This issue seems to come and go in our household. Currently, it is the almost 5 year old who is pulling the clothes of, or tripping, or pushing, (but not usually directly hitting), the 2 year old. These types of conflicts are usually related to fights over toys, or demonstrations of jealousy. I usually try to follow the suggestion of give your attention to the victim, say something indirect like, "older brother needs to learn how to use his words," and pick up victim to console him. But, I have to say, this is really not working. I get angry and feel like mama bear when little one is hurt. Lately it has included yelling, "it's not okay to hurt people" to the older child. I have come a long way in controlling this kind of anger since DS2 came on the scene, but sometimes it rears its ugly head.
What are your strategies to keep calm, and maintain a no-tolerance policy on physical aggression? What works for your family?