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post #641 of 912
1/14/13 at 7:58am
Thanks everyone .. Yes lots of babies in here!!!

Seraf... Well my 1 at doctor who I loved and was crushed when I had to change thanks to insurance bs gave me first one at. 24 w and said I should repeat at 30 w... Well new doctor who I really don't like but have no other choice said no to second shot that I don't need it that there's be time before delivery if we went before 32 weeks.. He said it can impact brain development ect.. So I guess I won't be getting it ... He said after 31/32 weeks their lungs will be developed enough...sigh

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post #642 of 912
1/14/13 at 8:00am
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Escher, no advice but is your DW a great sleeper? Maybe there's hope for the next baby?

Seraf: She is a good sleeper, but I am a GREAT sleeper, so I don't have much hope for her genes making the kid sleepier than my genes. orngtongue.gif

Carmen: Good luck with your appointment tomorrow!
post #643 of 912
1/14/13 at 8:34am
Cananny- sorry you hate your new dr. That must suck. Good job to you for keeping those babies in there so long. They are going to be born in the year of the dragon and its super lucky.

Escher- yes we will try to use an SNS exclusively with breast feeding. I wrote to another woman on mothering who breastfed her adopted daughter and she had a lot of good advice.

Well birth mom is 4cm dilated but she is not in active labor yet. I can tell from her texts that she wants it to just happen already.
post #644 of 912
1/14/13 at 9:03am
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Escher, no advice but is your DW a great sleeper? Maybe there's hope for the next baby?

Carmen, naps are harder when you already have a kid. I don't think I managed 3 naps between my 3 pregnancies. Can you sneak in a power nap when your DP gets home from work or a long nap on weekends? Next year when you're off work, will your DD stay home or go to daycare?

My DP doesn't get home until 7:30 or 8....she works long hours. She is home Mon. and Tues. though....but DD is so excited when I get home I hate to nap. I guess I should try on those days though. DD only goes to daycare 2 days a week and yes, we'd like to keep her in if we can afford it - she started a year ago and the woman and other kids are just amazing. We want to save her spot and selfishly, it would give me a break. I hope to take 18 months off again this time.

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Cananny- sorry you hate your new dr. That must suck. Good job to you for keeping those babies in there so long. They are going to be born in the year of the dragon and its super lucky.

Escher- yes we will try to use an SNS exclusively with breast feeding. I wrote to another woman on mothering who breastfed her adopted daughter and she had a lot of good advice.

Well birth mom is 4cm dilated but she is not in active labor yet. I can tell from her texts that she wants it to just happen already.

I can imagine she's getting impatient!!! C'mon baby!
post #645 of 912
1/14/13 at 9:17am

carmen - I also am experiencing nausea earlier than with DD's pregnancy.  I didn't even know I was pregnant with DD at the point that I am at right now, so maybe I didn't notice because I didn't know??  I also have EXTREME breast tenderness that I never had throughout my entire pregnancy with DD.  I definitely think I would have noticed it with DD, even though  I didn't know.  My nausea tends to happen when I am eating and getting too full (and also when I am getting too hungry).  I bought some Preggie Pop Drops and they seem to be helping.  Also, I never had any food aversions w/ DD, but so far I have had pasta w/ marinara aversions and grilled onion aversions, where I almost ended up needing to run to the bathroom to throw up.  NOT FUN, pasta is one of my favorite foods!

post #646 of 912
1/14/13 at 9:36am

Thanks for the nausea tips, everyone! 

 

Escher - we are vegetarian, too (ovo-lacto) and I think the protein is working best for her nausea. I can pretty easily get 80g a day but DW finds it a little tougher. I think with twins we are looking at aiming for 120+ a day? We are waiting for our library holds to come in (including the Barbara Luke book everyone loves). We already switched her to Greek yogurt, although I have to say it is hard to find organic Greek yogurt around here for some reason. I have had to get single servings from Trader Joe's. I've also packed a ton of 1/4 cup servings of nuts. I am ready to make hummus and baked tofu  as soon as her pregnancy induced food aversions allow it! Now if only I could convince her that cottage cheese and hard boiled eggs are delicious.

 

Max - whoa, 4cm sounds good!

 

Cananny - lookin' good! Wow, 28 weeks!

post #647 of 912
1/14/13 at 9:42am
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Thanks everyone .. Yes lots of babies in here!!!

Seraf... Well my 1 at doctor who I loved and was crushed when I had to change thanks to insurance bs gave me first one at. 24 w and said I should repeat at 30 w... Well new doctor who I really don't like but have no other choice said no to second shot that I don't need it that there's be time before delivery if we went before 32 weeks.. He said it can impact brain development ect.. So I guess I won't be getting it ... He said after 31/32 weeks their lungs will be developed enough...sigh

Yes, my doctor told me that in a trial run in mice, some of the baby mice had slightly smaller brains. He said though "really, from my experience, the kids are only as dumb as their parents". He says what he thinks. smile.gif It was left up to us though to make the decision on whether or not to get the shot...
post #648 of 912
1/14/13 at 9:46am
Bigfoot- I am also vegetarian. Have you tried Tara's Whey? It's a goat whey protein and there is a pomegranate flavor that makes a delicious shake. I'm not a big fan of processed food but I love my soy chicken and black bean burgers.

Just found out its going to be a girl!!! Still no active labor yet.
post #649 of 912
1/14/13 at 10:55am

MAX.. a girl.. wohoooo.. are you on your way to nevada yet? 

 

We really wanted a baby in the year of the dragon.. I am the year of the dragon.. and this year was extra special.. but the ONLY way these boys will be dragons is if they are born by Feb 8th or 9th.. I mean that could happen... but more than likely they will be snakes... 

 

I think the doctor would do another shot but it would be a fight.. and even though i really dont like him.. he is one of the best.. just crap bedside manner.... 

post #650 of 912
1/14/13 at 10:58am
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Bigfoot- I am also vegetarian. Have you tried Tara's Whey? It's a goat whey protein and there is a pomegranate flavor that makes a delicious shake. I'm not a big fan of processed food but I love my soy chicken and black bean burgers.

Just found out its going to be a girl!!! Still no active labor yet.

 

A GIRL!

 

We have hemp protein powder since we get a lot of dairy and soy in our diet. I will keep an eye out for Tara's Whey. I bet it packs a bigger protein punch than hemp. Smoothies are a favorite around here.

post #651 of 912
1/14/13 at 11:18am
Max--Oh, I am SO EXCITED!! I forget--are you guys going to be in the hospital/room for the birth? Or are you planning to go after she's born (she! So awesome!)?

Bigfoot--have her try a hardboiled egg if she hasn't lately--I don't usually eat them, but that was my go-to early pregnancy snack for exactly that reason (that, and I started wanting to drink glasses of milk, which usually grosses me out).

Hi to everyone else! Things are moving so fast around here!

At my house, all of the crappy sleep and fussiness has been explained--Edie is getting both top teeth in at once! I think one might have actually cut already, but since she's still resisting exploration I can only get glimpses of it when we get her to smile upside down. I had gotten really used to her fighting us on taking tylenol, so it was funny last night when I was standing there with a syringe full of it, waiting for DP to finish the diaper change and finally she was like, 'um, the baby is wondering why you aren't giving that to her.' Sure enough, she was staring at me like crazy and happily took the whole syringe, no complaints. I wonder if she's made the connection between that and the pain relief?

Oh! and a question! We're going to an indoor water park with some other local queer families this weekend--I think Edie might be the youngest kid going, and I don't know if we should get some kind of fancy floaty swimsuit thing for her. What are your thoughts? We've got a plain swimsuit and some swim diapers, so we're set in that regard, but should we look into some kind of floaty suit? Obviously we're not planning on letting her out of our sight/arms, but should get get one just in case?
post #652 of 912
1/14/13 at 12:13pm
Max--Wonderful news! I hope things begin to progress soon!\

Bigfoot--Fruit seemed to be the only thing that helped me.
post #653 of 912
1/14/13 at 12:43pm
Ida, meh... I used to teach swim lessons and I find now that floating things on the baby impede my ability to feel that I've got a hold on them, or impede my ability to help them learn to feel safe in the water. If you are comfortable in the water, then I wouldn't bother. However, if you don't feel good about your own swimming abilities then it may be a good option! Most pools have baby sized PFDs as well that you can borrow if you want to try something out without having to buy it, or ask another family if you can borrow something.
post #654 of 912
1/14/13 at 2:07pm
Isa, no floaty suit is my vote. Their heads are still too big for them to stay upright in my experience. I've pulled too many kids (2 was more than enough for me!) from face down in water wearing them.

Max, yay girl!!!!!!
post #655 of 912
1/14/13 at 3:31pm
I vote no floaty suit as well...they seem awkward and as you said little one will not be out of arm's reach anyway.
post #656 of 912
1/14/13 at 3:51pm

At what point would you start to worry about someone who's pregnant not gaining weight?  I know this is a question for a doctor, but just wanted opinions from people here who maybe gained weight later in their pregnancies and still had healthy babies.  DW was 17 weeks yesterday and has yet to gain an ounce of weight and even dropped a couple pounds after a stomach bug picked up in Mexico (probably).  Do I force feed her?  Just expect that her body will know what it's supposed to do when the time is right?  At least half a pound of baby should be in there by now!

 

Congrats to those with milestones (and babies!) coming up!

post #657 of 912
1/14/13 at 4:09pm
East, I didn't gain much or easily with my first pregnancy. I lost 12 pounds my first trimester, was up 7 pounds by the third trimester and 27 by the end. I was on the small side to begin with. Baby was 8 pounds 6 ounces and quite healthy. I had no problem making milk BUT I was at my pre pregnancy weight at 3 days post partum and 20 pounds under at 2 weeks. It took me 18 months to get back to normal. I put effort into gaining more with subsequent pregnancies, but they were all quite healthy. Sara didn't gain until the second half of pregnancy, I think.
post #658 of 912
1/14/13 at 4:10pm
E2W with DD, I only gained 10 lb the entire pregnancy. After the first 10 weeks, I had lost 5, then gained 15 along the way, for a net of 10 lbs. DD was perfectly healthy. I didn't have an appetite at all, but I tried so hard to eat. DD was small, 5 lb. 3 oz, but was healthy. I had a horrible OB who used ultrasound almost every appointment to measure DD growth and never got a base measurement of fundal height. At the end, they did an ultrasound and said DD hadn't gained any weight from the last ultrasound, so we needed to induce that night and basically you can just shit on your birth plan... So that is one thing I would caution you, of she continues to not have very much weight gain; you might have to fight doctors if you have the interventionists type of OB even in a healthy pregnancy. That was my experience, at least.
post #659 of 912
1/14/13 at 4:30pm
Oh, random historical bit, both my grandmas weren't allowed to gain more than 5 pounds the whole pregnancy. They were encouraged to smoke to keep their weight gain down. One of them said if you gained too much between visits, they would put a pig stamp on your chart. 3 pigs and they kicked you out as a patient. I have heard that low birth weight babies had a better chance of coming out safely when rickets made pelvic outlets more problematic. I really can't imagine only gaining 5 pounds.
post #660 of 912
1/14/13 at 8:51pm

I have no idea when (or if) it's a issue. I lost 5 pounds at the beginning of both pregnancies (I'm heavier this time around) and last time I gained about 25lbs overall. My midwives don't weight clients but I weighed myself a week or so before birth because I was curious.

 

Seraf, where the heck did your grandmothers live?

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