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[timesway]

biggest dream-to start the charity that im planning on starting, and it  be successful, plus to give birth to this healthy happy baby and be a little family :)

if you could go to anywhere in the universe (on earth or further afield) where would it be and why?
 

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by timesway 

if you could go to anywhere in the universe (on earth or further afield) where would it be and why?
 

I would go to heaven, if it's out there, and get some answers to some of life's mysteries and hopefully some enlightenment from those that have come before.

If you could go back in time and do one thing over, fix a major regret, what would it be?  And would you if you could?  Or do you think you'd miss out on some life lesson in doing so?

[timesway]

its hard isnt it.. when i ws with the ex, i mite have said go back and fix the source of our arguments.. thats what he would have me do... but then maybe i'd be in deeper and it wouldve ended worse.. after our child was born.. another thing i wondered is taking back the job i chose when i left home, how hard i worked.. which made me relapse and broke my body.. it put me in a wheelchair.. but then would i be less wise? would i have never made this baby in my tummy? so i dont know if i would after all

What alcohoic beverage will be the first to pass your lips when you are allowed to drink again?! :P
 

[kimble]

definitely beer, since DH and I are beer geeks. Little sips have been passing my lips anyway ... We went to a pumpkin ale festival this weekend, where they had 50 different pumpkin beers on tap. Neither of us like the stereotypical "pumpkin pie" beers made with spices and no pumpkin, but these were some really innovative and out-there ideas like pumpkin stout with chopotle and habenero peppers (would have been great with BBQ) and a nice sour and crisp pumpkin Berliner weiss which was easily my fave. At less than 3% ABV, I had a couple sips of that one. mmmm.

As for my first "allowed" drink, I'm not sure what beer it will be, but it might be the homebrew barleywine DH is making to commemorate our little one's birth. It hasn't been brewed yet, but we're collaborating on the recipie and each choosing half the ingredients (within certain limits so it turns out ok!). We wanted a strong beer so we can age it and bring out a bottle every year until we hand the stash over to the kiddo in the far distant future ... assuming we haven;t consumed it all yet.

As a first time mom, I have a pretty good vision of what is must-have vs nice to have gear for the baby (I don't buy in to the generic babies R us registry advice!) but could use some tips.

What is your most essential piece of baby gear for the first 6 months, and why?
 

[moriahmoonstar]

I'm not a big drinker and right now the smell of alcohol is so repulsive, when dh has a beer he needs to be in another room and brush his teeth afterwards. But when winter comes I do have a soft spot for Hot Toddies with lots of honey, yum, so soothing. Tha'ts what I would have. Or I would want to be on a tropical island with a mango margarita!

Do you want to go on vacation with your little one? How little and where will you go or do you wish you could go?

[CoBabyMaker]

As for my first "allowed" drink, I'm not sure what beer it will be, but it might be the homebrew barleywine DH is making to commemorate our little one's birth. It hasn't been brewed yet, but we're collaborating on the recipie and each choosing half the ingredients (within certain limits so it turns out ok!). We wanted a strong beer so we can age it and bring out a bottle every year until we hand the stash over to the kiddo in the far distant future ... assuming we haven;t consumed it all yet.

Oh I love that idea!  That is so neat!  My brother brews and he keeps trying to talk DH into it.   He made some honey applewine I am hoping to try at New Years.

What is your most essential piece of baby gear for the first 6 months, and why?

A good carrier, hands down.  They just need snuggles and I love the closeness.  I don't like infant carseats for taking them around (outside of the car).  I'm also not good at sharing my babies so if they are in the carrier people can't grab them from me easily.  (I am pretty sure my mom thought I would "get over that" after my first, I haven't.  I still get shocked and excited when people offer to let me hold their babies.)

Ok, I am just going to bump Moriah's question instead of thinking of one.

Do you want to go on vacation with your little one? How little and where will you go or do you wish you could go?

[Quinalla]

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Do you want to go on vacation with your little one? How little and where will you go or do you wish you could go?

I want to go visit DH's parents as travel is difficult to impossible for them because of medical issues, hopefully as early as we can, but it will depend on the kids' temperaments! After that, I want to take all my kids to Disney World, we were thinking about going Fall 2013 if our baby was of a decent temperament as some of my family is going and my DD will be a great age for it, but I'm not traveling by plane or that far by car with twin 6 or so month olds! So maybe wait for all until the twins are at least 3 or 4 or have Grandma babysit the twins and we take DD maybe once the twins are at least 18 months old or so.

What is your favorite way to pamper yourself? Does it change when pregnant?

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

A good carrier, hands down.  They just need snuggles and I love the closeness.  I don't like infant carseats for taking them around (outside of the car).  I'm also not good at sharing my babies so if they are in the carrier people can't grab them from me easily.  (I am pretty sure my mom thought I would "get over that" after my first, I haven't.  I still get shocked and excited when people offer to let me hold their babies.)

Yes!  A good carrier (or two!) hands down!

Originally Posted by Quinalla 


I want to go visit DH's parents as travel is difficult to impossible for them because of medical issues, hopefully as early as we can, but it will depend on the kids' temperaments! After that, I want to take all my kids to Disney World, we were thinking about going Fall 2013 if our baby was of a decent temperament as some of my family is going and my DD will be a great age for it, but I'm not traveling by plane or that far by car with twin 6 or so month olds! So maybe wait for all until the twins are at least 3 or 4 or have Grandma babysit the twins and we take DD maybe once the twins are at least 18 months old or so.
What is your favorite way to pamper yourself? Does it change when pregnant?

 My favorite way to pamper myself is to soak in a nice, hot bath filled with luxurious bubbles while enjoying a good book and a glass of wine.  Dimmed lights and candles of course.  So I do modify a bit during pregnancy, the water isn't as hot and there is no wine.  And, to be honest, I end up in the tub with DS 3 or so times a week and shower at work after the gyme the rest of the time, so I don't actually remember the last time I had a bath to myself!

If you could be anything/do anything for a living, what would it be?  Is that what you do , and if not what is preventing you from doing it?

[Lynann]

Originally Posted by nstewart 

Yes!  A good carrier (or two!) hands down!

If you could be anything/do anything for a living, what would it be?  Is that what you do , and if not what is preventing you from doing it?

I also vote for a good carrier. For me its a wrap carrier for the first 4-6 months then a soft structured carrier after that. I have 2 homemade Moby style wraps and an Ergo.

To answer nstewart's ? I have my dream job as a stay at home mom. Its all I've really ever wanted to do since I was really little, but I didn't get to start until my late 30's, so I'm savoring every precious moment. My other secret ambition is to be a successful novelist, which I may finally get around to finishing my novel when the children are a bit older (its about 75% done right now.)

What made you join the Mothering.com forums rather than more mainstream ones?

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by Lynann 

I also vote for a good carrier. For me its a wrap carrier for the first 4-6 months then a soft structured carrier after that. I have 2 homemade Moby style wraps and an Ergo.

To answer nstewart's ? I have my dream job as a stay at home mom. Its all I've really ever wanted to do since I was really little, but I didn't get to start until my late 30's, so I'm savoring every precious moment. My other secret ambition is to be a successful novelist, which I may finally get around to finishing my novel when the children are a bit older (its about 75% done right now.)

What made you join the Mothering.com forums rather than more mainstream ones?

I was interested in doing EC with DS, and was looking for resources.  Someone on another (somewhat more mainstream) forum recommended that I try here.  Not only did I get great EC advice but I found a forum that actually aligned with my own parenting choices/philosophies.

I had a weird deserted island dream last night, hense this question:  If you had to be stranded on a dessert island with one other person, who would it be and why?

[kimble]

Thank you all for the wonderful feedback and solidifying my desire for a wrap! I'm looking forward to some snuggle time with a new babe in a few months .

EDIT: just saw nstewart answered this too! I'll bump her question.

Originally Posted by Lynann 

What made you join the Mothering.com forums rather than more mainstream ones?

Hmmm great question. I ran across Mothering when googling for random TTC and pregnancy info (the internet's wealth of information is too much for me to resist) and the forums seemed to be full of people who think and respect one anothers' view points. I was looking for a place where people go deeper into issues and question the mainstream, and actually raise scientific points (and counterpoints). Places like the Bump have their place, but are not for me. I don't want a commercialized version of family. While I expect we'll be far from full on AP, I wanted a place that welcomed extended breastfeeding, natural birth, no circ, and SAHM/D as viable parenting choices instead of fringe views. Once I found the TTC #1 after 30 group, I was hooked. I know we're all at different places in life in this group, but I can relate a lot more easily to people who invested many reproductive years on education or a career than a young 20-something who just spent 2 years planning her fairy tale wedding and is most interested in talking about which Disney princess theme Kaylee's nursery should be.

There's just so much more to life, and I love the diversity and "real-ness" here on Mothering.

If you had to be stranded on a desert island with one other person, who would it be and why?

[Kate&Joey]

Originally Posted by kimble 

I know we're all at different places in life in this group, but I can relate a lot more easily to people who invested many reproductive years on education or a career than a young 20-something who just spent 2 years planning her fairy tale wedding and is most interested in talking about which Disney princess theme Kaylee's nursery should be.

Haha!  This cracked me up. 

[CoBabyMaker]

If you had to be stranded on a desert island with one other person, who would it be and why?

Oh can I please be stranded with DH!?!  I have so been longing for a night away!  I'll take what I can get at this point.  We've not had a night to ourselves since DD1 was born and I think we are ready.  OK, I know that's not what stranded on an island is about but I'd really still pick DH. 

What's one food you hated growing up and now like?

[adventuregirl]

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

Oh can I please be stranded with DH!?!  I have so been longing for a night away!  I'll take what I can get at this point.  We've not had a night to ourselves since DD1 was born and I think we are ready.  OK, I know that's not what stranded on an island is about but I'd really still pick DH. 

What's one food you hated growing up and now like?

I would pick my DH too.

Spinach. I hated it as a kid, probably because my mom served it from a can or from a frozen package, just warmed up. Ick! I love it now though, once you know how to prepare spinach, it is soooo delicious!

Originally Posted by kimble 

I know we're all at different places in life in this group, but I can relate a lot more easily to people who invested many reproductive years on education or a career than a young 20-something who just spent 2 years planning her fairy tale wedding and is most interested in talking about which Disney princess theme Kaylee's nursery should be.

LOVE it! Me too!

What is your favorite thing to do if you should ever have free time for just you?

[timesway]

Originally Posted by adventuregirl 

What is your favorite thing to do if you should ever have free time for just you?

ooo.. free time, just me.. im guessing you mean totally alone time? I like to write music or play music in these times.. i need to actually get the electric piano i planned to get a year ago!! But then i decided i was going to get a harp and learn something new as i picked it up and had a "natural flare" (played freestyle for about 10 mins lol having never picked done up before and apparently it sounded like id been playing for years.. awesome!!) decisions decisions

If you could learn or play any musical instrument in the world what would it be and why?

[TwilightJoy]

Originally Posted by timesway 

If you could learn or play any musical instrument in the world what would it be and why?

It would be piano. DH is such a talented piano player, and I would love to be able to join him.



Is your baby going to have a nursery? If so, how are you decorating it?

[timesway]

awww  you should get him to teach you!!! I love to play the piano, so soothing :)


Well, my  babys going to be sleeping in my room to start with because of my mobility issues, but i am going to decorate the spare room as a baby nursery, and that will eventually become his/her room when he/she is old enough (or i get more mobile) so yes i will be decorating.. i was thinking i mite ask some of my arty friends to help do some amazing art installlation in there hehe.. i need to decorate my whole house actually.. need t odo my bedroom aswell as that will be where baby will be living to begin with and it will be nice to make the house look all fresh and new for babys arrival as ex made lots of holes in walls and so on-not fun!! 

How do you plan to feed baby, are you going down the breast feeding route? and how would you feeel if it didnt work out for you? how do you feel about formula?  also are you scared about breast feeding if you havnet done it before?

[Quinalla]

Originally Posted by timesway 

How do you plan to feed baby, are you going down the breast feeding route? and how would you feeel if it didnt work out for you? how do you feel about formula?  also are you scared about breast feeding if you havnet done it before?

I plan to breastfeed and then pump at work when I go back same as last time sending bottles of breastmilk to daycare. I'm very lucky to have a private office, so pumping at work is about as easy as it gets. However, with twins I am not going to beat myself up if I can't keep up with them pumping, I'm going to try hard to do it, but if I need to do some formula I am ok with that. I ended up using some formula in the first few weeks with DD as she would keep falling asleep at the breast after 2-3 sucks and wasn't getting the nutrition she needed, but we made it through it and BF after that until I weaned her ~19 months. It's going to be interesting learning to breastfeed two babies at a time as I definitely want to be able to do that, I'm glad I already have one breastfeeding experience under my belt!

What is the one thing you are most looking forward to with a newborn? What is the one thing you are not looking forward to?

[kimble]

Originally Posted by timesway 

How do you plan to feed baby, are you going down the breast feeding route? and how would you feeel if it didnt work out for you? how do you feel about formula?  also are you scared about breast feeding if you havnet done it before?

oops I did it again ... the pros and cons of an active thread

To answer Quinalla's question, I am actually most looking forward to breast feeding!

I'm a first time mom but feel very strongly about breastfeeding. I'm an immunologist and it would kill me to not give my babies protective antibodies when they need them most. The idea of perfect nutrition, which changes as your babe gets older and needs different balances of fats, protein, etc is fascinating to me from a scientific perspective and awes me from a mothering perspective. The strong connection between mom and baby forged by breastfeeding is icing on the cake to me, but I'm sure my views may change when i look back in a few years.

My plan is to exclusively BF for at least 6 months, or until baby shows and interest in food and actually eats, with a goal of continuing to a year and seeing where we want to go from there. I'll be returning to work and am so glad I have a mom-friendly work environment and private bench to pump.

To be honest, if for some reason BFing didn't work out, I would be devastated. However, I believe there are very few reasons a committed mom can't breast feed, and I'm committed to making it happen. The idea of feeding my baby formula just doesn't sit well. Honestly if I am told we need to supplement I would dig my heels in and refuse to do so unless there is an actual medical need, not just slow supply build-up. I'm a lot more scared about the whole birth process itself, and the idea of someone being dependent on us for the next 18 years, than I am of breast feeding.

The thing about a newborn I am not looking forward to is the idea that there is this tiny little life in your hands. It's a whole new level of responsibility which at this point I frankly fiind intimidating. I'm sure we will find our way as millions of others do, but how do you prepare for that first week of getting to know your babe at home when it's just the 3 of you?

If you could be any historic figure, who would you be? (for fun, I will consider the future to be history we just don't know about yet!)

[TwilightJoy]

Originally Posted by Quinalla 

What is the one thing you are most looking forward to with a newborn? What is the one thing you are not looking forward to?

I'm most looking forward to holding my baby in my arms and smelling that new baby smell.

I'm not looking forward to being up every 3 hours. I like my sleep!

Originally Posted by kimble 

If you could be any historic figure, who would you be? (for fun, I will consider the future to be history we just don't know about yet!)

I would be Laura Ingalls Wilder. I love the "pioneer" lifestyle and would love to live that way.



What is your favorite meal to cook for your DP?