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post #621 of 912

Eep, seraf. Glad to hear the worst of it was scraped skin! And I hope little Soren is ok. Keep us updated.

post #622 of 912
The update is, only the ER will see babies under 1.
post #623 of 912
They want to cath him and test his blood. Sara said they said, "Sometimes uncircumcised boys get UTIs." And tried to retract him. She stopped the doc.

They're going to draw blood, not cath (why put him through that of we know he has a UTI? The culture and sensitivity would take days to come back, so they can wait on a clean catch) and she's going too call me back next time the doctor comes in.
post #624 of 912

Seraf--one of the "risk" factors for UTI in male babies is being uncirced (which is why they want to cath him to check--it's "medically indicated".  However, they do NOT need to retract him to cath him...and there are alternatives for clean catch).  Keep in mind too, for those considering circumcision, UTIs, even in uncirced male babies are really rare--SO rare that DW has never seen an uncircumcised baby w/ a UTI (she's a family practice doc) but HAS seen babies w/ circumcision complications.  I hope Soren feels better soon...(another alternative to cathing can be wiping his boy bits down w/ alcohol and taping a baggie to him and having him pee in that (the NICU I worked in did that preferentially to cath).  Fingers crossed it clears up soon!  

post #625 of 912
Wishin, we practice EC, he will pee in a cup. I agree that it's rare. Like 1% of intact baby boys. They didn't want to use a bag because they said it has a high rate of false positive. Then they didn't really want to cath because his foreskin is so tight. They are upset that we don't gently retract to loosen it up. Then they said a clean catch wouldn't be good enough because of all the bacteria under his foreskin. I said, you saw how tight his foreskin is, it's almost like an extension of his urethra, I'm not concerned about those bacteria.

He was generally, "sure, we'll do it however you want." But he wants us to talk to the doctor about how much retraction is appropriate. They gave Sara and chux pad and a sterile cup per my request. He is napping without a diaper and people keep offering Sara a bag.
post #626 of 912
Seraf: I'm thinking about you all! What a scary fall, but I'm glad that everyone was ok from that. I hope that Soren can quickly get the treatment he needs!
post #627 of 912
Seraf- I am very sorry to hear about Soren's accident. It sounds really scary and hospitals make me nervous too. I always think they are going to do something unauthorized. Good luck to the little boy.

Pokey- I sent you a PM about borrowing your breast feeding book.

AFM- Pumping is working! I am getting more drops now than ever before. I am very encouraged that I will be able to produce some milk on my own. I'm two weeks into my medication at this point. I also started taking my progesterone again and that may have helped kick start it a little more. Started using Lanolin on my nipples because they are SORE. We are one week away from the official due date. I texted with the birth mom today and she is really uncomfortable. Hopefully it will come very soon.
post #628 of 912
Max, yay on the pumping. This is your last TWW for a long time!

Escher, thanks, me too.

After waiting for 4 hours, he pees several times not in a cup (while they drew blood :-( ) and put a tiny bit into the cup after a nap. His pee is fine but he's anemic, they say. Sara said it was cloudy still and dark yellow.
post #629 of 912

seraf.  .hope that soren is okay!  glad his pee is fine and hope it's just the anemia. . glad they didn't retract him (insert head banging icon here) 

 

thanks for the prenatal advice!  I will look at few

 

max.  .congrats on the pumping progress. . and some unsolicited advice, you may already know this but . . have you looked into different size flanges for the pump?  Mine hurt so much before I realized I could buy a bigger size! 

post #630 of 912

Seraf: Poor babe, it makes me so sad when babes have to get blood drawn. I hope he starts to feel better soon. So he doesn't have a UTI but is anemic? What are they going to do for that? Make him take those sludge iron drops?

 

Max: Yay! Milk! I think it is so cool that you are getting drops. I bet every drop you see is better than gold!

post #631 of 912

Max - what are y'all doing to kill the time while you wait? Nesting like crazy?

 

Seraf - Hope Soren is feeling better today! It is so hard when our kids our sick.

 

I caught some sort of terrible cold with a fever. I have never been so scared about getting the wife sick! I am finding that having a pregnant partner comes with a lot more paranoia than being pregnant myself, and am trying not to be a stress case. She spent a couple days on the sofa since I had already filled the bedroom with germs, and then went out of town. I should no longer be contagious, so I am now with her in PDX at the hospital as our friends had a gorgeous baby boy today. He is in the NICU due to breathing issues and I am staying far away from him!

 

The Mrs. is a little pukier each week, which is a good sign but also a struggle. I have purchased every morning sickness aid I can think of: hard candies, ginger chews, crystallized ginger, crackers, sea bands, and bottles of lemon and peppermint essential oils for her to sniff on. They help a little. Luckily eating small amounts frequently seems to help and she is keeping it down. Also protein seems to be the easiest to tolerate, which seems lucky!

 

I am the only one in our house who has had a flu shot, and the pressure is on for Mrs. to get one. Everything seems to say it is the thing to do even in the first trimester, but it makes me nervous.

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post #633 of 912
Bigfoot, sour patch kids might help the queasies. I'm glad you're feeling better.

The injera was sub par but everything else was great. Shay was obsessed with the baby company when I held him and he kept trying to feed him orange slices. Soren has been in pretty good spirits. He still doesn't seem to be peeing as much as usual, but it's clear now.
post #634 of 912
Sara/Seraf, what a load of crap they fed you. You absolutely do not retract to get a catheter in. And a bag is perfectly fine, we use them all the time in NICU. If we're really concerned we do an in and out catheter (ie if the dipstick is positive for red blood cells, white blood cells and/or nitrites). I hope they got his blood quickly and it didn't take too many pokes. greensad.gif poor little guy.
post #635 of 912
Bigfoot- to pass the time I am reading this forum every time I pump. I'm pumping about four times a day now and producing about a ml. DP and I are nesting like crazy. He is having all the air ducts cleaned professionally tomorrow, I didn't even know that was a thing. Our friends lent us an infant car seat so we are going to bring that with us when we get the call. We have registered at two places. I have the baby announcements ready for final entries. Reading baby's first year. And this weekend we watched Survivor China.

For nausea try a fresh lemon. The smell always helped me. I also love ginger ale when I'm sick.
post #636 of 912

28 weeks today.. a big milestone for triplets. out next is 30 weeks.. im growing away!

 

Bigfoot.. sorry Mrs is having tough time with morning sickness.. I am sooo thankful I did not have to deal with it at all.. A few weeks ago  i was having some nausea after eating but that has subsided.. I hope she finds some relief

 

Seraf.. Glad Soren seems to be mending.. And glad Sarah advocated what was right for your guys son!

 

Max.. you must be going crazy with anticipation! Hoping the baby makes an entrance soon and congrats on getting milk! are you freezing any you get or just trying to get a supply at this point? My DP was told to pump every 3 hrs if she wanted to induce lactation..she decided that is not really workable with her work ect.. but something to think about... you do have to pump Alot to get a supply going..I am so hopeful you will get a good supply!!!!

 

AFM...tired .. very very tired.. harder and harder to do much things ! 

post #637 of 912
Darth, they didn't want to retract to cath, I'm guessing they couldn't visualize his urethra with ease. He actually has the shortest foreskin of any of my boys, but it's still totally adhered.

Max, a ml is awesome. You will be nursing many times a day soon, so you'll get lots of stimulation soon. It's exciting that she could be here any time.

CaNanny, there are lots of babies in there!!! Awesome belly. Do you have to get prednisone shot or does the first one work until they come?
post #638 of 912
Hi Everyone,

Cananny: Look at that beautiful belly! I can see why you would be tired. You are doing such an amazing job of growing those babies!

Max: I'm so impressed by the milk you're producing! How exciting. And nursing is SO much nicer than pumping. Soon! Are you planning to use a SNS or just do a mix of bottles and nursing?

Seraf: I'm glad that Shay enjoyed his baby company, and that Soren's pee is clear. I'm sorry the injera wasn't fantastic, but I'm still extremely impressed that you tried to make it!

Bigfoot: I know this doesn't work for everyone, but when I was pregnant the only thing that really helped with the nausea was eating a LOT of protein. I think Bradley recommends 100 grams a day, and when I ate that much I felt noticably better. It was hard for me to get that much (maybe because I'm vegetarian), but plain Nonfat Oikos Organic Yogurt has 23 grams of protein per cup, so I ate a lot of that. Good luck finding something that works!

Hi to everyone else!

Does anyone have a lovely gentle nightweaning story they would like to share? Advice is also welcome.
post #639 of 912
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Max - what are y'all doing to kill the time while you wait? Nesting like crazy?

 

Seraf - Hope Soren is feeling better today! It is so hard when our kids our sick.

 

I caught some sort of terrible cold with a fever. I have never been so scared about getting the wife sick! I am finding that having a pregnant partner comes with a lot more paranoia than being pregnant myself, and am trying not to be a stress case. She spent a couple days on the sofa since I had already filled the bedroom with germs, and then went out of town. I should no longer be contagious, so I am now with her in PDX at the hospital as our friends had a gorgeous baby boy today. He is in the NICU due to breathing issues and I am staying far away from him!

 

The Mrs. is a little pukier each week, which is a good sign but also a struggle. I have purchased every morning sickness aid I can think of: hard candies, ginger chews, crystallized ginger, crackers, sea bands, and bottles of lemon and peppermint essential oils for her to sniff on. They help a little. Luckily eating small amounts frequently seems to help and she is keeping it down. Also protein seems to be the easiest to tolerate, which seems lucky!

 

I am the only one in our house who has had a flu shot, and the pressure is on for Mrs. to get one. Everything seems to say it is the thing to do even in the first trimester, but it makes me nervous.

 

Ugh on the nausea. Mine is only in the evenings now or if I eat too much. It started really early for me this time and when it hits it is very intense but unlike my pregnancy with DD it has not an all day affair. The eating small amounts all day is a great idea. I take Cocculine - if you are into homeopathics, ask about it at your local vitamin store. A pregnant homeopathic doctor recommended it to me with DD and it works really well most of the time!

 

Awesome belly, cananny!

 

Afm: I have my first midwife appointment tomorrow. I'm excited :) I'm not sure that she will try the doppler - I'll be a day shy of 11 weeks. I also go for blood work on Wednesday for the first part of first trimester screening. SO tired this morning, I was up way too late last night worrying about whether we should sell our place now or wait a couple of years....we're really not sure what to do. I'm actually struggling with not being able to nap during this pregnancy....when the heck do I find time to sleep?? I'm in bed most nights at 8:30 or 9 with DD (I get up at 5:30) and even that doesn't seem to be enough!

post #640 of 912
Escher, no advice but is your DW a great sleeper? Maybe there's hope for the next baby?

Carmen, naps are harder when you already have a kid. I don't think I managed 3 naps between my 3 pregnancies. Can you sneak in a power nap when your DP gets home from work or a long nap on weekends? Next year when you're off work, will your DD stay home or go to daycare?
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