Queer, Pregnant, and Parenting! November, December, and January 2013!!! - Page 3

[wishin'&hopin']

DS HATED purees, they gagged him and made him vomit...but hand him an apple (peeled early on) or steamed broccoli and he would gnaw away.  Our ped was clear that "under one was just for fun" and we assumed that he would get everything he needed from breast milk until he was interested in food for more ummm nutritive rather than decorative purposes.  I'd say at 1 y/o about 75-90% of his diet was still breast milk (depending on the day).

[kateadelle]

Originally Posted by seraf 

Kate and Nos, you're next! How are you feeling?

Mostly, I am feeling large!

I am super planning/getting things ready mode, but also I am trying to not to get too anxious since, even though it feels really soon, I could easily be pregnant for  another 2 months. I kind of gave myself a deadline of having most everything ready by the end of this month, which is also when I will be going out on maternity leave. I am hoping to be able to enjoy the time I have off before the baby comes, especially since it will be the beginning of the christmas season. We will have to see how that pans out, though. I got word late last week from my midwives that they have decided that they feel comfortable with going forward with a home birth even if my placenta doesn't move up any more from it's current position, which is great news.

Cordelia - Glad you are safe and sound.

[nosreves]

ditto what Kate said.  i am huge and lumbering these days, and even the handful of maternity clothes i have are losing the battle of the baby bump bulge.  it's still hard to walk or stand for very long, and my new annoyance is hip pain when i'm trying to sleep, but i'm generally in good spirits (except when i'm suddenly crying for no reason or tearing up over something very silly...)  and still can't believe that he will be here in the next 3-8 weeks.   how did that happen???

DP has singlehandedly redone the ceiling and walls in the bathroom and de-wallpapered and primed the walls of the baby's room.  she's my hero.  it's finally going to be painted this weekend, and i'm doing a bunch of mural-y type things based of some of my drawings....or at least i'm going to try.  he won't be sleeping there any time soon, but for some reason we both want him to have his own space ready.   

kate: YAY for the homebirth okay!

[seraf]

Kate and Nos, how about belly pictures?

Nos, I would love to see your murals. His own space will be great for all the stuff that seems to come with a baby. We have a pretty good size apartment (haha, 300 sq ft per person) but we are constantly tripping over baby stuff. Do you have a sling or wrap? You live up sever flights of stairs, right?

[cordelia15]

Hi All!  So now that I have power AND my computer back I am back on to interact!  I was reading everyone's updates on the phone but so hard to engage and type.    So to start off here are my questions 

Name/Username?

cordelia 15

Who is in your family?

Me, DH, and DS (20 months) 

What pronouns do you and your family members use?  She, he, and he 

If you're pregnant, when are you due?  June!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you already have kids, tell us two interesting things about each of them.  My son loves to dance and make music.  If people are over and there is music one, he hands out musical instruments and then tells them, "up, dance" 

If you work outside the home (or inside the home at something other than parenting), what do you do?  I work VERY part time in education.  I also write but not for money in a long time! 

If you stay home with your kids, what do your days tend to look like?  Parks, dancing, swimming, yoga, more parks, library, naps, now that I am exhausted first trimester the occasional tv, play-dates with friends, walking, errands, books, chasing, tickling, art. . 

What are your favorite things to do when you're not working/doing the grunt work of parenting?  sleep!  before I would say yoga, reading, writing, working out, cooking. . 

[planet]

Hey you all!

I really want to respond to all those questions, but I'm nursing and only have my phone and one hands, so next time!

Nos and Kate, exciting!!! I second the request for belly pics.

Seraf, I just read that Shay was born in the car. What!!! I would love to hear that story sometime. How amazing!

Thank you to everyone who responded to my post about sleep problems. It made me feel better. my ND recommended something that helped me break tr of insomnia and now I'm doing better. Still tired and sleep deprived, but not cracked out and miserable. Wylie is now 8 weeks old. He is amazing!!! I am in awe of his constant growth. He does new things every day. Like now he smiles!!! It melts my heart, I'm telling you. He is such a snuggler that he still won't sleep anywhere aside from our bodies. At night he sleeps on my partners chest because when we try to lay him between us in the bed he wakes up immediately. Sigh....

Love to all of you!

[DesertSunsets]

Soooo... some shameless self(baby)-promotion here, forgive me.  We entered a picture of Ever in the Halloween costume contest thread, would you guys consider going and giving her some thumbs'-up?  Thanks! 
http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1366791/show-off-your-spooky-style-enter-the-mothering-halloween-costume-contest-sponsored-by-barefoot-books/80

ETA: she's post #93!

[seraf]

Woah, did y'all see the new mobile site (its a button at the very bottom of the page)? I am wildly confused but very pleased by the readability!

I do most of my posting by phone while Shay is nursing and asleep, but not asleep enough to unlatch. It's next to impossible to use the computer with him around.

[mami2mami]

Hello ladies,

 Now a days we don't find alot of time for personals. We do lurk !

Just wanted to stop by and leave you ladies some pic!

Edited by mami2mami - 11/8/12 at 3:34pm

[nosreves]

seraf -- thank you for pointing that out!  i have been suggesting on all those surveys that they make the site more mobile friendly since last year, and i don't think i would have realized that something had changed if you hadn't mentioned it.  it is sooo much easier to read now (and i imagine that will come in handy in a few weeks.)

i'll put a belly shot up soon...promise.  DP took some of my naked bump tonight and i swear it looks just like i swallowed a basketball.  we don't have any mirrors at stomach level, so i don't get to see it very often....damn, there's a rather large little person in there.

[nosreves]

mami -- crosspost!  i just wanted to say how adorable all your kids are. (only the SuperMami costume is missing from these pictures!)  i especially love the one of the sleeping flower and bear. 

[mami2mami]

Nos- Thank You.

[seraf]

Planet, you mean you weren't following along a year ago? Lol. I saw an OB for financial reasons but I was a home birther at heart. My second birth was very fast and I work an hour away from home so I was paranoid the whole pregnancy that I would give birth in the car. We had a birth kit at home and an emergency birth kit in each car. I went crazy on Halloween and bought a couple hundred dollars worth of groceries, planning to do a big day of cooking the next day (I also disassembled the faucet to clean the inside of the knobs). We built a new headboard in the evening and went to bed at 11. I woke at 1 with contractions but they were irregular. I could tell they were real, so I swept up all the sawdust and went back to bed. I was up and down several times pacing the floor and every time Sara would ask if it was time for her to get up (she was 12 weeks pregnant). She finally got up at four because she wanted to shave her legs before we went to the hospital. We showered, I lay in the bath and we watched an episode of Angel, I walked inside, we walked outside, I sat on a birth ball, I knelt while draped over the ball. At one point i sat on the birthing stool and BROKE IT. We both laughed a lot and Sara helped me out. Around 6 I decided the contractions hurt and it was time to go to the hospital. It sounded like this, "Fuuuuu, damn, mutha fuuuuu, druuuuuugs. I want druuuuuugs." Sara was a bit surprised. Within 5 minutes she had everything ready. "Can't go. I'm pushing. I don't want to have the baby in the car. Besides, if I'm pushing they won't give me drugs anyway." There was a lot more swearing, i sat of the toilet and there was so much blood and bloody mucous that i started getting upset. I looked at the clock and it was 7. I checked myself and I could feel a thimble sized bulge of amniotic sac and baby head through the os. It was very different than it had felt when my DD was born (still in the sac, but about 7 cm when I checked and it felt like a slippery rock). He was moving and his heart rate was good but I told Sara that I though something was wrong, he was stuck and I wanted to go to the hospital. I was naked still and very uncomfortable. Sara dressed me while I lay swearing on the hallway floor. We went downstairs and into the early morning. I asked her if the clock was fast. It was 7:22 as we pulled away from the house. We went through an alley to get pointed toward the town with the hospital and hit a pot hole. At the edge of town I calmly asked Sara to pull over at the next pull off (there's 4 miles of woods between our town and the next). Instead, she pulled over immediately, by a sign. She thought I was going to puke. "What's wrong?"
"There's a head."
"I don't see a head "
"Turn on the light."
Click. "I still don't see a head!"
My perineum was bulging, so while I could feel the head, she couldn't see it yet. She got out and walked to the passenger side where she saw a head and one shoulder but i though she said, "It's out! What do I do?"
"Can you pick it up?"
And I pushed and she caught and announced him and passed his slippery, mewing body between my legs and the sweat pants at my knees. She managed not to cry. At some point before the birth a truck had pulled over behind us, reconsidered and drove away again. She walked back to the driver's seat and got in. It was 7:24. "Where do you want to go?"
"He's breathing, lets go home. We can check him out a lot sooner there." We were still 18 minutes from the hospital and the baby couldn't go in the carseat with the umbilical cord still attached to me, so he rode home on my belly. Sara went in, woke my mom and solicited her help to get Shay and me out of the car. We all had a good chuckle because we tried to time our exit from the car between people coming and going at the post office. The rest of the story is pretty dull. 10 fingers, 10 toes, 2 nipples (all the other guys in my family have 3), 9 pounds, 21.5 inches. We tied and cut the cord in my mom's bathroom after I delivered the placenta. We saw his doctor at 1 and the OB at 2. They laughed when they heard the story. I had a first degree tear along the scar Ari left me. No stitches.



And here, on his first birthday we walked down to his sign.



Mami, the pictures are great. How is it going having all four? Has everyone adjusted? Are things moving toward adoption now with your older guy? How do you keep your house clean? Are both babies on the move? How is your oldest? How are your partner and you settling in?

Nos, there is a banner up too that told me. It says in a few weeks it will automatically read whether you're using a normal computer or mobile device. I like it a lot! I can even load pictures!

About that very large person inside of you, are you getting in the zone for the exit process?

[outdoorsy]

Hello everyone -- old friends and new. I am FINALLY able to graduate from QC. I am 7 1/2 weeks and just had my ultrasound today to confirm the heartbeat. Everything was normal. Hi to Nosreves and everyone I knew at QC!

[DesertSunsets]

OUTDOORSY!!!!

Amazing, incredible, fantastic news!  We are SO happy for you!  Congratulations!!!

It's great to finally have you here with us.  Again, one more time, congratulations.  :)  I've been stalking you forever, and I can't express how glad I am over your heart-bursting news.  

[pokeyAC]

Hi Outdoorsy!  I'm so happy to see you here too!  And I'm glad you have a healthy baby growing in there.  I was also hoping there might be 2 in my belly, and there is only one, but it's a perfect one.  So happy to be your due date buddy! 

[seraf]

Outdoorsy, congratulations!

[nosreves]

OUTDOORSY!!!!! woman, i am soooooo frakking happy to see you here.  it's about damn time!  i hope you aren't too disappointed about it being a singleton...i can promise you that the first ultrasound where you see that little person moving, you won't even remember that you wished for twins.  and just wait until you can feel the baby....it's the coolest thing ever.    yay!!!! and 

[KnittingTigers]

Yay, welcome outdoorsy! (Veggie parade to follow when I'm not on my phone!)

[Cananny]

Outdoorsy ..... Welcome over here !!!!!!! So happy to hear your great news!!!!!!


Afm.....

We are having a Boy....... Another Boy.......& a 3 rd bouncing baby Boy!!!!
We had hoped for a mix but are relieved and happy they are healthy and the tech said looked great very active and good sizes!!!!!