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[AmandaLynnH]

Well I did not go trick or treating.  We had hardly any kids show up so I got to keep most of the candy anyway.

We did go register this weekend.  I know it's SUPER early but we'll be seeing my family at Thanksgiving and then probably (God-willing) not until after the baby is born and dh's family at Christmas so we wanted to give people plenty of time should they want to get us something.  We still have to work a bit to round it out some but I think we covered most of our bases; travel system, crib, bottles, etc.  Plus I had a coupon for a $20 target gift card when you register and it expired at the end of the month so we'd hate to have lost that.  

Then I got to have a nice 3+ hour conversation with my mother where I learned the following:

1.  Only weird pregnant women are tired because she got "bursts of energy" constantly.

2.  My brother is a horrible person because he used all his time off at his new job when his wife had her baby and now can't come for holidays but she thinks he should drive the 7 hours just for a few hours on thanksgiving day anyway

3.  I'm a horrible person because I want to only go there for 2 days at Thanksgiving because I'm weird and pregnancy makes me tired and I'd like a weekend to relax before going back to work.  I shouldn't even bother going.

I might be tempted to take her up on that since she hung up on me right after that.  This baby will likely only have one grandma at this rate.

Hope everyone has a great week, gotta go to a meeting.  Darn work getting in the way of my napping.

[Quinalla]

Aw, love the bee costume!

adventuregirl, that's so scary! Maybe after your midwife sees you again and gives the go ahead for sex, your DH will be more open to it? Sometimes folks do have to abstain, but it is rare and I know I would be bummed if I had to!

AmandaLynnH, don't fret about registering early, DH and I were finished registering with our first probably 2 days after we got the + pregnancy test. We didn't share the registry immediately, but yeah. We also had an early baby shower for my family (at about 18 weeks) so I hear you on that either. Your mom is something! Either she completely forgot the first trimester and some of the 3rd or she just had really unusual pregnancies! I've never talked to a woman who was pregnant that didn't have some fatigue. Most do feel pretty good in the 2nd trimester and at least some of the 3rd sure, but the entire pregnancy?!? Tell her she sucks for not passing it on

Here is DD in her Captain America costume, I'll try to post better pictures (these are from my phone) when I get a chance. She loved her costume so much

[MarieWalter]

Ahhh Quinnala, your little captain is so adorable!!

[AmandaLynnH]

Originally Posted by Quinalla 

AmandaLynnH, don't fret about registering early, DH and I were finished registering with our first probably 2 days after we got the + pregnancy test. We didn't share the registry immediately, but yeah. We also had an early baby shower for my family (at about 18 weeks) so I hear you on that either. Your mom is something! Either she completely forgot the first trimester and some of the 3rd or she just had really unusual pregnancies! I've never talked to a woman who was pregnant that didn't have some fatigue. Most do feel pretty good in the 2nd trimester and at least some of the 3rd sure, but the entire pregnancy?!? Tell her she sucks for not passing it on

Here is DD in her Captain America costume, I'll try to post better pictures (these are from my phone) when I get a chance. She loved her costume so much

Thanks, my guess is she pissed and moaned through her entire pregnancies but now likes to be superior to me and try to guilt me into doing what she wants.  I'm terrified of gaining too much weight because all I've heard for the last 15 years at least is how she was skinny before she had kids too.  She also flat out told me I'm going to get fat when I hit menopause and that's why she lost her waist.  Yea...it has nothing to do with the fact that a. you didn't have it before and b. that's because you don't exercise at all or eat well.  She wants nothing more than for me to be fat and unhappy because she is too and that means that everyone is and she doesn't have to take responsibility for her life.  So I try to toss in the fact that I'm still in my prepregnancy clothes which happen to be a size 4 whenever possible.

[nstewart]

I was without internet for the entire weekend and seem to have a bunch of catch-up!!

I recommend the Canon DSLR or the NIkon that is within your price range.  I have a Nikon D300 DSLR (a bit pricey, I do quite a lot of photography) and a Canon handheld.  We use them both pretty regularly.  Sometimes I just can't handle carrying the big camera around and the Canon fits in my pocket and was about $100.  The big DSLR was $1500, so probably a bit over the top and you may not use all the settings (but I do usually).  If you give me a price range, I could help narrow it down for you or you could check out the website I usually use for camera research: www.dpreview.com.  The site covers all aspects of digital photography equipment including printers and software.

Thanks for the recommendations!  I probably don't want to spend $1500, but would spend $1000 or under.  (Would prefer less than $1000 but want to buy a reasonably good camera that will last).  I used to really enjoy photography, and did classes in highschool.  I used my dad's ancient Nikon camera, and it was great.  So I could see myself getting into using features and taking classes, etc.

Well, I couldn't stands it no more (intentional spelling).  The house got cleaned top to bottom today with DH's help which is such a relief.  And I cleaned out DD's horrible mess of a room.  She has this tendency to collect things like broken toys, trash, pine cones, dead insects (partially my fault) etc and it was totally out of control.  So I went through her entire room in 4 hours and trashed a bunch of stuff, donated some baby/toddler toys that were given to us when we got here and sorted out every single thing.  I am beat, but DH also whipped up a delightful omelet for dinner so now it's bedtime and DD is again whining.  She is a whiner and it drives me insane but I can't seem to get her to stop no matter how much attention I give her.  She got a lot of negative attention today because she was refusing to help clean up, refusing to follow directions, ignoring me and DH, just in general being a royal pain.  She missed 2 days of school last week with the cold virus we contracted on Sunday and then got bronchitis on Thursday.  She has not been the healthiest kid recently, she just had a  double ear infection in the beginning of October that lasted 2 weeks.  I feel badly for her, but at the same time, she is just as stinking hardheaded as I was when I was a kid.  Apples and trees you know...  I started her back on the Vitamin C, magnesium and echinacea and hopefully she will be back to good health soon.  When momma fell of the bandwagon due to morning sickness, everyone else did too so no one's gotten their supplements in a few weeks.

Yay for clean houses!!  I just finished the 2012 in 2012 de-cluttering challenge this weekend (getting rid of 2012 things in 2012) and it feels great, but I still feel like I have a ways to go before we are as "minimal" as I'd like to get to.

Oh and Thanksgiving dinner is on at the brother's house.  I won!  Yay!!  Now I wonder how much I will regret this later.

Awesome!  And I hope it turns out great.  With so many people attending you can hopefully just ignore your brother if you need to and enjoy the company of those who are glad to see you there.  Family drama sucks, and your brother sounds like one of my BILs.  He used to be great, but over the last couple years has turned into a really self-important wanker.

Originally Posted by timesway 

Oh no missed the sale with this stupid migraine.. Ah well..  I've finally come to learn that if you miss one sale, there is sure to be another one!  I bet you can get some great deals after Christmas, and by then you should know the gender, right?  I agree with everyone about minimal gear being truly essential.  A good carrier, diapers, sleepers, larger size receiving blankets, and some clothes for your climate.  Oh and maybe a good nursing pillow and some of those pads for in your bra if you nurse, in case your boobs leak, and ideally a couple good nursing bras.

Originally Posted by timesway 

been to the obsteatrician today, was a hard appointment as migraine was still lingering so had to sit there in giant sunglasses and look like a spak!! She wantss to see me in 2 weeks, and then 2 weeks again, i have to have another echo to make sure my hearts strong enough to cope with preg/delivery, then i have to have an appointment with the anaestnatist, and gotta see the rheumatology ob clinic.. aswell as seeing the midwife to fill out forms, and make sure support is in place for after baby is born (she wants it to be set up asap, because i wont be allowed home apparently potentiaally if things arent set up properly.. (eek) on top of that she prescribed some ondansatron for my sickness with my migraines, and im not feeling constantly like im going to throw up anymore.. its not a tablet i should take too regularly but ob feels its quite safe and its the best anti sickness ive ever tryed! she also checked with my meds, and was happy that they were safe enough, altho she is worried that im at risk of prem labour due to my eds and weight.. dr seemed quite judgemental of the situation, other midwifes etc have been much better, but yeh, i guess it makes sense.. i will look foreward to goin back to her after filling out the forms so she can feel that everythings sorted.
 

I hope things go more smoothly next time you see her!

Originally Posted by adventuregirl 

Love the little bee Virginia! - Me too!  It's so cute!

I had a little excitement this weekend, after a lovely romp in the sack, I go to the bathroom to find a good amt of bright red blood! Eeek! Called the mw and she told me to monitor it and take it easy. It went away very quickly and nothing else ever came of it, so the consensus is that it was from sex. BOOOOO!!! So now DH is like "we're not doing that anymore" WHAT??? I have a feeling he may rethink this stance after a few days, but oh man, what if we had to forgo for the rest of pg? This was the first time it happened, so maybe we just need to uh, adjust things a bit and take it easy... Anyway, I was in a bit of shock at first as I am still so afraid of loss and had never had such a thing on my radar. After some searching around, I see its not all that uncommon, but it sure took me by surprise! At least now my biggest concern is not being able to have sex. I am so relieved that I still have sore boobs, bottomless hunger, exhaustion, and my little belly.

That sounds scary!  Although I will say I do envy you an exciting romp in the sack.  Seems like neither DH nor I (ok, mostly me) have had the energy or interest lately.  I am sure your DH will come around once you can give him more information on it being safe to continue the festivities.  I know if you have placenta pervia you have to refrain, but otherwise I don't think it's a very common restriction.

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

We did go register this weekend.  I know it's SUPER early but we'll be seeing my family at Thanksgiving and then probably (God-willing) not until after the baby is born and dh's family at Christmas so we wanted to give people plenty of time should they want to get us something.  We still have to work a bit to round it out some but I think we covered most of our bases; travel system, crib, bottles, etc.  Plus I had a coupon for a $20 target gift card when you register and it expired at the end of the month so we'd hate to have lost that.  Exciting!  We never did register with DS but just kind of let people know what we needed.  My family was great and just asked us what we wanted.  My Gramma bought our infant car seat, my mom bought our crib, and my aunts and uncles pitched in for our highchair.  Otherwise we just got misc. items from friends/family (although WAAAAYYY to many blankets.)

Then I got to have a nice 3+ hour conversation with my mother where I learned the following:

1.  Only weird pregnant women are tired because she got "bursts of energy" constantly. If that is true everyone here hates her, I am sure.

2.  My brother is a horrible person because he used all his time off at his new job when his wife had her baby and now can't come for holidays but she thinks he should drive the 7 hours just for a few hours on thanksgiving day anyway Sounds reasonable

3.  I'm a horrible person because I want to only go there for 2 days at Thanksgiving because I'm weird and pregnancy makes me tired and I'd like a weekend to relax before going back to work.  I shouldn't even bother going. Maybe you shouldn't! lol.

I might be tempted to take her up on that since she hung up on me right after that.  This baby will likely only have one grandma at this rate.

Hope everyone has a great week, gotta go to a meeting.  Darn work getting in the way of my napping.

 Let's see, can I still remember my weekend?

Friday mornings DS and I go to a parent and tot class at the Waldorf school.  He was in an extra good mood, and even shared toys! lol.  I am learning how to do dry felting, and I had no idea it was so easy!  I'm making a pumpkin, this could be an addictive craft.  Then, Friday afternoon DS went to his new dayhome for a bit, just to play and meet the care provider and other kids, while I ran errands.  He did great.  I told him a few times earlier that he was going there to play, etc. so he knew what to expect.  When I dropped him off he said "bye-bye mommy" and off he went to play.  The care provider said he did great, and he's excited to go play there again, so that is a huge relief!  Otherwise, nothing too exciting.  Went to a baby shower for a friend on Saturday, and had a quiet day Sunday.  I'm still really tired and had two naps on Sunday!  Sunday afternoon DH took DS swimming, so that gave me the quiet time to myself to sleep.  What a treat.

So, my BIL and SIL are in New Orleans this week for a pre-baby trip (well, and BIL has a conference there for a couple days too).  Now I really want to do a get away with DH.  I think we need to re-connect a bit before this peanut arrives.  Any good suggestions on where we should go?  (Mid to Western US just due to flying time, and somewhere that is relatively nice in the winter as I'd like to escape the fridgid Canadian winter for a bit.  I'm thinking Jan or Feb.)  I know DH would LOVE to go to Chicago or NYC, but NYC is too far and too cold, and Chicago is just too cold in Feb I am thinking.

Oh, I forgot to comment on Captain America!  SO CUTE!  Don't tell me you made this??? Amazing!

[TwilightJoy]

How strict are you about not laying on your back? I've read mixed things.

Sleeping:
I've always been a back sleeper. I'm trying so hard to sleep on my left side, but always wake up on my back.

Relaxing:
Can I lay on my back on the sofa when reading, watching TV, etc?

Working out:
Can I do exercises on my back?

[Quinalla]

Originally Posted by TwilightJoy 

How strict are you about not laying on your back? I've read mixed things.

Sleeping:
I've always been a back sleeper. I'm trying so hard to sleep on my left side, but always wake up on my back.

Relaxing:
Can I lay on my back on the sofa when reading, watching TV, etc?

Working out:
Can I do exercises on my back?

For my first pregnancy, I didn't worry about it until I was bigger, definitely not until the second trimester and probably about half way through that. I don't know if that is right, but it is what I did. This time, I'm so much bigger so much sooner I'm already staying off my back, but I don't back sleep so it isn't too hard for me. For sleeping, stick a pillow under your right side so you can't roll fully on your back. Honestly, you will wake up eventually as once you get big it is uncomfortable to lay on your back. As far as laying on the sofa and working out, I'd probably stop working out on the back now if it were me. That makes for an easy one to stop now. As for laying down on the sofa, I would try to find a comfortable position that isn't on your back. You can prop yourself up with pillows so that you aren't putting weight on your back, but you still feel like you are on your back. Or try to make this a time for laying on your left side as that is the best.

But yeah, for my first pregnancy, I didn't worry about it until I got big. Until there is actual weight on the artery, I didn't see how it could be a problem, but I could be wrong!

[Lynann]

Originally Posted by TwilightJoy 

How strict are you about not laying on your back? I've read mixed things.
Sleeping:
I've always been a back sleeper. I'm trying so hard to sleep on my left side, but always wake up on my back.
Relaxing:
Can I lay on my back on the sofa when reading, watching TV, etc?
Working out:
Can I do exercises on my back?

For sleeping, it is better to start training yourself to sleep on your side before the baby gets too big, but right now it isn't a big deal. A lot of women fall asleep on their sides and wake up on their backs. Back sleeping will start to get uncomfortable and then you'll start waking up when you do roll over onto your back. I would also try using a pillow behind you when on your side to remind yourself not to roll over, but really it isn't a big deal until a little bit later on when baby is completely up out of your pelvis.

Relaxing, leaning back on the sofa won't do you any harm as for as the "vena cava" issue is concerned, BUT it isn't a great position for you or the baby as far as optimal positioning is concerned. It encourages the baby to fall back towards your spine and get into a posterior position, especially later on. Spinning Babies has lots of great advice about optimal positioning (which I wish I had researched better with my first, as DS1 ended up asynclitic and I ended up with a c/s.) Personally I start to avoid the sofa from about 16 weeks onwards. I will either sit on the floor half tailor style, or sit on the birth ball if I want to be off the floor. Both of these sitting positions are very comfortable once you get used to them, and the birth ball is my life saver for back pain at the end of pregnancy.

Exercising, in moderation. A few minutes on your back isn't a huge issue, after all your on your back for a few minutes at a time at prenatal appointments. I have a prenatal pilates DVD that I use for some of my exercise and for the floor work their recommendation is use as many pillows as trimesters for your back to take some of the pressure off. So 1 pillow for 1st trimester, 2 pillows for 2nd & 3 pillows for 3rd, and I can honestly say I really can't imagine trying to lay flat on the floor in the 3rd trimester and still be able to get up after exercising if I didn't have the pillows elevate me slightly.

I hope this information helps. I really didn't think about positioning with DS1 because he was always head down, and I thought that was the only thing that was important, but it turned out I was wrong and I could have been doing more to stop DS1 being in a bad position. (You don't know what you don't know until you realize you didn't know it ) Once I found out about all the information on Spinning Babies I was very careful with DS2, and he was in a great position for birth and it was so, so much easier, even with his nuchal arm (he still sleeps with his hand up at his face at 14 months.)

[Quinalla]

Oh man, definitely get a birth ball (or just a good exercise ball that is the right height), those things are so awesome towards the end of pregnancy for when you need to sit.

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by TwilightJoy 

How strict are you about not laying on your back? I've read mixed things.
Sleeping:
I've always been a back sleeper. I'm trying so hard to sleep on my left side, but always wake up on my back.
Relaxing:
Can I lay on my back on the sofa when reading, watching TV, etc?
Working out:
Can I do exercises on my back?

Hmmm, I was always told not to worry about laying on your back until it's uncomfortable.  Even for sleeping.  I'm not a back sleeper, so that's not an issue for me.  I did lay back on the sofa (not really laying, but leaning against an arm) until the end with DS and he must have been pretty optimally positioned given how fast labour was, but everyone is different.  I think that staying active is probably as important, if not more so, for positioning.  My midwife is sure that it's why I had a fast labour last time and told me to keep up as much activity as possible for as long as possible, especially things like eliptical for cardio where you are moving your pelvis/hips.

Exercise on your back - what kind do you mean?  Lifting weights? Yoga?  Stretches?  If you aren't laying for a long period of time and it's not uncomfortable, I wouldn't worry.  I'll still lay on my back for weights and did with DS until some time in the 3rd trimester until it wasn't really comfortable anymore.  Then, I just modified the weight routine (ex. doing an incline bench press instead of a regular bench press, using machines instead of free weights).

[CoBabyMaker]

As far as being on your back goes basically listen to your body.  If I am on my back too long my limbs fall asleep so that answers that for me.   I often wake up on my back when I am sleeping and just roll over.  No point in stressing over it-you're asleep so you can't control that.  Most exercises can be modified by being propped up on some pillows.   Most of the exercise videos I have seen show modifications for that in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters.

Sigh.  What a time right now!  On Saturday one of DH's testicles started hurting on Saturday.  It got worse on Sunday and all day Monday.  Last night he had blood in his urine.  This morning he was finally able to see the doctor and he has a UTI.  I didn't even know men could get those!  He decided to go with antibiotics rather than natural options.  He took the antibiotics and is now broken out in hives and his throat was getting tight.  Sigh.  So they told him to take Benedryl and will call in another script.  Sigh.  I'm trying to keep my mouth shut and just let him decide how he wants to treat it.  What a few weeks it's been around here!  My parents come into town tonight for a week too. It's good and in some ways will be helpful but it's also more pressure. 

On the up side of things I have been feeling pretty decent in the mornings so at least I am useful for part of the day!

[BaileyB]

I was totally wondering what happened to our chat thread....Duh, it's November!

Originally Posted by snozzberry 

We ran errands this morning, then tonight we're treating ourselves and going out to see a movie - Flight. Can't wait!

Speaking of movies, we rented Safety Not Guaranteed last night - cute one.

We saw flight Friday night! I thought it was good although it had more drugs and what not in it than I thought it would. When the plane starts to barrel roll DH and I caught ourselves both leaning with the plane and going 'aaaahhhhhh!"' haha.

Originally Posted by CoBabyMaker 

hehe is it? its a website which sells a mix of baby stuff, maternity stuff etc.. theres money off everything for 4 days.. so mite be worth starting to buy some things..

ok, that's sort of what I thought.  I agree with what Lynann said.  There are many variables but she gave great input.

Today the children are trying to kill me.  So much whining.  Oh golly.  DH even dealt with it most of the day but I just don't have patience today.   Hoping tomorrow will go better.

Sorry your kids were giving you a hard time. I can't believe how well DD was today. DH is the township supervisor where we live so he kind of runs the election for our tiny township. Of course he schedules me, him, and MIL to all work at the same time. Um, who is going to babysit, darling? So I had to get DD up at 6:00 am, be ready and at the township building at 7, and she had to hangout with us until 1:00! There was barely any whining (only when I told her she couldn't open the ballot box) and she chatted and handed out 'I voted' stickers and played with her toys. I was really impressed. Of course now as I sit at the computer for 10 minutes, everything is a meltdown. Go figure...

Originally Posted by Virginia884 

Thanks for the new thread!!

Here is DD as a bee-

Timesway, I recommend a Moby for when babe is little, say up to 3 months. Then a ring sling would be nice. You could use a structured carrier like an Ergo, but I think the infant insert is rubbish and doesn't work well. Plus if you have a short torso, the waistband of the ergo might not sit well while you are sitting. I'd go for a Moby and a sling or woven wrap.

As for the DSLR question, we had a Nikon d40 and I liked it but wanted more megapixels. So on my edd last time DH bought me a d3100. Love it!!

Sooooo cute!

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

Then I got to have a nice 3+ hour conversation with my mother where I learned the following:

1.  Only weird pregnant women are tired because she got "bursts of energy" constantly.

2.  My brother is a horrible person because he used all his time off at his new job when his wife had her baby and now can't come for holidays but she thinks he should drive the 7 hours just for a few hours on thanksgiving day anyway

3.  I'm a horrible person because I want to only go there for 2 days at Thanksgiving because I'm weird and pregnancy makes me tired and I'd like a weekend to relax before going back to work.  I shouldn't even bother going.

I might be tempted to take her up on that since she hung up on me right after that.  This baby will likely only have one grandma at this rate.

Hope everyone has a great week, gotta go to a meeting.  Darn work getting in the way of my napping.

How fun! Our mom's sound like they are cut from the same cloth. Which means that they probably would hate each other haha.

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

Thanks, my guess is she pissed and moaned through her entire pregnancies but now likes to be superior to me and try to guilt me into doing what she wants.  I'm terrified of gaining too much weight because all I've heard for the last 15 years at least is how she was skinny before she had kids too.  She also flat out told me I'm going to get fat when I hit menopause and that's why she lost her waist.  Yea...it has nothing to do with the fact that a. you didn't have it before and b. that's because you don't exercise at all or eat well.  She wants nothing more than for me to be fat and unhappy because she is too and that means that everyone is and she doesn't have to take responsibility for her life.  So I try to toss in the fact that I'm still in my prepregnancy clothes which happen to be a size 4 whenever possible.

Lol. It's my fault too that my mom got fat. She had an amniocentesis done early in her pregnancy, "because the doctor forced her", and her fluid wouldn't stop leaking so he told her to go home and have her m/c, so she sat at home and ate hagan daas non stop until I was born. Then I was too big and she had to have a c-section. So, it's all my fault...

Originally Posted by nstewart 

Hmmm, I was always told not to worry about laying on your back until it's uncomfortable.  Even for sleeping.  I'm not a back sleeper, so that's not an issue for me.  I did lay back on the sofa (not really laying, but leaning against an arm) until the end with DS and he must have been pretty optimally positioned given how fast labour was, but everyone is different.  I think that staying active is probably as important, if not more so, for positioning.  My midwife is sure that it's why I had a fast labour last time and told me to keep up as much activity as possible for as long as possible, especially things like eliptical for cardio where you are moving your pelvis/hips.

That's what I was always told too. And it is more of a problem for you than for baby. The weight of the baby when you are close to full term can compress your inferior vena cava and cut off blood to your extremities and make you pass out. As far as exercises you can continue what you normally do until it is uncomfortable or you get dizzy or have any bleeding but you can't increase your exercises amount. I forget how much weight you are allowed to do when lifting though. I think sometime in the last half of your pregnancy you are suppose to only lift so much.

[nstewart]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

That's what I was always told too. And it is more of a problem for you than for baby. The weight of the baby when you are close to full term can compress your inferior vena cava and cut off blood to your extremities and make you pass out. As far as exercises you can continue what you normally do until it is uncomfortable or you get dizzy or have any bleeding but you can't increase your exercises amount. I forget how much weight you are allowed to do when lifting though. I think sometime in the last half of your pregnancy you are suppose to only lift so much.

I haven't been told this (at least not yet).  I lifted weights until about 36 weeks with DS (then I was just too pooped!) and didn't reduce what I was lifting.  So far, my midwife knows I lift weights regularly and hasn't mentioned cutting back or cutting down weight.  If there is a limit, I would imagine it would depend on what you lift pre-pregnancy, not on a specific number.  And also on the exercises.  I don't think that bicep curls or chest press, for example, should matter.  But squats or dead lifts I can see having to cut back as your pregnancy goes on, or exercises that involve twisting, for example.  Also, I guess if you were doing some "extreme" like cross-fit or olympic type stuff it would be different than the average Jane pushing weights at the gym 3 or 4 times a week.  lol.

For increasing your exercise amount, again I think it depends on the individual.  For someone who is sedentary, for example, following a gentle walking program would be very beneficial for them and baby.  Someone who runs 10k probably shouldn't start training for a marathon!  I really just think that your body needs to be your guide (and your doctor or midwife!).  If something you did pre-pregnancy starts to be uncomfortable, make you dizzy, etc. then it probably isn't ok to continue.  If you feel better after exercise than before, it's probably ok.

Cobabymaker - yikes!  Sounds uncomfortable!  I've heard of guys getting bladder infections before, but I think its way less common than for women because they have longer urethras, keeps the bacteria out of the bladder.  I hope your visitors are helpful and don't stress you out!

Baily - Oh wow!  Your daughter sure was a patient girl!  I hope the rest of the day runs smoothly for your hubby.  I am planning on planting my butt on the couch tonight as soon as DS is in bed to watch election coverage.  DH and I have been political nerds and have watched all the debates and the speeches last night, various documentaries that have been on TV, etc.  I don't know what we're going to watch after tonight!  I hope all you in the US are able to get out and vote today, it sure is a turning point!

[AmandaLynnH]

Originally Posted by nstewart 

Friday mornings DS and I go to a parent and tot class at the Waldorf school.  He was in an extra good mood, and even shared toys! lol.  I am learning how to do dry felting, and I had no idea it was so easy!  I'm making a pumpkin, this could be an addictive craft.  Then, Friday afternoon DS went to his new dayhome for a bit, just to play and meet the care provider and other kids, while I ran errands.  He did great.  I told him a few times earlier that he was going there to play, etc. so he knew what to expect.  When I dropped him off he said "bye-bye mommy" and off he went to play.  The care provider said he did great, and he's excited to go play there again, so that is a huge relief!  Otherwise, nothing too exciting.  Went to a baby shower for a friend on Saturday, and had a quiet day Sunday.  I'm still really tired and had two naps on Sunday!  Sunday afternoon DH took DS swimming, so that gave me the quiet time to myself to sleep.  What a treat.

So, my BIL and SIL are in New Orleans this week for a pre-baby trip (well, and BIL has a conference there for a couple days too).  Now I really want to do a get away with DH.  I think we need to re-connect a bit before this peanut arrives.  Any good suggestions on where we should go?  (Mid to Western US just due to flying time, and somewhere that is relatively nice in the winter as I'd like to escape the fridgid Canadian winter for a bit.  I'm thinking Jan or Feb.)  I know DH would LOVE to go to Chicago or NYC, but NYC is too far and too cold, and Chicago is just too cold in Feb I am thinking.

Oh, I forgot to comment on Captain America!  SO CUTE!  Don't tell me you made this??? Amazing!

I'm in Chicago and Feb can be hit or miss regarding temperature.  It really depends on your tolerance and outwear.  But there's a ton to do here, 2 zoos (one less than a mile from my house), lots of shopping, Navy Pier, Millenium Park, stuff out in the burbs.  It's a really nice area.

Yea, I just might sit out Thanksgiving.  DH may be needed to work that weekend now anyway if our football team makes it to the playoffs since there won't be students around to work the media stuff.  So now we have a built in reason too.  She doesn't have to know if they make it or not...not that I would lie to my mother because that would be wrong...

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

How fun! Our mom's sound like they are cut from the same cloth. Which means that they probably would hate each other haha.

Lol. It's my fault too that my mom got fat. She had an amniocentesis done early in her pregnancy, "because the doctor forced her", and her fluid wouldn't stop leaking so he told her to go home and have her m/c, so she sat at home and ate hagan daas non stop until I was born. Then I was too big and she had to have a c-section. So, it's all my fault...

That's what I was always told too. And it is more of a problem for you than for baby. The weight of the baby when you are close to full term can compress your inferior vena cava and cut off blood to your extremities and make you pass out. As far as exercises you can continue what you normally do until it is uncomfortable or you get dizzy or have any bleeding but you can't increase your exercises amount. I forget how much weight you are allowed to do when lifting though. I think sometime in the last half of your pregnancy you are suppose to only lift so much.

Or worse, they'd love one another and form a crappy mom alliance against us daughters who made them fat!  Are you other member who has cut her mom out of her life?  If so, tips?  I know it's coming and sooner rather than later.  Now I'm wishing I would have done it years ago as I find myself hoping she'll do something so appalling that it'll be super easy to just be done with the whole relationship which I know is silly since she does a million little things every time I talk to her but it's hard to undo the 30 years of brainwashing.  

Looks like the first big project I'll have when I get back from maternity leave is planning an all staff party.  I normally do the staff parties but we used to do one in June and I informed the group that I'd be out then and suddenly a back to school party seemed like a better idea, lol.  Guess it's a testament to me being good at my job.  Working on the Christmas one now, it just hit me I only have a month and a half, yipes!

Timesaway, things looking any better for you with your health and/or the ex?  

Don't forget to get out and vote today if you haven't done so already!  Times like today (and whenever there's a long line somewhere) I wish I looked more pregnant.  I'm not showing at all yet but that doesn't mean I have the patience to wait in line.  I'm making a person people, step aside so I can get back to nappin!

Hope everyone is having a good week :)

Oh, and if you haven't watched this week's Walking Dead...don't.  It kinda puts your pregnancy complaining in rather harsh perspective.  I mean sure I'm tired and pregnant but I could be tired and pregnant AND trying to survive the zombie apocolypse.  

[Quinalla]

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

Oh, I forgot to comment on Captain America!  SO CUTE!  Don't tell me you made this??? Amazing!

Nah, I bought it with my own clicky finger on Amazon It turned out so cute in person though, I'm quite happy with it!

[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by nstewart 

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

That's what I was always told too. And it is more of a problem for you than for baby. The weight of the baby when you are close to full term can compress your inferior vena cava and cut off blood to your extremities and make you pass out. As far as exercises you can continue what you normally do until it is uncomfortable or you get dizzy or have any bleeding but you can't increase your exercises amount. I forget how much weight you are allowed to do when lifting though. I think sometime in the last half of your pregnancy you are suppose to only lift so much.

I haven't been told this (at least not yet).  I lifted weights until about 36 weeks with DS (then I was just too pooped!) and didn't reduce what I was lifting.  So far, my midwife knows I lift weights regularly and hasn't mentioned cutting back or cutting down weight.  If there is a limit, I would imagine it would depend on what you lift pre-pregnancy, not on a specific number.  And also on the exercises.  I don't think that bicep curls or chest press, for example, should matter.  But squats or dead lifts I can see having to cut back as your pregnancy goes on, or exercises that involve twisting, for example.  Also, I guess if you were doing some "extreme" like cross-fit or olympic type stuff it would be different than the average Jane pushing weights at the gym 3 or 4 times a week.  lol.

For increasing your exercise amount, again I think it depends on the individual.  For someone who is sedentary, for example, following a gentle walking program would be very beneficial for them and baby.  Someone who runs 10k probably shouldn't start training for a marathon!  I really just think that your body needs to be your guide (and your doctor or midwife!).  If something you did pre-pregnancy starts to be uncomfortable, make you dizzy, etc. then it probably isn't ok to continue.  If you feel better after exercise than before, it's probably ok.

Cobabymaker - yikes!  Sounds uncomfortable!  I've heard of guys getting bladder infections before, but I think its way less common than for women because they have longer urethras, keeps the bacteria out of the bladder.  I hope your visitors are helpful and don't stress you out!

Baily - Oh wow!  Your daughter sure was a patient girl!  I hope the rest of the day runs smoothly for your hubby.  I am planning on planting my butt on the couch tonight as soon as DS is in bed to watch election coverage.  DH and I have been political nerds and have watched all the debates and the speeches last night, various documentaries that have been on TV, etc.  I don't know what we're going to watch after tonight!  I hope all you in the US are able to get out and vote today, it sure is a turning point!

Cobabymaker - How did I miss the bladder infection? Ouch!

nstewart - I think you are right about weight lifting. I think maybe it is more your joints you have to be careful of rather than decreasing your weight amount. The relaxin makes them less stable. Also, isn't there some special weight lifting move like a breathing technique your suppose to avoid? Tonight I am suppose to take DD to the mommy and me class but I just called to say we weren't coming today. I'm too tired and have heartburn and am too interested to see what happens tonight, plus DH will be at the polls until 8, then they have to make sure all the ballots check in with the amount of people that came in, and then have to drive it all the way to the admin building. I think it is always fun to see how our area did before anyone else knows. At the primary we only had 17 people vote out of 230. This time by noon we had 80 of 230 vote, so we are expecting good turn out. I think we had 83% turn out in '08.

Originally Posted by AmandaLynnH 

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

How fun! Our mom's sound like they are cut from the same cloth. Which means that they probably would hate each other haha.

Lol. It's my fault too that my mom got fat. She had an amniocentesis done early in her pregnancy, "because the doctor forced her", and her fluid wouldn't stop leaking so he told her to go home and have her m/c, so she sat at home and ate hagan daas non stop until I was born. Then I was too big and she had to have a c-section. So, it's all my fault...

That's what I was always told too. And it is more of a problem for you than for baby. The weight of the baby when you are close to full term can compress your inferior vena cava and cut off blood to your extremities and make you pass out. As far as exercises you can continue what you normally do until it is uncomfortable or you get dizzy or have any bleeding but you can't increase your exercises amount. I forget how much weight you are allowed to do when lifting though. I think sometime in the last half of your pregnancy you are suppose to only lift so much.

Or worse, they'd love one another and form a crappy mom alliance against us daughters who made them fat!  Are you other member who has cut her mom out of her life?  If so, tips?  I know it's coming and sooner rather than later.  Now I'm wishing I would have done it years ago as I find myself hoping she'll do something so appalling that it'll be super easy to just be done with the whole relationship which I know is silly since she does a million little things every time I talk to her but it's hard to undo the 30 years of brainwashing.  

I was lucky (I guess anyway) that it was something major that I got to call her on and then she just lied to cover up a lie and I told her we weren't interested in inviting any of that drama in our lives. Then after we stopped talking to her people came out of the wood work to tell us all the even-more-terrible things she had said and done to us and about us behind our backs. I wish I had done it a lot earlier too, before she could involve my husband and his family but when it happened everything kind of came together and there's no way anyone could say that we were in the wrong or that we were the jerks.

Don't forget to get out and vote today if you haven't done so already!  Times like today (and whenever there's a long line somewhere) I wish I looked more pregnant.  I'm not showing at all yet but that doesn't mean I have the patience to wait in line.  I'm making a person people, step aside so I can get back to nappin!

Lol. I am showing but since it is so cold I have a puffy vest on that hides it. I walked in to the polling place 15 minutes late carrying fast food breakfast and coffee and DD and our crabby old neighbor who is retired and lives for running the twnsp was glaring at me. I was thinking, 'Whatever Duane, DD was up 3 times lastnite and I threw up my peanut butter toast this morning so shove it.' He's such a grouch!

Hope everyone is having a good week :)

Oh, and if you haven't watched this week's Walking Dead...don't.  It kinda puts your pregnancy complaining in rather harsh perspective.  I mean sure I'm tired and pregnant but I could be tired and pregnant AND trying to survive the zombie apocolypse.  

[BaileyB]

OK I wanted to do a belly photo since I haven't in a while and then also post a halloween pic since I hadn't done that yet.

This is 14 weeks + 3 days.

Here is Claira as a cheerleader. (She wants to make sure everybody sees that she is wearing her sparkle shoes)

Yesterday I let DD shake the salt and pepper in when I was making supper and now tonight she took the USB sticks off our desk and is sprinkling my belly with her salt and pepper.

[TwilightJoy]

Thanks for all of the back-laying advice ladies. I feel more relaxed now. Will definitely avoid laying on my back for more than a few minutes on purpose, but won't stress about waking up that way.

You ladies are the best.


ETA: Bailey- your bump is adorable! You're really showing!
And your DD's costume so super cute too!!!

[scary biscuits]

Very cute bump, Bailey!

I had my second midwife appointment this morning and got to hear the little one's heartbeat! And there was only one, to the relief of my dh who has been paranoid about having twins for some reason. Actually, my midwife asked if twins ran in my family when I was telling her my symptoms, but there was no other evidence for it though. It's a little sad though, the way my guy was going on I almost got my hopes up:) Oh well:)

My ds was there and he had lots of fun "helping" take my blood pressure and use the doppler. After I sat up he told me I did a good job sleeping and I had a nice belly:) He is getting into the whole baby thing for sure now. This morning he asked my dh to show him his belly and then asked where the baby was:)

[Kate&Joey]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

We saw flight Friday night! I thought it was good although it had more drugs and what not in it than I thought it would. When the plane starts to barrel roll DH and I caught ourselves both leaning with the plane and going 'aaaahhhhhh!"' haha.

Random trivia info:  they filmed a lot of scenes from Flight in our neighborhood.  So the scene where Denzel comes out of the house to a bunch of photographers (you see it in the previews), was shot at one of our neighbor's houses.   A bunch of neighbors went to a screening on Friday night and reported on FB that they were cheering during all of our neighborhood scenes, which was kind of confusing to the other movie patrons.  Pretty funny.