Please help! My son will be three in January, and we are having our second child in early January. The discussion of preschool has come up many times, but I was resistant to the idea for a long time. I've always stayed home with him, and we are embracing natural parenting. We still cosleep, and we have a great attached relationship. In September my husband's parents really started pushing the idea of preschool. Everyone agreed it was better to start him a few months before three so that he wouldn't feel pushed away because of the new baby. He was excited to visit the school, and I thought he must be ready. He was happy to meet the teachers and other kids. The school is a Montessori school by the way. The teachers are excellent, and I agree with much of their philosophies. However, once my son realized he was going to be left at the school, he quickly changed his mind. He hates going. He hasn't made friends. He scream-cries every time I leave him. We're only at the end of his first month, but it's been a horrible month. He only goes three mornings a week. MWF from 8:30-11:30 but he's crying when I leave and a lot of times he's crying when I pick him up. The teachers say he's doing better and engages in the lessons and even plays, but he knows when it's time for me to pick him up and starts to cry again.
This is all so stressful for me. I've never let him cry about anything. Everyone keeps saying he just has to get used to it, but those words strongly remind me of people who say that about letting babies cry themselves to sleep. I didn't do it then, and I'm having a hard time letting him cry about stuff now. He's my baby. Please offer kind words if you have them. Did I start him in school too soon? Are all transitions this hard? I cry most days after leaving him there, and I feel like the separation anxiety can't be good for either of us.
In need of a hug,