My husband and I are in the process of adopting the seven-year-old foster daughter of my SIL. She has been living with SIL for 1 1/2 years, and according to the adoption worker I spoke with today, can be in our home as early as March, 2 years from when she was placed in Foster care.
I don't even know what questions I came here to ask, but I wonder if anyone has any advice for me. I'll give you a little background:
She's the youngest of three siblings, with an older brother and sister who do not want to be adopted and are old enough to say no. They will remain in the foster system. Bio-mom and dad are addicts, live in the same city, and she is presently still seeing them weekly. She is deaf, although hears very well with hearing aids. She is very attached to her bio-family, but they are destructive and unhealthy for her.
I guess I'm wondering how to develop attachment while honoring her relationship with her family. She loves us, and we spend a lot of time with her, so I'm not worried about that, but I feel like the attachment is pretty superficial and that she is very peer oriented and needs to develop some roots in our family.
Book ideas? Advice? Words of wisdom? I don't know, I'll take whatever I can get!
Thanks, in advance.