DS is just past 2 and I work full time. I love my job, no stress there. DP (soon to be DH) works T/TH nights from 9pm - 4 or 5am. Sometimes he works other nights as well, sometimes earlier in the evening, and he's trying to get his business going too. Theoretically this means (according to his doc) that he should try to get at least 4 of sleep at the same time every day. We choose 9 - 1 so that he could help get DS ready in the morning and drive me to work & DS to school (we have 1 car). This doesn't always work though.
Quite often what ends up happening is that I spend all of my at home time taking care of DS. DP is frequently exhausted from the changing work/sleep hours. DS is definitely going through the "terrible twos" and I'm about at my wits end. On top of all this, despite being in daycare full time since 8 weeks old, he's only had a babysitter 3 times and doesn't do well with strangers.
If I had a mother's helper, what would I ask them to do? I'd love to say 'please play with my son and give me some peace' (I realize how terrible that sounds, but I'm at the end of my rope), but 1 - I can't have him screaming for me or daddy when daddy is trying to sleep and 2 - it seems like he actually *needs* me/us for some reason right now more than usual. He started crying abjectly at daycare dropoff about a month ago when it hasn't been a problem in a year. We've already verified that he's fine usually within 5 minutes.
I feel like if I can establish a relationship with someone DS will get used to that person and I'll be able to leave him with her for a date night, which we currently are not doing and desperately need. Oh yeah - I also have a 13 yr old step daughter. No, she cannot help with any of this, which is a long story all on its own.
Anyway this is kinda all over the place & incoherent, sorry. Any thoughts?