I need some help! Over the past few years, I've learned more and more about various topics such as eco-friendly living, nourishing foods, attachment parenting, vaccines, and unschooling. I tend to jump right in with both feet and then get disappointed in myself for not 'doing it all right' (with two small children at home lol). So, things happened and my oldest is now in kindergarten. I have gotten two calls from his teacher in the past two weeks (he just started about a month ago due to his anxiety/fear of going, we let him wait until he thought he was ready). The problem is - he LOVES going to school. He loves playing with the other kids, mostly. My in-laws are ALL retired teachers, superintendents, etc, and everyone, including them, has 'pushed' us to send our kids to public school (mostly because of life challenges of astronomical proportions in the past 1.5 years and they thought I could use a 'break', and also their intense belief in the public school system).
Anywho, my son's teacher has labeled his VERY normal 5 year old behavior as 'misbehavior'. It's just little things like him not wanting to sit down for 40 minutes to do worksheets, and blurting out answers, and other small things that his teacher completely mistakes for 'bad/mean behavior' when my boy doesn't have a mean streak in his body (except for with his little brother, but that's to be expected lol).
So, I want him OUT of there. I knew when he went in that it wasn't best for him, but we have been under so much pressure and don't have family nearby to help - that is, TRUSTworthy family - so we needed somewhere for our kids to go. Our youngest is in preschool right now. In short, we have had 5 miscarriages, a job loss which is causing serious financial issues, me becoming disabled, and my husband is now having serious medical issues. I know, I know - they'd be better off at home learning to deal with the issues of life, but this is why I'm posting.
So, as much as I want to pull my son out of school right NOW, my husband wants to wait a little while. I told him the longest I'll give it is until Thanksgiving break, less than a month away. I don't want my son thinking he's a 'bad' boy, although he says his teacher is okay and he likes school.
How can we do this financially? Let me give you a breakdown of our finances:
Hubby makes $10/hour now after his job loss. I am disabled and waiting for disability payments to start, which may take a couple years, but will be a 'lump sum' from the date I became disabled.
Mortgage: $700 (includes taxes and insurance)
Propane (hot water): $250 every 3 months
Water: $100ish every 3 months
Electric: usually $70-80/month
Gas: hubby car pools to work and I don't go too far, but still $400/month
Phones: $140 (contract ends in January and we'll be switching to the $45 unlimited everything plan each)
Food: $700 (nourishing foods when possible, eating out less, and we get $430 in food stamps, so minus that)
This, of course, doesn't include car maintenance (2 cars), house repairs, heat (which we couldn't afford this year, MIL sent money), etc. We bought the house last May 2011 and DH lost his job in September 2011, income got cut in half.
Oh, and I was in school, but am now unable to work, so even if I finish my degree, we are stuck with $800/month student loan payments, half of which are private and I can't defer.
HELP!! What can I do? Babysitting not an option emotionally for me right now after the 5th miscarriage - really threw me for a loop.
Other ideas as to how we can manage financially and unschool?