I have a 19 month old and a 3 year old. They both have their own beds (mattresses on the floor). They both need us to snuggle them to sleep every night. 3yo usually sleeps OK, DH is usually on night duty for him. 19mo needs to nurse frequently most nights. I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand I love it. It gives me such sweet cuddly happy feelings. I kiss his soft head, and we snuggle back to sleep. But some nights he just keeps nursing and nursing -- or using me as a pacifier. And some nights the 3yo needs me and only me, so I am bouncing back and forth between their rooms. I work during the day so I'm often quite tired. And I get precious little time to myself. We've had a series of extremely stressful events since 19mo was born, and I think I need more time to heal and care for myself. One way might be to get 19mo to sleep better at night. But then I remember that he won't be a toddler for long! And this is my special time with him.
So I end up being very inconsistent, probably the worst thing I can do. I nurse and snuggle him to bed at night, but if I'm just tired of being used as a pacifier I unlatch him and let him cry (right next to me, of course). Other nights when I'm happy to have the quiet snuggle time with him, I let him go as long as he likes.
Oh btw this is my first post here. This community of moms seems to be really aligned with my parenting style and beliefs -- I love reading all your posts!
Does anyone have any thoughts or comments about this?