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[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

I don't know another language, but do plan on teaching this baby some sign language as well. We taught our other 2 kids some and it really helps with communicating.

I am not scarred about anything to do with motherhood as this is my 3rd, but as far as pregnancy - I'm scarred that my midwives are not as naturally minded as they say they are and I won't get the birth I really want. I'd say I'm scarred of it hurting, but I already know it does. And while I'm definitely not looking forward to that part, it doesn't scare me.

Are you hoping the baby comes before after his/her due date?

I'd say before, as the thought of being induced again is scary so I don't want to play that waiting game. However, I'd rather she not be born at the end of March, as our family is flooded with other birthdays... 6 to be exact, the last week of March.

Do you have stretch marks yet, or old ones?  Are you trying anything to minimize them?

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

I don't know another language, but do plan on teaching this baby some sign language as well. We taught our other 2 kids some and it really helps with communicating.

I am not scarred about anything to do with motherhood as this is my 3rd, but as far as pregnancy - I'm scarred that my midwives are not as naturally minded as they say they are and I won't get the birth I really want. I'd say I'm scarred of it hurting, but I already know it does. And while I'm definitely not looking forward to that part, it doesn't scare me.

Are you hoping the baby comes before after his/her due date?

I kind of hope Baby comes before my due date, just so I don't have to worry about the "You've reached arbitrary 'x' point. Let's talk about options." conversation. While I'm more prepared to stand up for myself, maybe even more than with DS, it would be nice just to be pregnant, and have the baby, you know?

Do you think this baby is going to be bigger, smaller or average size?

[alaskanmomma]

I hope either before, on time, or like.... 2 weeks after. LOL, I know that doesn't help much, but I'm due the 21st and my sons birthday is the 25th.. DS already has the same birthday with his very bratty 6 year old uncle(notice I don't say 'share', I refuse to say my kid shares HIS special day, maybe if the kid wasn't such a turd.. lol) so.. really any day besides the 25th would be ok. Ideally I'd like to have the baby on April 14th because that was my EDD with DS, and happens to be the day the Titanic hit the iceburg and I'm a Titanic NERD so... The 7th is my MIL's bday, and wouldn't like that, and don't want the 20th because of 4/20, Hitler's bday, Columbine, etc. hah

^Wow, longest reply/rant ever. But really, this baby's birthday REALLY has me anxious(and to answer the question above it, is my biggest fear)

Are you going to have a baby shower/welcoming party?

[firespiritmelody]

Looks like you guys cross posted lol

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 
Do you have stretch marks yet, or old ones?  Are you trying anything to minimize them?

Baby number 4 here so lots of stretch marks already - no new ones yet, but some of the older ones are starting to look more obvious again and a little red.

Originally Posted by bmcneal 
Do you think this baby is going to be bigger, smaller or average size?

My girls were 8lb5oz, 8lb10oz and 9lb7oz. So, I assume this baby is going to take after his or her sisters, but hopefully not as big as DD3 lol. I'm shooting for 9# even.

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 
Are you going to have a baby shower/welcoming party?

A friend of mine has graciously offered to throw us a shower and I am so honored. I didn't have a shower with DD2 and with DD3 even though a friend offered, I ended up doing most of the planning and food prep. This friend has been so super sweet about the hole thing and is really excited to do it which makes my heart just melt.

Will you be doing anything to incorporate the new babe into your holiday traditions this year?

[alaskanmomma]

We're going to be revealing the gender in our Christmas cards, if that counts!

How old were you when you had/are going to have your 1st baby?

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

We're going to be revealing the gender in our Christmas cards, if that counts!

How old were you when you had/are going to have your 1st baby?

When I had my first baby, DD, I was 19. I will (still) be 26 when I have this baby.

Have you started shopping for baby stuff yet? (And DD said she wants to ask a question. She wants to know if your baby is a boy or girl, or if you know.  )

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

When I had my first baby, DD, I was 19. I will (still) be 26 when I have this baby.

Have you started shopping for baby stuff yet? (And DD said she wants to ask a question. She wants to know if your baby is a boy or girl, or if you know.  )

This week I've started shopping big time.. I need to slow down!  I mostly bought cute stuff like baby booties, headbands, and a cute handmade taggie blankie. 

Tell your  DD that it's a girl!  (hence the shopping spree for unnecessary yet pink stuff!)

and a question for your dd or any siblings... what are you looking forward to the most about having a baby sibling?

[nettster]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

Do you have stretch marks yet, or old ones?  Are you trying anything to minimize them?

I am getting them, i have old ones (which you can barely see) and i have been doing pretty much everything right down to busting open vit. e capsules and massaging them into my skin once a day in addition to the rest of my routine. my mom said that i should expect it with my skin and that there isn't much i can do to stop them (i have eczema and have since i was born, even the smallest amount of growth and i end up with strech marks). 

MY ADVICE FOR PEOPLE IN CANADA: buy NATURES AID it is an aloe based skin care and works wonders, i am still trying to figure out if i can buy it in the USA i just know for my acne eczena and strech marks it worked MIRACLES. even helped speed healing of some cuts and such i had. wonderful stuff i got my family hooked on it. LOL 

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

Are you going to have a baby shower/welcoming party?

If we do im not the one planning it so who knows LOL.

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

How old were you when you had/are going to have your 1st baby?

first pregnency i was 21 (we lost it at 14 weeks) this sis the second and i am 23. 

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

Have you started shopping for baby stuff yet? (And DD said she wants to ask a question. She wants to know if your baby is a boy or girl, or if you know.  )

No shopping for baby stuff on my part... my family on the other hand.... well lets just say there is a house full of baby stuff i havent spent a dime (my mom is a super excieted soon to be grandmother) 

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

and a question for your dd or any siblings... what are you looking forward to the most about having a baby sibling?

No other kids on my end yet but i can answer from being older (and my hubby's is the same ironicly) we were both older when our parents told us they were pregnant again and  Iwas thrilled because i was almost 10 and loved babies thing i looked forward to the most was taking care of the baby. 

the reason i included my hubby is for the older sibling male perspective. My hubby's most looked forward to moment when his mom was pregnant (he was 11) was "YES!  i won't be the one who gets the attention from my sisters" (his older sisters were to preoccupied with the new baby to pick on him. LOL) 

so there is 2 completely different outlooks from siblings about it. i even called the mothers to confirm them LOL. 

my question: 

If you could only ever have 1 gender neutral nursery theme, what would it be? and why?
 

[SplashingPuddle]

We are very much into gender varied clothing. I aim at 25% stereotypically female, 25% stereotypically male, and 50% gender neutral in clothing.  I like providing the opportunity for various gender expressions.  However, when it comes to a gender neutral nursery theme, we do not have one, since we co-bedded and did not purchase a crib or other large equipment/items for our daughter's birth. Trying to keep minimal stuff there was not much of a theme.

My question: Do/ would you dress you baby in both gendered clothing? ie a boy in pink clothing on occasion? What responses have you received when you challenge people's gender stereotypes?

[alaskanmomma]

I won't dress my baby boy in pink clothing... but my toddler is 2 and has a pink shirt, no one has said anything. 

Do you talk to the baby yet?

[nettster]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

Do you talk to the baby yet?

 yepp as often as i talk to myself... LOL or when I'm doing something and it starts kicking. 

What has been the best piece of advice you have received so far about pregnancy in your opinion?

[alaskanmomma]

To not listen to others advice HAHA! Everyone tries to dish out advice with a pregnancy with multiple younger children.. when they don't have kids as young as mine, or never were pregnant with toddlers, etc. "Take a nap when they nap" is NOT practical with toddlers, I'm pretty sure they sense even in a dead sleep that mom has fallen asleep and wake up and cause mass destruction!

Do you want a small or big baby?(Assume both scenarios baby is healthy)

[1babysmom]

Either way to me...but I would prefer a slightly smaller head than last time. LOL  I have had 7lb'ers with 13.25" heads, and an almost 10lb'er with a 15.5" head.  Things were just much quicker with the first two. LOL  Though I admit that I'd love to have a "tiny" baby for longer than my son was...he was so big from the start that it seemed like we skipped that stage!

Do you have a favorite pregnancy tea blend? (aside from just RRL)

[alaskanmomma]

Not really a pregnancy tea blend, but I love chamomile tea <3 

Do you share your names before birth?

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

Not really a pregnancy tea blend, but I love chamomile tea <3 

Do you share your names before birth?

We announced when we announced to everyone that we're having a girl.  I wanted to settle on a name early, since it really helps me to bond with the baby, and just thought why not announce instead of dealing with everyone asking and trying to keep more secrets.  We tried the secret thing the first time around and it was a disaster, as my mom saw the name written down somewhere, and my MIL came to my work baby shower where my coworkers knew the name (I had to spill somewhere). btw, it's Eleanor.

Do you include your  children in deciding the baby's name? (and if you do, how do you explain it when you go with a name that's not their choice- I need help with that one!!)

[MommyRuth]

Do you include your  children in deciding the baby's name? (and if you do, how do you explain it when you go with a name that's not their choice- I need help with that one!

I want to include my daughter, but I'm not sure how. We're having a boy and she suggested "Peter" after Peter Parker, who is Spiderman! She was serious, too! So we nixed that name (neither of us want to name our son that) but she's also suggested "Cutie-Pie" and "Sweetie" and I tried to explain that those are not names, but nicknames. So...we just plan to play it by ear and try to let her help, but hopefully she won't be heartbroken if we don't go with a name she chooses.

What is your favorite baby book? It can be about sleep, or any baby topic.

[camprunner]

I'm scouring my book shelf for a book about babies and it seems I never really needed one and the Internet sufficed.  Toddlerhood was a whole different ballgame when discipline starts :)

Peter is a much better name than Ping which is what my youngest daughter wanted to name her brother from a book we'd recently read :)

[nettster]

Originally Posted by camprunner 

I'm scouring my book shelf for a book about babies and it seems I never really needed one and the Internet sufficed.  Toddlerhood was a whole different ballgame when discipline starts :)

Peter is a much better name than Ping which is what my youngest daughter wanted to name her brother from a book we'd recently read :)

Originally Posted by MommyRuth 

I want to include my daughter, but I'm not sure how. We're having a boy and she suggested "Peter" after Peter Parker, who is Spiderman! She was serious, too! So we nixed that name (neither of us want to name our son that) but she's also suggested "Cutie-Pie" and "Sweetie" and I tried to explain that those are not names, but nicknames. So...we just plan to play it by ear and try to let her help, but hopefully she won't be heartbroken if we don't go with a name she chooses.

What is your favorite baby book? It can be about sleep, or any baby topic.

my friend had this issues (with the odd names) so what they did was make a list of names they liked and had her pick her 2 favourites (they picked 2 each as well) then sat down and talked each (meaning what sounded good with the middle names - they used family names for middle names) and made a choice. 

baby book... Robert Munch "Love you forever" my mom use to read it to me LOL 

what would you do if your ultrasound said one gender and then you ended up having another?? 

-- my friend had this happen, turns out she had a little girl who liked to put her finger between her legs!!! O_O all girl stuff with only some gender neutral!!! 

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by MommyRuth 

I want to include my daughter, but I'm not sure how. We're having a boy and she suggested "Peter" after Peter Parker, who is Spiderman! She was serious, too! So we nixed that name (neither of us want to name our son that) but she's also suggested "Cutie-Pie" and "Sweetie" and I tried to explain that those are not names, but nicknames. So...we just plan to play it by ear and try to let her help, but hopefully she won't be heartbroken if we don't go with a name she chooses.


What is your favorite baby book? It can be about sleep, or any baby topic.

Idk how old your daughter is, but i was 8yrs old when my sister was born and my mom and step-dad really wanted me to be apart of the naming but I had my heart set on naming her Samantha "Sam" and they just didn't like it. I was super bummed. But my mom ended up having to schedule a c-section because of some complications and they let me choose her birthday! so I chose the 13th of November, since it was born on the 13th of September. it was very special for me and really made me feel like I had a part in everything. By the time my brother was born 2yrs later they gave me baby books and told me I could choose his first name! I spent a few weeks looking over names and writing some out and decided on Nikolas and they loved it! It was really special for me

I'm also a real big nickname lover and quickly named him "bubby" afters he was born and to this day at 19 yrs old he's still my bubby whether its his name or a nickname as long as she is apart of it, it'll be special for her

[alaskanmomma]

Lol, I know everyone's answered, but I don't see a new ?

DD wants to name the baby Kahluha, like the liquor... no idea where she heard it, but.. yeah.. no lol. Besides Kahluha we have Dogman, Kitty Cat, and Star Sparkle :P Ah, 4 year olds. Oh, and DS likes Pooh or McQueen for a baby.. >.<

Do you ever worry about giving birth somewhere weird like in the car or the middle of Wal-Mart? I had a dream I'll have this baby on the side of the highway... so avoiding long drives after I hit full term I think :P