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Carmen, Illinois and Michigan. This is the ony article I could find that mentions restricting weight gain, but it says 15 and my grandmas both said 5.
post #662 of 912
Easttowest, I wouldn't worry just yet. My wife lost ten pounds at the beginning of her pregnancy, and she was trim to start. Once her body started to normalize and get used to the pregnancy, she was fine, although slow to gain until her 3rd trimester. Total she ended up gaining 40 lbs and was all baby. Four months postpartum she's within a few pounds of pre-pregnancy.
post #663 of 912
Thanks for the input! no floaty suit it is! That dovetails nicely with my desire not to have to buy anything.

East--half a pound of baby seems like it would be easy to offset with a really good stomach bug and maybe a little morning sickness. I'm sure she'll start gaining more weight soon, once the parts stop forming and the baby moves into 'getting bigger' mode. I can see how you would worry, though! I put on weight the whole way through, mostly because eating is the only way for me to avoid nausea. I think it ended up being 65lbs over the whole pregnancy--Seraf, I would have had to smoke a LOT.

I had a horrible night last night--clogged duct sometime in the evening, so I ended up really swollen and in pain. Edie isn't nursing as forcefully as she did when she was little, so that didn't work as a solution (she also only will nurse in her normal position. Any attempt to change it up for some extra gravity was met with angry flailing). So. Miserable. Luckily this morning I was able to pump pretty effectively, so now I am just really, really sore, but there aren't any hard parts any more. It's funny--I haven't had any kind of clogged ducts since she was really little, but we saw a friend who was fighting off mastitis over the weekend. It didn't occur to me that I might be able to catch it. Anyone know if that's even possible? It seems unlikely, but the timing is so strange...

Max--I've been thinking of you and your baby's birthmom all morning. I hope things are progressing!
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Isa ... I was going to chime in for no baby floaty suit either.  I think it gives a false sense of security for everyone involved.  It makes baby think they can actually float by themselves (bad idea), and it causes some parents to think that they can let go for a minute before the child can properly swim (also bad idea, re: secondary drowning).

Our kids have been in pools and lakes and oceans from four months old, and our 4-year-old is just now using a floating ring thing or a pool noodle when she's in the water (because she doesn't like to put her head under water).  Other than that, we've kept them in arms, or shallow enough for them to explore on their own.  We go swimming about 1-2 times a week. 

Plus those floaty things look really uncomfortable!

 

Waiting for news, Max!

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Oh, and I meant to say that catching mastitis is VERY rare, although your babies might've given it to each other and then E gave it to you.  Unless you were lovin' up the other woman's breasts?  It's usually a plain ol' staph infection.  What bizarre timing!  It's as if you subconsciously manifested it!  

I hope it works itself out.  Try hanging out on all fours above E and see if she'll latch on.  Cleared mine.  Would've hated anyone to have taken a picture, but it worked!

post #666 of 912
Seraf, very bizarre.

Sorry you had a bad night, Isa. That sounds miserable. I think I heard that cool compresses help with the pain....? Hopefully it clears up.

Afm: midwife appointment went really well. The student who was sitting in found the heartbeat on the Doppler in just a few minutes which was awesome. Love that sound! The only negative thing about the visit is that both my favorite midwives are on vacation in August so neither of them will be attending the birth. I'm disappointed but I do like another one in the group a lot too. I haven't met the other yet. So, overall, another positive step for me!
post #667 of 912
Thread Starter 

Hi everyone,

 

It's your delinquent threadkeeper popping in again to say hello! Mrs and Bigfoot, y'all are updated on the front page. Anyone else need to be added/changed/updated? Essenbee?

 

Speaking of, congrats, Essenbee on making it over here! So psyched for you guys!

 

mrsandmrs, I'm sorry you're having lots of nausea. Mine was horrific, and (sorry) it lasted well into the second trimester. For me, 2% Total/Fage Greek yogurt has been a lifesaver. I also ate a whole lot of bagels and cream cheese in the first trimester when the nausea was at its worst. For awhile, shoving a big cream cheesy bagel in my mouth was the only thing that made me feel better.

 

Isa, hope you're feeling better. Clogged ducts are the worst.:(

 

Max, I am so excited for you guys! Any day now!

 

Escher, glad to see you back here! I used to post as AngelaM, and remember when you were pregnant. We moved from DC about a year and a half ago, but I remember talking about a meetup back then! Congrats on planning for number 2!

 

Pokey, what size do you wear? I have a couple pairs of maternity work pants that I could send you. I outgrew all of my small and medium stuff awhile ago.

 

Carmen, yay!!!! So glad to hear that this pregnancy is going well!

 

Sara and Seraf, hope everyone is feeling better. That ER visit sounds crazy stressful.

 

Sorry, I know I'm missing lots of people. I've had very little free time to post, so I've been trying to read along, but I'm falling a bit behind.

 

AFM, we will be 25 weeks tomorrow! The babies looked good at their ultrasound last week. Both are measuring just about a pound and a half- right on schedule! We are currently in the middle of visiting a bunch of kindergartens for DD next year (our district has tons of magnets and a couple charters, and the applications are all due now), as well as touring potential daycares for the twins. It's been a lot. I've also been really sad about the prospect of taking DD out of the Montessori school where she's been for the past two years. She is doing so well there, and we love it, but there is just no way we can afford to keep sending her there and pay for daycare for two babies. A couple of the schools we've toured have been great, but everything is by lottery, so there are no guarantees. Keep your fingers crossed for us!

 

Also, while I'm thinking of it, would anyone like to be threadkeeper for Feb, Mar, April? The time is coming...

post #668 of 912
Good to hear the twins are doing well, knitting smile.gif I'm sorry DD has to change schools but hopefully ou can find an equally great one. We still have a couple of years before we have to start thinking too seriously about schools (or home schooling) but I do think about it a lot already. Good luck in your search!

Also, I guess you can add me to the due date list. I'm due August 7.
post #669 of 912
Isa, I think the whole population weighed less back then in general. They had no fast food and little convenience food (one of them used to make a dish called Irish spaghetti, I asked her about it and she said condensed canned tomato and cream of mushroom soups were available but spaghetti sauce took all day to cook and she had 5 under 5 at one point).

Angela, good luck with the school search.

Carmen, maybe you'll just love more midwives by the end?

Soren has come up to the 17th percentile and the doctor just told us to feed Sara and Soren iron and C rich foods and recheck in a month to see if it's an absorption problem.
post #670 of 912

knitting -I could be updated to EDD September 20

post #671 of 912
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Isa, I think the whole population weighed less back then in general. They had no fast food and little convenience food (one of them used to make a dish called Irish spaghetti, I asked her about it and she said condensed canned tomato and cream of mushroom soups were available but spaghetti sauce took all day to cook and she had 5 under 5 at one point).

Angela, good luck with the school search.

Carmen, maybe you'll just love more midwives by the end?

Soren has come up to the 17th percentile and the doctor just told us to feed Sara and Soren iron and C rich foods and recheck in a month to see if it's an absorption problem.

You probably already know this but many celiacs struggle with absorption. Didn't you suspect allergies early on?
post #672 of 912

I had an ultrasound today. Two heartbeats & two little blobs measuring on track. The doc turned on the sound during the US, and we heard the galloping heartbeats. And then we both cried. Here's a grainy photo of our little blobs. 

 

 

AppleMark

 

 

Thanks, everyone, for the tips on dealing with the nausea. I look forward to a future where I eat something besides greek yogurt, cheese and crackers. We met with the local midwife practice today, which was our hoped-for back-up plan if one of the twinz disappears. We loved the practice and the midwife so, so much. It is kind of painful to think about not being able to go there, but she confirmed that they do not see twin pregnancies. It was kind of bittersweet. I don't think we were expecting to really love them so much. We have an intake appt with a local OB practice next week. I hope it is a positive experience too, so it is not so rough on us. 

 

I know I'm missing personal notes, but I am too mentally drained today/every day. it turns out that growing people is a lot of work. please forgive me. I am reading along and cheering along for all the mamas, kiddos, embryos and fetii! 

post #673 of 912
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You probably already know this but many celiacs struggle with absorption. Didn't you suspect allergies early on?

Yeah, he and I are both off dairy and wheat. When I eat dairy, he has blood in his poop. When I eat wheat and/or put certain diapers on him he gets huge patches of eczema. There was no observable difference when Sara went off dairy twice. She hasn't tried wheat. I haven't tried anything beyond wheat and dairy (which my older kids had trouble with while nursing, also). He doesn't nurse as often as Shay during the day, but last night we kept track of night wakings and he was up nursing at 11:30, 2, 3:15, 4:45, 5:45, 6:45 and up at 8. He nurses with both of us several times a night.
post #674 of 912
Mrs, I know is two babies, but it looks like an owl! That's pretty cool. Hopefully you'll love your OB practice even more.
post #675 of 912

It's funny you say that - the first time we saw them, the doc was like, "Do you see how it looks like owl eyes!?" LOL. i hope your little guy is feeling better soon. food allergies can be so frustrating to navigate.

post #676 of 912

Hi Everyone - I am visiting from over at QC and I thought one of you might have some advice for me. This will be my 3rd insemination and we are doing IUI at RE 1 insem per month. 

 

The first month we inseminated twice (at a different clinic), one at 7 hours after the +OPK and the next was 26 hour - BFN

 

The second month we inseminated at 30 hours after +OPK - BFN. I started temping this cycle and noted that I got crosshairs 48 hours after my first positive OPK. 

 

Knowing this information now would you inseminate later? If this month is like last month, I wont be ovulating until Thursday which would be too late if I inseminated tomorrow afternoon. 

 

Here is a link to my chart. Thanks so much! 

 

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3eded4

post #677 of 912
Darcy, your timing sounds great on your second insem. Some months it just doesn't happen. If you're at a clinic already, why don't they peek with an ultrasound?
post #678 of 912

seraf - Thanks! Wouldn't the sperm die off (frozen) if I inseminated 24 hours before ovulation? I've heard it's best to insem 6 hours on either side of ovulation. I asked about doing an ultrasound the day of an insem but they told me the lubricant on the wand would kill the sperm. Thanks again for your input. 

post #679 of 912

In addition to all the lovely news Mrs. reported, we also ordered an ice cream cake for our announcement to the teenager, with the "sorry buddy" message we mentioned before. We are going to do it next Monday. I will try to get a good photo! The lady at the shop LOVED the idea and was going to be the one decorating it, so we are jazzed. We are trying to hold out until 16 weeks to tell the world, but I am guessing now that we will make it to 13.

 

KnittingTigers - for some reason 1.5lb twins sounds especially cute. I hope you don't mind that I have already decided you will be our twin mentor. The doctor today told us it was good to see them measure within a week of each other. That must be really reassuring that they are both right around the same still.

 

Darcy - in our experience our RE's office had very limited hours for insems and didn't acknowledge the big difference between frozen and fresh sperm. We had to get them to agree to go outside their protocol to do 36 hours. Ultimately, our BFP cycle we agreed to do two insems at 12 and 36 hours. I think 36 hours seems like a safe bet considering so many people report success and so many RE's seem to use this as their standard timing. And your swim team should still be around if you O after 48 hours. I'm with Seraf, though. If there is anyway you can swing an ultrasound (and maybe even a trigger shot) it seems like a smart approach to me. For us the financial and emotional cost every month was so rough. We needed medication to O so our clinic required ultrasound monitoring, but I am really glad we had it. If you were to end up needing even more intervention, there is the option of having blood tests to check your E2 levels. We didn't do that until we moved up to injectable drugs, but it was nice to find out whether or not we had good eggs vs. an empty follicle. But then again, don't forget that getting a BFN doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. There is only a 20% chance or whatever per try. I think we always focused on trying to figure out what went wrong each time, when really just being persistent and trying several times is usually what it takes! Oh, and are they checking your samples for count and motility?

post #680 of 912

bigfoot - Thank you for all of the advice. I wont be able to do a trigger shot this cycle but will definitely shoot for that again next month if this doesn't work - I went in for 2 scans this month but the follicles were too small to trigger so we did try. And yes, the place where we get the sperm sends a form with the numbers and our RE checks under the microscope before insem. I do wish we had the funds for increased monitoring but more than two U/S per cycle is impossible for us to swing right now. Congrats on your twins!! You must be over the moon!! 

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