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Is autism a good thing.

post #1 of 11
Thread Starter 

Hi all,

 

With so many autistic child prodigies out there who can do so many things which normal children can't do, I can' help myself but think that Autism is indeed a blessing in disguise. They have uncanny memories, can memorize anything, good with numbers, read early, spell early etc.........

 

I know i am wrong and you are free to scold me as much as you want. But love to hear your opinions.

 

Thank you!

post #2 of 11

If you know you are wrong, why would you post it?

 

If you understand that autistic child prodigies are only a fraction of people on the autism spectrum, why would you assume that the entire spectrum is a blessing?

 

My best friend's child is on the spectrum and has a genius level IQ.  At no point would she say that his spectrum-related OCD, sensory processing disorder, extreme social anxiety, and clinical depression at age 7 are a blessing.

post #3 of 11

Nebula-

I would suggest you research autism spectrum disorder before you post something like that.  It is a spectrum.  No two people on the spectrum are the same, and your comment comes across as very insensitive.  Only one of the things you listed applies to my son, and although autism has brought some very interesting and special things to his life, it has also brought some heartbreaking struggles.  Please keep the feelings and perspectives of other members of the community in mind when posting. 

post #4 of 11
Thread Starter 

Hi all,

 

I am sorry If the thread was offensive. I didn't mean to hurt anyone. I wanted a different view on things. 

 

The other day I was reading an article about child prodigies and autism So this set me into thinking and I wanted to know your views too.

 

Thank you!

post #5 of 11

I am the family member of a much-loved adult with autism.  He has many fabulous talents and abilities which have lead him to great success financially and artistically.  However, the effects of autism have been the most heart-breaking, difficult, frustrating, and tear-inducing thing our family has been through.  We've encountered infertility, cancer, brain tumors, unanticipated deaths, strokes, and several chronic diseases.  None of those have even come close to causing the amount of pure anguish that autism has brought.  It's not a good thing--it's hell. 

post #6 of 11
I'll throw out there that even setting aside an actual diagnosis of autism, "child prodigies" often have extensive struggles in other areas.

DS hasn't been formally diagnosed but we suspect he has Aspergers. He also has a phenomenal memory -- he remembers things from 3 years ago (when he was under a year old), can recite long books, stories, and songs verbatim, appears to have a eidetic memory, spoke in sentences well before 18mos and has an extensive and impressive vocabulary, hit nearly all his milestones early, can pick any instrument out of a recording, can do things kids twice his age can't do, and has really amazing cognitive abilities.

He also spends half his time miserable. All kinds of noises & sensations bother him, he has intense anxiety, he needs things to be a certain way & gets extremely upset when he's asked to deviate from what's in his head. He has trouble fitting in socially and other kids don't want to play with him or share with him. Other parents aren't comfortable in his presence because he is too loud, too destructive, and often (unintentionally) comes off as rude or insensitive. He hits & bites me and DH daily and pushes us to our outer limits, both physically & emotionally. He has destroyed our house -- broken furniture, scraped paint off the wall, ripped trim from the door frame, etc. He doesn't play well and hardly sleeps. Living with him is incredibly hard. I love him more than anyone or anything in the entire world, but he is so intense and difficult, and every single day is a struggle for him, me, and DH. Having a photographic memory is a cool trick, I suppose, but it sure doesn't compensate for the enormous difficulties he faces in just getting through the day. My heart breaks for him.
Edited by crunchy_mommy - 10/25/12 at 6:00pm
post #7 of 11

as someone who works with severely autistic people i dont think autism is a good thing.
 

post #8 of 11

I am just going to assume that this post was meant to cause controversy and there is nothing legitimate about the way this was formulated.  I have actually reported it because I'm fairly sure the goal of this post is nothing good.

 

If you really want to talk about the positive and negative aspects of being non-neurotypical, go ahead and post this in the special needs forum if you want to talk to people who actually know what they are talking about.  Better yet, go to the multiple forums where adult on the spectrum are discussing the ways that neurotypical expectations impact those on the spectrum.

 

If you want to have a misinformed and offensive discussion about how "good" or "bad" people with autism are, then at least have the guts to do it with people who actually know anything about autism.  While we're at it, lets talk about weather down syndrome, being gay, or having brown eyes is a "good thing" or not.  Because, like everything, there are some wonderful and some terrible aspects to ANY part of who we are as people and you pulling this out of your bottom like this is ridiculous and offensive. 

post #9 of 11

Of course I adore my child with autism but I would give anything for his life not to be so darn difficult. Basic simple things that other children just pick up or naturally know, he doesn't grasp. It is very bittersweet and heartbreaking being the parent of a child with autism. I happen to be "lucky", DS1 is a fairly easy child on the spectrum due to his VERY passive personality which also means that he often never tries or gives up rather then to even try to communicate somehow that he needs/wants/feel anything. I could not feed him all day and more then likely he would never ask or go get his own food even though you could hear his tummy rumbling a room away. He would just sit there all day long lining up his cars or pacing in circles.That is not a blessing. 

post #10 of 11
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I am just going to assume that this post was meant to cause controversy and there is nothing legitimate about the way this was formulated.  I have actually reported it because I'm fairly sure the goal of this post is nothing good.

 

If you really want to talk about the positive and negative aspects of being non-neurotypical, go ahead and post this in the special needs forum if you want to talk to people who actually know what they are talking about.  Better yet, go to the multiple forums where adult on the spectrum are discussing the ways that neurotypical expectations impact those on the spectrum.

 

If you want to have a misinformed and offensive discussion about how "good" or "bad" people with autism are, then at least have the guts to do it with people who actually know anything about autism.  While we're at it, lets talk about weather down syndrome, being gay, or having brown eyes is a "good thing" or not.  Because, like everything, there are some wonderful and some terrible aspects to ANY part of who we are as people and you pulling this out of your bottom like this is ridiculous and offensive. 

fizgig-

The OP has already come back and responded to the post with an apology, and I have already replied to the thread as a moderator and the mother of an autistic child.  Let's give the OP the benefit of the doubt that she was not trying to be offensive. We can use this as a learning experience for all involved. 

post #11 of 11
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Originally Posted by nebula228 View Post

Hi all,

 

I am sorry If the thread was offensive. I didn't mean to hurt anyone. I wanted a different view on things. 

 

The other day I was reading an article about child prodigies and autism So this set me into thinking and I wanted to know your views too.

 

Thank you!

Thanks for apologizing.  I hope you will come over to the Special Needs Forum and read around in there a little bit to get the other side of the story. 

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