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[LilyTiger]

Boots, I'm sorry you took that personally.  It certainly wasn't intended to say anything about how much we love our babies or anything like that.  For some people like me though who don't handle acute stress well, it's something I think about. My sister's fiance got a vasectomy after his first kid because she had serious food allergies and they didn't sleep for a year.  It was really hard on their marriage and they just concluded they couldn't do it again.  Obviously,  you're not in that position, but some people are.  And as Penny said, Lyle is perfect and amazing and nothing said above should imply that any of us think differently. 

(And I've totally coo-ed over that profile pic too, Penny!  His cheeks and big blue eyes!!!  Sigh.)

[mtngirl81]

Has anyone noticed their milk supply drastically reducing already?

[Sol_y_Paz]

Boots Lyle is adorable!! 

Mtngirl, when DS sleeps through the night I wake up in pain, engorged I think.  I hear that supply issues can be from AF coming or being pregnant or LO not nursing enough, 4 months I think a period where they might eat less during the day if not taken into a boring room in some cases since they get so distracted?  I read that somewhere.  But I don't know.  If you are having supply issues it wouldn't hurt to contact La Leche League or a LC.  You have just been through so much when it comes to nursing your little one    

http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/supply-worries/low-supply/

[Tizzy]

Oh boots, I really didn't mean to be offensive. I'm so sorry!

My post was along the lines of my love, attention and time being so stretched already that if I had a really high-needs baby, I don't know how I would manage another after that. I would want to devote as much time and love as possible to that high-needs baby but also balance the other children's needs. I want to be sure I can provide all of the love and attachment parenting possible to each and every child I have and if I had one that stretched me to my limit, I don't think it would be fair to the rest of our family to have another one.   I hope all this makes sense, it was an off-the-cuff comment and I will try to think more before typing.

[iixivboots]

Thanks for your understand and apologies, everyone. I just think it's helpful to remember that actually colicky/high needs babies are pretty common, and run a huge spectrum of needs. They are also healthy, normal babies. There are so many worse things that you could deal with or go through as a parent of an infant. I promise you if you have a colicky baby you will survive.

[monkeyscience]

Boots - I am glad, for Lyle's sake, that you are his mom and not me. Because I'm barely hanging on with my medium-needs baby. I think a colicky baby would have absolutely pushed me over the edge. I think it is awesome that you are dealing with it as well as you are. I read a book about colic when I was trying to figure out why my baby was fussy, and it sounds really rough. Common, maybe, but so difficult. At least the book convinced me that what was making Baby Bird fussy was not colic. I definitely don't think colicky babies are any less deserving of love. I just don't know how I could personally mentally handle one, considering how difficult the transition to motherhood has been for me with a non-colicky baby. Though I have definitely come to realize I can do things I wouldn't have imagined I could do until I had to do them. Taking my baby to the speech pathologist (where they also do occupational therapy) has really reminded me that despite some feeding issues, I have been blessed with a remarkably healthy baby, for which I am very grateful.

Also, I thought I'd throw out there that Pennywhistle started us a shiny new December Chat Thread!

[iixivboots]

I'm not really sure if Lyle truly had colic, at least not a bad case. He did scream at night for several weeks but everything improved once he went on reflux meds. The thing is colic isn't a real diagnosis, it sort of means there is no known cause. When his fussing got worse during the day and around feedings we figured there was something else.