Planet, you already have a cosleeper? Break that baby out! Separate sleep surfaces are great for moving around on one bed without waking the baby. How big a difference is there between mattress tops? We have about a 2 inch difference and it doesn't bother me at all. I assume you can put your upper body into the cosleeper to nurse him and move back out when done or he can be right on the edge if his surface is lower (there is an edge between Soren and me, Soren is higher, so when he scoots toward me he ends up on my bed). If the difference is too big for your comfort, you could probably put the cosleeper up on blocks or put something under his mattress to raise it up or drill a new set of holes to put the mattress at the right height. We had a similar experience with naps with Shay. He would take long luxurious naps in a carrier or 20 minute naps on the bed. It was up to me if I wanted more of a long mental break or a short physical break. I generally chose the long break. Sometime he changed to taking longer naps in bed but he's still very flexible with sleep, which is important to me. He will fall asleep nursing, in the car or in a wrap. He still take 3 naps a day. 2 short and one long. I choose not to worry about it, secure in the idea that if something quits working for us we are adaptable enough to change it.
In other news, Shay has the spots. He is the final kid to get it and we are almost done with quarantine. Hurray! We finally got snow and today we are going sledding on the tiny hill at the playground.
In other news, Shay has the spots. He is the final kid to get it and we are almost done with quarantine. Hurray! We finally got snow and today we are going sledding on the tiny hill at the playground.
) struggle w/ things because I want him to learn about the joy of succeeding when one has to work for something, (such as getting to the top of the climber on his own w/o help) and to learn that with his OWN effort he can eventually achieve things that at this point he is unable to do. I also practice benign neglect--I don't play with him constantly and he is perfectly capable of playing on his own (some of this is totally due to his temperment) In general, I find that he's willing to try because he trusts that he is fundamentally safe--a fundamental awareness directly related to the secure attachment that he has gained through having his emotional needs met as much as we are able. Further, we try to practice gentle discipline and are big fans of natural consequences (wow, I see that your hands are cold and that you don't like how that feels--remember how you wouldn't wear your mittens? Mittens would have kept your hands warm. Would you like them now?). We try to set clear expectations for behaviour and the consequences are immediate and clear (if you can't leave the dog alone while I'm making dinner you'll have to stay in the kitchen with me). Luckily, this seems to work w/ our mild mannered kiddo. 
I understand being disappointed. I was a little bummed we weren't having twins at first even though I am so happy to be having even 1 baby. Ultimately, we will all love the crap out of any baby we have even if it wasn't the sex we preferred. Congratulations! 
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