lillielil - cross post.
I heard the inserts are super hot and had a store employee encourage me not to buy one She just said to frog leg the babe until their hips were ready. But still, crappy that it wasn't what you expected. As an NGP I appreciated hearing my DW say that she would support me in any bonding I wanted to do. I came up with many ways that were meaningful to me. Maybe you don't need to come up with it, but just tell her to and that you will support her? Is she having challenges with bonding? is babe?
Some things I loved in the early weeks - bathing with babe, skin time, comfort nursing/nursing with SNS, time alone with babe (going for a walk alone, nap time, etc...), wearing her for sure, putting to sleep/wearing to sleep, co sleeping...
My DW who is NGP liked different things in those weeks - she liked putting to sleep, rocking, wearing also. She liked alone time alot. Sage got used to it, and I got comfortable with leaving the house for longer and longer times as Sage adjusted. I was worried about her crying while I was gone for milk so would go short stints and now taht she is eating solids, she can be without me for many hours at a time easily.