Amanda, what a difficult thing to process. You are in my thoughts. You're a great mom, so I know you will figure everything out! As for talking, DD1 didn't really start talking at all until around 18 months. My daycare girl at the time was way ahead of her in language, but DD1's motor skills were always more advanced. I just figured she was focusing on one and the other would follow later. From 15-18 months old was hell. Screaming and tantrums constantly! Once she started picking up words it got easier. I think she was just so frustrated that she couldn't talk to us and make us understand what she was saying.
Now, to figure out how to stop Greta's screaming and tantrums... she gets so mad at her sister! Granted, DD1 is pretty bossy and likes to make Greta play the way she wants her to. Greta, however, is most certainly her own person and doesn't always want to do what her big sister says. And she certainly doesn't always want to play with DD1. She seems to prefer playing on her own with DD1 just in the same room. She'll follow her sister around the house, but doesn't really want to be messed with. Greta is pretty tough though and DD1 knows pretty well not to hit or push, so I mostly let them have it out right now. I step in if it starts to escalate.
Is turkey day really tomorrow?! Crap, I have got to get to the store. This cold has kept me and the girls on the couch the last two days. DH has been great with keeping up the house for me, but no Thanksgiving prep has been done! I need to get off here and get busy!