Hi Mamas! I have a kind of silly question: but it is bugging me and would love some experienced moms opinions. This is my second birth, planning a second home birth and working with a new to me home birth midwife. My first midwife took measurements of my uterus and listened to the heart beat each visit. First using a doppler then I think from month 4 on listening with a fetoscope (i think that is the right word). I prefer the fetoscope and told both midwives that I would prefer to only use the doppler when absolutely necessary.
Now I have had 3 appointments with my current midwife and she only tried to use the fetoscope at the last one (i was 21 weeks along). She only tried for about a minute and then gave up. I was surprised. I really wanted to hear the heartbeat and had my toddler come too to listen. Why didn't she try to find it longer? Also she doesn't measure my growing uterus, which surprises me.
I would love to hear from other moms about their home birth midwives. Is this typical? Should I ask her about it? Also the not measuring my belly?
I am feeling like she just wants to talk about my personal life and doesn't focus on my pregnancy much. Strange feeling for a midwife. It costs so much and honestly I got so much more out of a $50 ultrasound than I have gotten out of meeting with her, (which is probably costing me $100/hr or so).