The doulas around here do 2 home visits prior to labour.
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The doulas around here do 2 home visits prior to labour.
Pokey -that's a good thought!
Through everyone's weigh in, along with a google search that came to the same consensus, I think I have decided to not do the whole Bradley thing again. DSp will be SO relieved! He did NOT want to sit through 12 weeks of classes again!. It is a common joke in our house about our "10 Mondays"... (We missed the first 2 weeks.) I really liked Pokey's idea of a doula that does refresher courses too. The search is on! I feel like I have done nothing but search! Yesterday was all about finding a new OB! I had picked one out last year, but the only OB that I could find that had relatively the same ideas was one of the only practices in the area that did VBACs. I didn't have a cesarean, but it was the most friendly toward the natural side of labor that I had found. I have had two annuals with one of the OB's and she was nice enough but not terribly warm and friendly and I got to thinking that I just didn't think we could develop a good enough respect for the birth to go how I envision it. SO I finally found a new-to-the-area midwife (CNW, the only kind that I can have attend my birth legally in Kentucky). She just started accepting patients December 3rd! I am so excited to have found her! In Louisville, my only options are a home birth or a hospital birth. Home birth makes DSp nervous and our home is not really an ideal place to deliver, so hospital it is. With the new midwife, delivery will be at a different hospital too, so that's a plus!
Hi - glad to hear folks are doing well. Someone asked about the DNA test I'm getting, and I forgot to answer.... it's the Harmony test, which picks up fetal DNA in the mom's blood. It tests for Down's and two other things.
Our doula was moving furniture and putting away groceries at our home birth lol My water broke with no warning 4 days before my EDD and I went into labour later that day. We assumed I would be overdue even though my doula guessed I'd go early....she was right.
We have a very cluttered place - quite different from when I lived alone. But we all love our home so it's easier to overlook it ;)
carmen -have you told DD about her being a big sis? Been preparing her for the possibility? We started last year when we were trying. She was cool with it. But now, she HATES the idea. We visited with an out of town friend who came home for a visit. She has an almost 2 year old and Lillie was trying to talk to her and play with her at dinner. She got so mad when the little girl didn't talk to her and when she was messy with eating her food. She said some AWFULLY mean things. I was mortified! So now, she is protesting having a baby sleep in her room and absolutely "does NOT want a baby slobbering on her toys!" How is your DD taking it?
cananny. . . sending good energy around the c-section, it's always a little nerve wracking but hope it goes smoothly. And I def had 3rd trimester anxiety, and mood swings too. I almost punched a man on the street once who said something rude to me. (I still maintain he deserved it though :) ) Just personally the worst part of the c-section for me was having no idea it was coming, I think in some ways knowing ahead of time makes it so much easier.
seraf. . I agree, that is amazing about the bone marrow, good luck to sara on that one!
glassesgirl, yup, I know what you mean about the annoying expectations. My DH (is trans) and is not out at work and he had said how he doesn't like to stay late bc he wants to be home for his son and to give me a break and someone said, "she really has you whipped, huh?" which made us so insanely mad. First, the expectation that dads don't "do" child care in the same way or even possible WANT to see their kids before bedtime. Some of our household chores do end up getting oddly "gender-typed" but often bc of interest and when we have free time than anything else. But any type of EXPECTATIOn that people clean the house or do the dishes bc they are the M/F is insane to me at this stage of the game! (as a side not, I was also part of Free To Be gen but we laugh/change the words when we hear the part about "every boy in this land grows to be his own man, every girl . . to be her own woman "
carmen. . CONGRATS on the 10 weeks!
mrsandmrs.. congrats on the twins!
max. . I do think other stuff can come out, for me when my water broke is was DEF unmistakable but I had really high fluid levels.. hope it comes SOON!
bigfoot. . congrats on the twins too!
essenbee! YAY so happy for you and welcome to this side!
planet.. glad things went well with your mom, it sound promising for sure!
outdoorsy . .good luck with the Harmony, I did the other version of that, the materniT21. .
Okay. . sorry if I missed anyone else, I keep reading and wanting to comment and connect and am just so overwhelmed in general. . at 18 weeks tomorrow, still feeling tired and mildly sick though I did finally make it back to the gym so I am hoping that has a positive effect on me and life in general. . I miss being active though I guess I walk at least an hour a day since I am in the city and it's the only way to get around (well that makes sense for me) Excited to hit the 1/2 mark and for my anatomy scan at the end of the month to see our little girl again. Oh and anyone have a prenatal they love? I just switched to this one that I think is healthier but I'm not convinced it's not making me more nauseous. Preferably something on the milder side?
I've always taken sisu multi expecting. I take one twice a day, with food. It's never made me sick (other than the nausea that comes with early pregnancy anyway). I also take nordic naturals prenatal DHA - twice a day as well.