My son is in third grade and took the Cogat twice. Last year, he got only 2 answers wrong on the entire test. Obviously that's 99% in each section. He was tested both by the school and an educational psychologist. The outside assessment was because the school didn't have any gifted services before third grade. They were doing very little for him and he was not challenged. The psychologist suggested that he would benefit from skipping a grade in a year or two. Skipping from 2nd to 4th was not recommended and I agreed because of his maturity, etc. I feel like this year he has matured a lot and is starting to finally improve in his executive functioning.
(I had posted before worrying about his poor executing fucntioning issues. But we are working on it. I think we, as parents, aren't very structured and organized ourselves and that was holding him back a bit. Now that we have put some effort into teaching him these skills, we see that although they do not come naturally to him as they do with his sister, he is still quite capable of overcoming his weaknesses. Consequently, I am not worried about him having an undiagnosed deficit of some sort. That is a relief.)
I am pleased that my school system has a good system for assessing whole grade acceleration. They use the Iowa Assessments, reports from teachers and parents and test scores. I feel that if he goes through that process, I would trust the results. Maybe this year he would be ready for a big step ahead.
If one of the teachers doesn't instigate an acceleration assessment then the parent needs to instigate it. So my question is, do I instigate it? I honestly am a bit clueless about what is best for my son and how I should be advocating for him. So far I have been lucky that he has had classroom teachers I mostly trust. I do have nagging doubts that he is not challenged enough. He excels in every aspect of his current school studies. He is so used to success that he finds it hard to cope with even tiny bits of failure. On the other hand, he is still engaged with school and enjoys it. I am worried he will end up like me. I graduated high school with zero study skills. I did very minimal work. Consequently, I flunked out of college! I have since learned so much about my own study skills and I have a graduate degree. I look back and I realize that if I had just 50% of the study skills I had by the time I was successful in college, I would have qualified for a full scholarship to Northeastern ( I had just missed the cut-off).
Should I wait to push him to develop his study skills? Should I just be laid back and let him enjoy school and his childhood? Or should I worry about challenging him more now at 8 years old?







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