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post #561 of 912
1/8/13 at 5:26pm
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Originally Posted by mrsandmrs View Post

We just had our ultrasound. Twins!! I want to do some crazy emoticons but I'm on my cell phone. Holy mackerel. I'm glad to have so much company of queer multiples mamas.


Threadcrashing from QC... ZOMG, MRSANDMRS AND BIGFOOT! TWINS!! SO HAPPY FOR YOU TWO!

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(And now I'm really dying to hear how teenage DS with react to this new facet of the TTC train... lurk.gif)

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post #562 of 912
1/8/13 at 5:29pm

 YAY mrs2 -that must be so exciting!!!!!  so crazy!

post #563 of 912
1/8/13 at 5:30pm
mrsandmrs- Twins is so exciting and lucky!love.gif:love stork-boy.gif:storkgirl

It was a false labor but if what Seraf said is similar we might be looking at labor really soon. We are staying put for now. It may have just been pee, who knows??
post #564 of 912
1/8/13 at 5:39pm

Woohoo! I know a singleton would be so much easier, but I am elated to get a two-fer deal. It is still so early. There was just a hint of yolk and it was too soon to see heartbeats, so we go back in a week. They measured 5w4d and 5w6d. We are according to LMP exactly 5w4d today. So far so good.

 

We are still feeling out when we want to tell the teenager. We are thinking once we see heartbeats it will be time. Mrs came up with a great plan of ordering a cake that tells him. I decided it should say, "Sorry, buddy. You're going to be a big brother." But then do we tell him the full story (twins) or hold off on that info until he has time to get used to the idea??

 

Also complicated: we have a consultation with a midwife tomorrow. Mrs. thought we should cancel, but I think we should just have our consultation and schedule our first appointment and cancel closer to that date if we still are sure there are two. It will be impossible to get back on their schedule and we don't want an OB unless it is twins.

 

Max - I am so excited for you! I did start to leak pee and thought my water broke towards the end of my pregnancy. Oh, the things we go through.

post #565 of 912
1/8/13 at 5:52pm
Max! I'm so excited for you guys--real labor must be coming soon!

Bigfoot and MrsMrs--congrats on twins! That's so awesome! I would say to meet the midwife and get started--is it possible that the midwife could still be involved in a twin birth? In any case, I'd meet and see if you like her, and then if you need to cancel later maybe she can give you a good referral. I think that cake would be hilarious.
post #566 of 912
1/8/13 at 7:07pm
Thread Starter 
Ahhh! Mrs and Bigfoot!!! Twins!!!!

On my phone at my inlaws. I owe the thread much updating, but just needed to say yay for more multiples. Also, a midwife is delivering my twins, so I'd still at least meet with her.
post #567 of 912
1/8/13 at 7:50pm
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Originally Posted by mrsandmrs View Post

We just had our ultrasound. Twins!! I want to do some crazy emoticons but I'm on my cell phone. Holy mackerel. I'm glad to have so much company of queer multiples mamas.

WOW! I kinda had a feeling with that beta jump. Congrats! joy.gif
post #568 of 912
1/8/13 at 8:15pm

Super big congrats to mrs and bigfoot!

 

And excited news for Max!

post #569 of 912
1/8/13 at 8:28pm
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Originally Posted by KnittingTigers View Post

Ahhh! Mrs and Bigfoot!!! Twins!!!!

On my phone at my inlaws. I owe the thread much updating, but just needed to say yay for more multiples. Also, a midwife is delivering my twins, so I'd still at least meet with her.

 

The practice we were looking at we believe doesn't do hospital births. We were hoping to use their birth house that is walking distance from our house. Apparently it is illegal in our state to have a twin birth at a birth house. I guess we do have a lot more research to do now that we actually have two embryos! But that is encouraging to know you have a midwife. I don't even know how to pick a provider. Last time I was pregnant I was a teenager and didn't pick my own, but somehow magically ended up with an awesome OB.

post #570 of 912
1/8/13 at 8:47pm

bigfoot and mrsx2- Congratulations!  That is wonderful news!  I hope you have 2 sticky beans in there.goodvibes.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

 

max--Very exciting!  Could be any day now.  I hope everything goes smoothly and you get to meet your baby soon!

post #571 of 912
1/9/13 at 5:37am
Dropping in from QC to say congrats on the twins to mrsandmrs and bigfoot. jumpers.gif That's so exciting!
post #572 of 912
1/9/13 at 6:13am

Mrs & Bigfoot - Congratulations!!!!  That is so exciting!  More multiples!  Wishing you good luck in finding really wonderful care.  What state do you live in that it's illegal to have a twin birth at a birthing center?  (I see that you guys are also in the PNW, so I'm curious).

 

Max - Soon!  Will you be present at the birth?

 

Cananny - Sending you comfort and ease as you anticipate the C-section.. I imagine I would be nervous too; it's totally understandable.  I am thankful that it is such a routine surgery that the docs will know what to do.  And I've heard it's really quick, is that true?  I hope you can find some relief of your anxiety before the time comes.  You are really getting there!

 

AFU, today is my mom's first training day with my sweet, patient DP.  I'll be at work and will be feeling just SO curious the whole time to know how it is going.  In a way, it is a moment of truth...Will she be able to do it?  Or are we gonna have to scramble and find other childcare??? 

 

On the topic of what the "mother" does and what the "father" does, I agree that is total BS.  I don't have the patience for that kind of thinking.  Wylie has a very strong bond with both of us and I don't believe it has a thing to do with sex or gender.  I have read similar sentiments in some baby books about how "fathers" need to be taught to be nurturing and that makes me really sad because that is just not true at ALL in our household, and I hope that is not the case in most families, queer or straight. 

post #573 of 912
1/9/13 at 7:23am
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Originally Posted by planet View Post

  I have read similar sentiments in some baby books about how "fathers" need to be taught to be nurturing and that makes me really sad because that is just not true at ALL in our household, and I hope that is not the case in most families, queer or straight. 

I agree. I think there is a lot of discouraging of nurturing behaviors in little boys and a lack of expectation for some fathers. That said most of the dads I know are totally involved and awesome.

Max, news? We are excited for you.

Bigfoot, I love the cake idea.
post #574 of 912
1/9/13 at 7:50am

Hey all!  For those of you that aren't following the Queer Conceptions board, I got my BFP last night!

post #575 of 912
1/9/13 at 7:52am

Wow!  I don't look at MDC for 24 hours and the board explodes!  Congrat's to Bigfoot and Mrs!!!!  I love the cake idea...and think waiting 'till you see heartbeats is probably a good idea (grow beans, grow!).  Max--continuing to think about you and all those who will be ushering your little into the world!  

 

Okay, I think I know what thread is being referred to RE gender roles in parenting (specifically around nursing) and I find the whole thing pretty infuriating (partially b/c I won't be the nursing mama this next go around but I WILL be the stay at home parent...).  And, I feel so much sorrow for the dads in hetero relationships who get the consistent message that their ability to bond/parent is somehow inferior to that of the "mom".  I think the whole thing sets parents up for failure...I know stay at home dads and they've had to work hard to overcome the societal set up/expectations (as have the work out of home moms in those families).  Yeah, nursing is pretty darn important (our son just weaned in September) but it's not everything...and it's not every second of every day...and thank goodness for collaborative parenting!!!  

post #576 of 912
1/9/13 at 8:33am

planet - We live in Washington. In my preliminary research, it seems like our options are a home birth with a midwife or an OR birth with an OB. I know there are some midwives around the south sound (oly/tacoma) who will do home births with twins, but I don't know if that's the right answer for us. Obviously we have a lot of research to do.

 

max - we're on pins & needles waiting for news from you! i hope everything's going well! 

 

esenbee - i said it on QC but there are never enough dancing veggies. yay!carrot.gifbroc1.gifbanana.gifcarrot.gifbroc1.gifbanana.gif

post #577 of 912
1/9/13 at 8:49am

mrs-In California we have Licensed Midwives who do homebirths and they are not allowed to work with twin births because they are considered high risk.  Birth centers here are run by LM's usually and are not connected to hospitals so I imagine they have to follow the same guidelines.  Nurse midwives may have different rules but I don't think they can attend twin births at home either.  Perhaps they can in a hospital.  It seems like in some states, birth centers are somehow affiliated with hospitals and nearby so they may have different rules.  I hope you find someone great!

 

Congrats again to esenbee!  biggrinbounce.gif

post #578 of 912
1/9/13 at 9:04am
Hi Everyone!

Max: It sounds like you are getting very close to holding your baby. I'm so excited for you!

Mrs & Bigfoot: Wow! Twins! How exciting! I think your cake sounds wonderful and hilarious.

Planet: I hope things are going well with your mom and DP!

Esenbee: Congratulations! joy.gif

Seraf: Have you discovered/invented any interesting new recipes lately?

Does anyone have book recommendations for one-year-olds? We could use some new ideas of what to request from the library!
post #579 of 912
1/9/13 at 9:14am

Escher -My two favorite books that I have read to DD from when she was an infant to now, are Good Luck Bear and Thank You Bear by Greg Foley.  He also has Don't Worry Bear, Make a Wish Bear and I Miss You Mouse.

post #580 of 912
1/9/13 at 10:26am

pokey - the only birth center in my town is free-standing and the only midwives who deliver there are LMs. it's a delightful place. i was hoping to deliver there.... until, you know. there are not any birth centers attached to hospitals here. there are just like, the birthing wings of the hospital, which i don't consider to be a "birth center." it's a small town for a capital city. there are LMs in the area who will attend home births of twins, but it is difficult, i assume because of the insurance issues involved in attending high risk home births. i have heard from people who know midwives that do it, but i don't think that's something we're interested in. I guess the next step is to check and see if any of the CNMs would attend a twin birth in a hospital, and then see if we like them. 

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