're going to have our hands full for years :p when we finally get the house done there is a stable that needs to be torn down or burned down (seriously considering this) then there is just mangled fence all over where the guy had 20-30 horses penned so I hear eyesroll.gif We need a perimeter fence. My sulcata tortoise is currently living in my second bathroom bathtub because he escaped twice this summer. I need fencing in a bad way....... but I've been unable to do any work between pregnancy exhaustion and my thyroid being defunct this time around. It sucks cause I normally have my hands in the middle of the projects too, but this time I just can't do it.

post #11 of 15
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All you remodelers and recent movers are in my thoughts.  I can't imagine dealing with the chaos.  Though my house is a wreck right now just because I can't seem to get any cleaning done, I feel so crappy.  I know that nothing really NEEDS to be done, but just cannot turn the brain off.  The restless feeling is so not fun.  All day today I've been just nauseous and feeling flu-like.  I know that can be a sign of impending labor, a way for your body to force you to rest up before the hard work, right?  But it's tough with ds.  And then there's the possibility that I am actually just sick...

 

I packed him up and sent him home with the in-laws this afternoon.  We'll go pick him up tomorrow evening.  It was really stressful because MIL was here all day ostensibly to help out, but she was taking calls for work at the counter all.day.long.  Ds actually took a long nap, but I couldn't just lay around and unwind because she was yapping on a conference call.  Every time she tried to interact with ds, he ended up crying.  When I was trying to explain his routine, where everything I packed for him was in his bag, the books he liked to read, she was nodding her head while working on a spreadsheet.  When FIL came to pick them up, ds was so happy to see him, and he actually at least pretended to listen to what I was saying, so that made me feel a bit better.  He had a horrible night last night.  Went to bed at 8, woke about 5 times over the course of the night screaming, and was up for good at about 5.  I don't know what they are going to do with him tonight.  I feel awful for sending him off, but I've got to have the space.  A night without screaming might be just the thing dh and I need.  Maybe he'll surprise me and be fine.

post #12 of 15

He will be just fine! He's probably been feeding off your stress, it'll probably do him just as much good to be away :)

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Originally Posted by OceansEve View Post

He will be just fine! He's probably been feeding off your stress, it'll probably do him just as much good to be away :)

 

Agreed! I so hope you get the rest you need tekcez! hug2.gif

 

WARNING: Vent ahead.

I feel like nothing is getting done around here. greensad.gif DH stayed up all night long playing WOW. Cuss.gif I want to freaking KILL him. His friend that is helping us do work around here is totally sympathetic. They have been BFF since they were 6. He said yesterday, "You know, I think your DH has some kind of anti-progress disease." Uh, YES. duh.gif

 

Let me explain. The plan for yesterday was:

 

- Lay the floor in the kids nursery and the birthing room.

 

Here's what got done instead (because this stuff was WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY more important than getting the floor done):

 

- Trim boards put up on one exterior wall

- Router manual was thoroughly read, because we are using the router for exactly ZERO projects right now thumb.gif Hoo-ray.

- Fence repaired

- Talked to the neighbors for an hour or three

 

All the while DH is telling me I better get the house ready to birth because I'm *really* close. banghead.gif  DH is one of those people who you wonder what he does all day. He says he'll be at your house in an hour? We all know that he will take at *least* three to get there. In fact, you're lucky if he shows up at all. Our kids call him the slowest man in the world. They are six and four, the two year old will be on board shortly I'm sure. How sad is that?

 

Funny story: the other day we were all sitting in the car waiting for DH so we could go get dinner. As usual, we had already been in the car 15 minutes, and DH still wasn't out yet. Here is what my 4 yo DS said:

 

DS: "Mom, did you know Dad was the slowest man on earth before you married him?"

 

Me: "Um, yes."

 

DS: (genuinely confused) "Then WHY did you marry him???"

 

Me: (suppressed laughter) "Well, because Daddy has a lot of other really awesome things about him that I love."

 

*sigh* Thanks for listening to my little vent. I am just in a bad space today. Partly because I'm sick and partly because I am so, so stressed. DH is taking a nap right now and I just want to scream at him. hopmad.gif

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Oh I totally hear you! I am constantly asking DH, "WHY!? Why can I get me and three kids dressed, shoed, hair done, in the car and we are still waiting on YOU??"

 

lol We have both sworn to not touch online games until the kids are grown. We are both gamers :p DH often spends the weekend evenings playing xbox till the wee hours. I know he would love to get in on age of conan and I would love to get in on old republic. Growing up sucks sometimes!

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Oh I totally hear you! I am constantly asking DH, "WHY!? Why can I get me and three kids dressed, shoed, hair done, in the car and we are still waiting on YOU??"

 

lol We have both sworn to not touch online games until the kids are grown. We are both gamers :p DH often spends the weekend evenings playing xbox till the wee hours. I know he would love to get in on age of conan and I would love to get in on old republic. Growing up sucks sometimes!

 

shake.gif Eh, you have one of those too? lol.gif They don't wear make-up and my DH does not style his hair, nor does he dress "fancy". Usually his clothing does not even have a zipper or button and he wears Crocs everywhere, so no shoes to tie either. WHAT takes so long???

 

Growing up does indeed suck! I tell my kids that all the time! "Just be a kid! Don't worry about grown-up stuff! Have fun! Play!"

 

I love video games too, but I stopped playing when I was 5 months pregnant with our oldest and I started having wicked video game nightmares. greensad.gif I played WOW for a very short time when I was pg with DS2. It was waaay too much fun! I can't blame DH for essentially being addicted. He has always *destroyed* the rares and glich aspects of RPG's, so WOW is like a dream come true intellectually for him. Figuring out drop percentages, finding the glitches, making mad money in the Auction House. Plus, with him being disabled, a lot of days he doesn't feel good enough to do anything but "rest". He plays WOW with a controller so he can actually lay back and play.

 

Sometimes though, he does take it too far. Last night was one of those times. Argh. irked.gif

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