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[cyclamen]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

I don't own any maternity clothes yet, (hard to find here, and I don't/can't purchase online at this time), but I am wearing bigger sizes already. I have been looking for maternity clothes locally, but the best I could find were long sleeve t-shirts, which for the price, it would be cheaper to just go a size or two up in the regular clothes and get two or three, and grandma-esque sweaters. :P

As for question, who are you having to support you/who will be with you when you give birth?

Bmcneal, that sucks that there aren't a lot of maternity clothes locally.  I got lucky with the thrift store last weekend and found two or three maternity shirts, and two more "big" shirts, one which I am going to try to alter and one that already has a flattering cut.  I really like the empire-waisted stuff.  And I've found a couple things on craigslist that I might buy.  So I feel pretty lucky to not have to pay full price on this stuff.  I know what you mean about stuff being so expensive for just being a plain long sleeve shirt.  Even Target disappointed me.

As for the birth, my DP will be there.  I didn't have him do anything for me the last time but I know that just having him be in the room will help me feel safe and strong.  I'm having a hospital midwife but I don't know if they are going to be there the whole time.  Generally I prefer to be left alone in labor.

For those of you who have other kids, what are you going to do with them (childcare, etc) while you are in labor?

[miss_nikki]

My dh hangs out with our older kids doing activities my best friend and/or I put together for them before hand. DS 1 was born before the girls went to sleep, so they got to come see him before going to bed. DS 2 was born early in the morning, so they had been asleep. DH woke the older 3 up after he was born, so they could greet him.

What kind of activities do you plan to or have you put together for older siblings?
 

[firespiritmelody]

Originally Posted by miss_nikki 

My dh hangs out with our older kids doing activities my best friend and/or I put together for them before hand. DS 1 was born before the girls went to sleep, so they got to come see him before going to bed. DS 2 was born early in the morning, so they had been asleep. DH woke the older 3 up after he was born, so they could greet him.

What kind of activities do you plan to or have you put together for older siblings?
 

My mom will be coming over just for the purpose of entertaining the girls during my labor My older girls will probably just do their own thing and my mom will be at the beck and call of my 4 year old. I'll probably buy a new board game and/or craft project for them to work on and if it's during the day, she'll probably take them down to the water front or for lunch/dinner/ice cream or something just to get them out of the way lol.

They'll be allowed in the room when the baby is born though, if they want to be, and will probably go over to my IL's for a day or two afterwards to hang out with grandma while DH and I get to know the baby.

Nikki, you should totally start a separate thread for this because I'd love to hear what everyone else has to add too!!

What's your favorite pregnancy or parenting book?

[MommyRuth]

I just finished Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and it was phenomenal! I feel inspired. I don't really care for "What to Expect." I find it to be patronizing and overly PC. I do like "Pregnancy, Childbirth, & The Newborn" by a few women...Penny Simpkin or something. Sorry, I'm too lazy to get up and grab it right now. As far as parenting books, I like "Gentle Discipline" which is a LLL book. I haven't read many other parenting books. I gather ideas but mostly follow my gut and my daughters lead. I think this time around, I'm more anti-outside info and wanting to go with the flow more. I agree on a separate sibling thread!

Where do you plan to give birth and why?

[stormysky]

Birthing Center connected with a hospital. I've had 3 other children there, it's comfy, low intervention, and CLOSE to my house (2 miles). I have VERY fast labors (except for my 1st), so distance is a big factor. 

What are 3 must-have baby products for you?

PS> I agree with MommyRuth. I really enjoy Ina May Gaskin and do not care for the What to Expect series!

[Martha83]

My must have lists are short. I've learned over the years that must haves are really a lot simpler than they are made out to be.

Diapers

Nursing pads

carrier

everything else is just extra ;) LOL

Do you have people trying to name your baby for you?

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by Martha83 

Do you have people trying to name your baby for you?

My 5 year old is.  He's tellling everyone he's having a baby sister named Hazel. (don't even know the sex yet...)  but other than that, no unsolicited offers.  For the record, we did add Hazel to our list.

On a similar topic, do you have people trying to rub your belly?

[firespiritmelody]

Originally Posted by Oliver's Mama 

My 5 year old is.  He's tellling everyone he's having a baby sister named Hazel. (don't even know the sex yet...)  but other than that, no unsolicited offers.  For the record, we did add Hazel to our list.

On a similar topic, do you have people trying to rub your belly?

 An old neighbor of mine named her son Cody because her daughter would NOT let up that she was going to have a brother and his name was Cody, even way before they were even considering having another baby! Don't discount his suggestions!!

No belly rubbing yet, besides my kids and my mom occasionally. No one has even asked me if I'm pregnant yet

What's your favorite "parenting book" and/or who is your guru? (I'm in love with Dr Sears, personally! )

[Martha83]

I like Dr.Sears, too. But honestly I dont "do" parenting books. I like to read some of them but I dont really know that I have a guru that I go to for my troubles LOL...if I'm having troubles I tend to real in all my resources and dive into research lol...


DId you have anyone guess you were pregnant before you announced/told them about it?  (when I was barely pregnant my MIL and SIL who aren't close at all to me guessed before dh could tell them...it's not like they "know" me....but they still guessed...weird!)

[alaskanmomma]

DId you have anyone guess you were pregnant before you announced/told them about it?  (when I was barely pregnant my MIL and SIL who aren't close at all to me guessed before dh could tell them...it's not like they "know" me....but they still guessed...weird!)

My MIL guessed I was pregnant, but only because I didn't drink alcohol(not that I drink alcohol a lot anyway...) but she didn't know-know just on intuition.


Are you going to breastfeed?

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

My MIL guessed I was pregnant, but only because I didn't drink alcohol(not that I drink alcohol a lot anyway...) but she didn't know-know just on intuition.


Are you going to breastfeed?

Most definitely. That was probably the best bonding experience there was for me to form an (outside the womb) relationship with DS. I didn't get to breastfeed DD very much/very long, and I've always felt like that may be a (minor) reason why I don't feel like we've bonded the same way DS and I did.

Um... Do you have any names picked out yet?

[Greenlea]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

Um... Do you have any names picked out yet?

Right now its Maxwell Julian for a boy or Amelia Juliet for a girl. However, I have not discussed these with DH yet, so that could very well change LOL. I bring up first names periodically with him when I find one I like. He did not like Adrian or Levi, but liked Maxwell. However, he just said yeah that sounds good and we dropped it. We tend to not talk names till much later in the pregnancy because he cant seem to get excited about names till then. And I don't like names that are "fine" to him, I want him to be just as excited about a name as me. And I guess it doesn't much matter what name we choose early on in the pregnancy because with my 2 previous pregnancies we've changed our minds once the baby is born anyways.

If you work, have you told your job yet? 

[alaskanmomma]

Originally Posted by bmcneal 

Most definitely. That was probably the best bonding experience there was for me to form an (outside the womb) relationship with DS. I didn't get to breastfeed DD very much/very long, and I've always felt like that may be a (minor) reason why I don't feel like we've bonded the same way DS and I did.

Um... Do you have any names picked out yet?

Calliope and Boston are the "for sure" first names... I REALLY like Calliope Lauren, but DH wants Calliope Jane. Peter is more than likely the MN for a boy, but it isn't official.

[alaskanmomma]

Originally Posted by Greenlea 

Right now its Maxwell Julian for a boy or Amelia Juliet for a girl. However, I have not discussed these with DH yet, so that could very well change LOL. I bring up first names periodically with him when I find one I like. He did not like Adrian or Levi, but liked Maxwell. However, he just said yeah that sounds good and we dropped it. We tend to not talk names till much later in the pregnancy because he cant seem to get excited about names till then. And I don't like names that are "fine" to him, I want him to be just as excited about a name as me. And I guess it doesn't much matter what name we choose early on in the pregnancy because with my 2 previous pregnancies we've changed our minds once the baby is born anyways.

If you work, have you told your job yet? 

I don't work outside the home but I've told daycare parents :P

Are you going to find out the gender?

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by alaskanmomma 

I don't work outside the home but I've told daycare parents :P

Are you going to find out the gender?

Yes! As long as Turducken cooperates. We should find out at the end of the month.

Are you planning to name your baby after someone else?

[bambihelton]

No, we aren't naming it after anyone. We haven't even discussed boy names because we are so sure that its a girl.. Lets hope so! Haha.

Do you have any pets in the home?

[TIFF4NY]

Originally Posted by bambihelton 

No, we aren't naming it after anyone. We haven't even discussed boy names because we are so sure that its a girl.. Lets hope so! Haha.
Do you have any pets in the home?

We have two dogs! A Great Dane / German Shepherd Mix and a Yellow Lab. They are my first children. Love them.

What is your greatest craving (or aversion) right now?

[bmcneal]

Originally Posted by TIFF4NY 

We have two dogs! A Great Dane / German Shepherd Mix and a Yellow Lab. They are my first children. Love them.

What is your greatest craving (or aversion) right now?

Extra crispy fried chicken from either KFC, Lee's, or Popeye's, is what I've been craving as of late. I tried some this evening from a local grocery store, and while it was delicious, it just didn't cut it. 

If you have pets, do you let them near the baby when you bring him/her home?

[cyclamen]

My cats laid low after I brought home DD so I didn't have to chase them off, which was nice.  Hopefully it'll go that way this time, too.

What are you going to do to prepare the baby's space?

[Martha83]

scooch over in the bed lol...we dont have a space for baby...

Have you looked into a first outfit yet?