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[fayebond]

Its here its here its finally here!  Our due date month!  I'm so excited.  And all the new babies and birth stories!  Keep 'em coming ladies, I could use the inspiration.

There are so many things that I want to get finished this month, I can't wait.  Meanwhile, today I actually did all my household cleaning things for the week.  Well, deep cleaning, anyway.  There's already another mess on the kitchen floor (brown rice = toddler finger food).  But, I consider that a worthwhile mess, since it means DD IS EATING SOLIDS.  She's been lagging about it and I could not figure out why she would always push the spoon away after a few bites, no matter what I tried to feed her.  Apparently, she likes to feed herself, and will happily eat salmon, squash, beans, and brown rice, as long as she gets to hold a spoon and finger feed some of the time.  I know, first time mom moment.  You'd think I would have gotten the hint from how many high chairs have their own trays...

Memo to my unborn baby: it is official:,you can come out any time now.  Finish cooking but don't lollygag.

[QMtwins]

I know and I can't believe it.  My 40 week date is really soon and with these twins, I never thought I'd still be pregnant today.  Sadly, because of that, I did schedule a c-section...I've been avoiding it like the plague, hoping labor would start.  I had a c-section with the first set and hated it.  Go figure that baby A is breech and a version isn't even an option with twins, though I've tried pushing them around by myself.  So, it seems like, unless I do go into labor and somehow my breech A just falls out on its own, that the section will occur.  (Its so hard for me to even type that and it brings tears to my eyes)

Good luck to all you folks as all our babes make their ways into the outside world!

[sere234]

Originally Posted by fayebond 

Memo to my unborn baby: it is official:,you can come out any time now.  Finish cooking but don't lollygag.

Exactly!!! I am thinking the very same thing. 

QMTwins- I'm so sorry things aren't going as you had hoped.  I know there's nothing I can say to make it better but I'm sending you hugs though the Internet.

AFM- Tonight was one of those nights when I had to give my sweet, over tired little DS a kiss and an apology after he had fallen asleep. What a long afternoon I had with him and he wouldn't nap. I hate when I have to remind myself to be the adult and to NOT get too angry with my son! He was soooo very tired and hungry but couldn't fall asleep and wouldn't eat he was so hyper tired. Then he'd get frustrated and hit me when I tried to get him to lie down or eat and I'd say "No, that hurts me, I won't let you hit me!" and he would be so sorry and hug and kiss me. Sigh. I know I can do this with 2 kids but today I doubted that for a while. 

Very glad tomorrow is a new day! And perhaps, just maybe, baby day! 

[QMtwins]

Sere234: We had one of those afternoons today too...no naps too.  DH is laying with them in their room right now.  I will be shocked if they are not asleep in 5 min.  A new day is what we need too. 

[guen]

I'm counting day to day here.  I'll be 37 weeks on Monday and then I can rest a little more easy!  I had been thinking though, if I could get to 37 weeks, I could stop worrying about things and just let the baby come when s/he will and enjoy (well, that's a relative term!) what I left of this pregnancy.  But now I'm nervous about my b.p., which is starting to climb and annoyed about the effect my GBS positive status will have on my birth plans. I'm also stressing a bit that I'll go into labour when my teenager isn't home (she's got a concert tour in November) and I haven't really got anyone else to look after the younger kids at home. So now, I'm just starting to want to have all this over and behind me. 

DH did a  massive grocery shopping trip Tuesday night after work, so the house is stocked up with food.  No need to do any real cooking and freezing, since he's the cook anyway.  Everything seems to be ready for the new baby.  I'm just stressing a bit about the birth now. I wish I could relax about it, but I really would like this last birth experience to be a good one--gentle, positive and peaceful. Especially after my experience from last the last baby.  I'm afraid if I just let go and go with the flow and not put the time and energy into giving baby and me the best chances for a good birth, that I will later regret not having tried a bit harder.  Does that make any sense? 

Well, I'm rambling now, so I'll stop!

QMtwins, I'm so sorry you are facing another unwanted section.  I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better about it, but I can really understand your disappointment.  If you end up with another section, I hope it will not be as hard on you as it was last time.

[franjapany]

Ugh, I'm 39 weeks these days and had the second false alarm today. A week ago I had some bleeding, severe enough to have my midwife concerned and send me in for an u/s and exam. turned out everything was fine and there never was a real explanation for the bleeding. Then last night again, I woke up to a gush of blood leaving me - enough to soak my pjs. I did some research, read some scary stuff about placental abruption, decided there was no need to panick and went back to bed. had several contractions but none qualifying as the real stuff. called my mw this morning, explained the situation, was sent to the hospital for a thorough check - again everything is fine.

the best explanation they could give us was that I have a very irritable cervix and that probably some small vein has burst due to whatever goes on down there in preparation of labour.

so, that's where I am and I'm starting to get tired of this. on the other hand I wouldn'T mind geting some more stuff done, a few more boxes unpacked, maybe even some sewing projects for the baby on the way. we'll see.

[guen]

Franjapany, that must really wear on the nerves!  I hope things calm down for you until it's well and truly time!
 

[sere234]

Franjapany!! Take it easy! If I lived closer (you know, closer than thousands of miles away from you) I'd come and unpack for you! Hope you are able to get some stuff done while sitting and cooking your baby.

[franjapany]

thanks, guen. It is quite annoying, also bc my homebirth midwife is not happy about the random bleeding. thankfully she is the best hbmw near and far though - couldn't imagine having to deal with a know-it-all like you did. good on you to fire her.

Originally Posted by sere234 

Franjapany!! Take it easy! If I lived closer (you know, closer than thousands of miles away from you) I'd come and unpack for you! Hope you are able to get some stuff done while sitting and cooking your baby.

Awww, that's such a nice thing to say. however, I would never allow you to unpack any of my boxes, since you too have a toddler and I know how taxing THAT is. I honestly don't know which one of my two darling children I find more challenging at the moment. My only consolation is, that all the other moms of 4yearolds are reporting similar behaviour as ours so I'm getting a little off my guilt trip about not being attentive enough, not spending enough time with him, not meeting his needs in all possible ways. I just really don'T like the bad yelling mommy-monster I tend to turn into a lot these days either...

[Simonsez2u]

Oh my goodness Franjapnay how nerve wracking!  Glad to hear everything is fine and hope it is the real thing soon.

I have been a "bad yelling mommy-monster" also to my 3.5yr old.  It has GOT to be a stage that they are in because my DS seems to test me whenever he can.
 

[kateaton]

Originally Posted by Simonsez2u 

I have been a "bad yelling mommy-monster" also to my 3.5yr old.  It has GOT to be a stage that they are in because my DS seems to test me whenever he can.
 

Yes, I've been just a "tad" on the impatient side with my 2 dd's (and they're not even in the toddler phase.)  Oh, and my 2 cats are driving me nuts so I've been yelling at them too.  I was thinking this morning, that I feel bad for my unborn baby having to listen to this.  She's probably wondering what in the world she's in for 

[fayebond]

Franjapnay - awww, hang in there, it'll be here before you know it.

I'm vacilating between wanting the baby to just come out already, and wanting them to wait as long as possible so I can get more stuff done.  Because while it will be easier to be not pregnant, it will be more tiring and less oportuniities to get things done.  So if I want to cloth diaper with my current cloth diaper stash, I HAVE to get them fixed NOW.  Ditto for all my other to do list items like cards, cleaning, and getting the attic cleared out.  Anyone else feel like they want to meet the baby without actually having to get up with and generally care for said baby?

[guen]

Originally Posted by franjapany 

thanks, guen. It is quite annoying, also bc my homebirth midwife is not happy about the random bleeding. thankfully she is the best hbmw near and far though - couldn't imagine having to deal with a know-it-all like you did. good on you to fire her.

Awww, that's such a nice thing to say. however, I would never allow you to unpack any of my boxes, since you too have a toddler and I know how taxing THAT is. I honestly don't know which one of my two darling children I find more challenging at the moment. My only consolation is, that all the other moms of 4yearolds are reporting similar behaviour as ours so I'm getting a little off my guilt trip about not being attentive enough, not spending enough time with him, not meeting his needs in all possible ways. I just really don'T like the bad yelling mommy-monster I tend to turn into a lot these days either...

You are very lucky to have found a good hb midwife!  They are so thin on the ground these days, unfortunately. :-(

Don't beat yourself up about your 4 y.o.  It really is the age!  They call 2 the "terrible twos" but it isn't true. Two is lovely!  Three though...ugh. And four.  I'm having a hard time staying patient with my youngest, who is three. I understand it's the age and I shouldn't take it personally, but it's been hard lately.  I feel awful because she really is such a love.  And she'll soon be kicked out of the "Nesthäkchen" spot and that makes me feel even guiltier.

[JodiAriel]

I never thought I would still be pregnant with twins at 39w2d.  I am still only a fingertip dilated although I am finally 80% effaced, head is there but not totally engaged.  I am scheduled to be induced Sun night which I am nervous about since my cervix is still not favorable but I am out of time according to the high risk docs.  My midwife thinks it is going to be a long induction.  I am still nervous about the whole doubly whammy scenario since Baby B is back to being breech and the doc who does breech deliveries is not on Mon night. 

[MrsKoehn]

Originally Posted by fayebond 

Its here its here its finally here!  Our due date month!  I'm so excited.  And all the new babies and birth stories!  Keep 'em coming ladies, I could use the inspiration.

There are so many things that I want to get finished this month, I can't wait.  Meanwhile, today I actually did all my household cleaning things for the week.  Well, deep cleaning, anyway.  There's already another mess on the kitchen floor (brown rice = toddler finger food).  But, I consider that a worthwhile mess, since it means DD IS EATING SOLIDS.  She's been lagging about it and I could not figure out why she would always push the spoon away after a few bites, no matter what I tried to feed her.  Apparently, she likes to feed herself, and will happily eat salmon, squash, beans, and brown rice, as long as she gets to hold a spoon and finger feed some of the time.  I know, first time mom moment.  You'd think I would have gotten the hint from how many high chairs have their own trays...

Memo to my unborn baby: it is official:,you can come out any time now.  Finish cooking but don't lollygag.

It is exciting! I hear you with that memo!

Originally Posted by QMtwins 

I know and I can't believe it.  My 40 week date is really soon and with these twins, I never thought I'd still be pregnant today.  Sadly, because of that, I did schedule a c-section...I've been avoiding it like the plague, hoping labor would start.  I had a c-section with the first set and hated it.  Go figure that baby A is breech and a version isn't even an option with twins, though I've tried pushing them around by myself.  So, it seems like, unless I do go into labor and somehow my breech A just falls out on its own, that the section will occur.  (Its so hard for me to even type that and it brings tears to my eyes)

Good luck to all you folks as all our babes make their ways into the outside world!

Originally Posted by sere234 

I know I can do this with 2 kids but today I doubted that for a while. 

Very glad tomorrow is a new day! And perhaps, just maybe, baby day! 

My Mom said it got easier after 3 but I think that was bc I was then 4 and brother was 2 so I could fetch things and entertain him.

Originally Posted by guen 

I'm counting day to day here.  I'll be 37 weeks on Monday and then I can rest a little more easy!  I had been thinking though, if I could get to 37 weeks, I could stop worrying about things and just let the baby come when s/he will and enjoy (well, that's a relative term!) what I left of this pregnancy.  But now I'm nervous about my b.p., which is starting to climb and annoyed about the effect my GBS positive status will have on my birth plans. I'm also stressing a bit that I'll go into labour when my teenager isn't home (she's got a concert tour in November) and I haven't really got anyone else to look after the younger kids at home. So now, I'm just starting to want to have all this over and behind me. 
 

Don't be nervous about your BP, you'll make it worse! : { Keeping my fingers crossed she's back before you go into labor!

Originally Posted by franjapany 

Ugh, I'm 39 weeks these days and had the second false alarm today. A week ago I had some bleeding, severe enough to have my midwife concerned and send me in for an u/s and exam. turned out everything was fine and there never was a real explanation for the bleeding. Then last night again, I woke up to a gush of blood leaving me - enough to soak my pjs. I did some research, read some scary stuff about placental abruption, decided there was no need to panick and went back to bed. had several contractions but none qualifying as the real stuff. called my mw this morning, explained the situation, was sent to the hospital for a thorough check - again everything is fine.

the best explanation they could give us was that I have a very irritable cervix and that probably some small vein has burst due to whatever goes on down there in preparation of labour.

so, that's where I am and I'm starting to get tired of this. on the other hand I wouldn'T mind geting some more stuff done, a few more boxes unpacked, maybe even some sewing projects for the baby on the way. we'll see.

Yikes! Well I really hope it's all just fine, as it keeps checking out.

I hear you, I'm ready for baby to be out, but at the same time, I always have more to do. Esp this close to Christmas....

Originally Posted by Simonsez2u 

I have been a "bad yelling mommy-monster" also to my 3.5yr old.  It has GOT to be a stage that they are in because my DS seems to test me whenever he can.
 

Arg, I have been so frustrated with the girls, esp the youngest (almost 12). She's dyslexic so not easy to teach anyway. Lately it's been REALLY bad. She can't remember diddly and I get so annoyed with her! Finally I was talking to hubby and I said, "It's like she's been taking stupid pills!" then I remembered, SHE WAS. Her mom was giving her something that her older daughter had sent for thyroid. She's certain that's the problem since my little SIL is overweight. She's built big for one, she is as lazy as she can get away with for another bc she's always daydreaming, and she pigs out on all she can eat of everything. DUH she's going to be chunky. Anyway, she had her taking like 8 of these pills a day. I looked at it and it says for hyperthyroid, DO NOT take. Thyroid issues can give you brain fog - including hyper. She's off them now and been off school for the week. I know it can take a month to get out of her system but I REALLY have a hope this will help. She had made so much progress with tutoring this summer and the first month or so back in school. I hope we didn't lose 6 weeks. And I'm hoping I don't have to feel like screaming when she forgets what I just told her for the 10th time.

Originally Posted by fayebond 
 

Anyone else feel like they want to meet the baby without actually having to get up with and generally care for said baby?

YES. When baby's making me sore and uncomfortable, I start wishing baby would just come already. Then I think but I'll just be sore in other ways for a while PLUS have to take care of the baby. So I figure I'm good for now. :) Ask me again after the 7th.....

Originally Posted by JodiAriel 

I never thought I would still be pregnant with twins at 39w2d.  I am still only a fingertip dilated although I am finally 80% effaced, head is there but not totally engaged.  I am scheduled to be induced Sun night which I am nervous about since my cervix is still not favorable but I am out of time according to the high risk docs.  My midwife thinks it is going to be a long induction.  I am still nervous about the whole doubly whammy scenario since Baby B is back to being breech and the doc who does breech deliveries is not on Mon night. 

That is so fantastic the babes are still in there! I really hope all goes well for you. Sending "come quickly and smoothly babies" prayers! Maybe you'll start labor sooner????

[leafylady]

I'm at 36 weeks and getting antsy reading all of these birth stories. I might have to avoid the forums so I don't get too impatient!

I let the OB check my cervix after the GBS swab, but it's not even close to being ready.

My bp has been going up, but seems to be staying at a tolerable level if I am lazy and relaxed most of the day. It's sort of bedrest, but not strict.

[MrsKoehn]

36 weeks, it won't be too long! Rest the best you can. Get some reading, sewing, crafts, movies, something and take care of yourself!  Like I told hubby, even if baby doesn't come till Dec, it's still not that long at all and our lives as we know it are OVER for the next who knows how long. We plan to have as many kids as my health allows, so we could have babes over the next almost 20 yrs and have 40+ yrs before we have the house to ourselves again. Enjoy it while it lasts!

[sere234]

I'm 39 weeks now and every single night I think that maybe we'll have a new baby tomorrow. And we still don't. DS came healthy and ready at 38 weeks, not the best thing for the second kid to have to live up to!

DH and I went out to dinner tonight while his parents watched DS. They actually took him to a dinner at their church so we gave them our "paranoid parents teaching the grandparents how to properly use a carseat" lecture as humbly and kindly as we could. I swear, sometimes I really do feel like that first time parent still, even though DH and I are and very laid back and give DS wide boundaries. But someone else driving my kid around? It worries me!

DH and I had a good time being kid free for a couple of hours. We actually had time to look at one another and hold hands! Will wonders never cease?!? We got home and DS went to bed early and easily, so it was a pretty spectacular end to the evening!

Tomorrow I'm going out with my mom for breakfast though I'd rather be birthing this baby. 

BTW, does anyone else think it's surreal and bizarre for real babies to be arriving for our DDC? Every time a birth story is posted I just can't believe some of the women I "know" in this group are actually cuddling their new little ones right now!

[Sheri R]

Originally Posted by sere234 

I'm 39 weeks now and every single night I think that maybe we'll have a new baby tomorrow. And we still don't. DS came healthy and ready at 38 weeks, not the best thing for the second kid to have to live up to!

Me too!!  I had DD healthy at 37 weeks and can't believe I am 1 week away from my actual due date this time!!!  I just keep thinking it could be any minute now...

DH and I also got in a date night this week - oh, it was lovely to look at each other and not try to talk over a screeching, messy, (food-all-over-the-restaurant) toddler.  I had a late night espresso with my dessert and that probably wasn't the best idea... I was up until 1 a.m. with my mind just buzzing and had to pee 3 times instead of the normal 1 or 2 and each time stayed awake for another 30 minutes or so.... maybe this means my time is really, really close....

well here's to our extra hour tonight with daylight savings ending.....

hang in there mamas!!

[OceansEve]

Originally Posted by franjapany 

Ugh, I'm 39 weeks these days and had the second false alarm today. A week ago I had some bleeding, severe enough to have my midwife concerned and send me in for an u/s and exam. turned out everything was fine and there never was a real explanation for the bleeding. Then last night again, I woke up to a gush of blood leaving me - enough to soak my pjs. I did some research, read some scary stuff about placental abruption, decided there was no need to panick and went back to bed. had several contractions but none qualifying as the real stuff. called my mw this morning, explained the situation, was sent to the hospital for a thorough check - again everything is fine.

the best explanation they could give us was that I have a very irritable cervix and that probably some small vein has burst due to whatever goes on down there in preparation of labour.

so, that's where I am and I'm starting to get tired of this. on the other hand I wouldn'T mind geting some more stuff done, a few more boxes unpacked, maybe even some sewing projects for the baby on the way. we'll see.

That sounds very similar to my experience with DD1, I bled out a few times and after it happened three times the OB convinced me I needed to induce and get her out. BIG MISTAKE. IF only I'd known then what I know now. They couldn't figure out the why or where for me either, turned out tho it was directly effecting blood volume of DD1. Anyway, keep a close eye on her and take the bleeding seriously. I hope the rest of the pregnancy is uneventful!

Stomach cramps - omg I feel like curling up in the fetal position. I woke up yesterday morning feeling awesome. squidgit had shifted her position, my pain and ctx had stopped in the middle of the night. I felt good enough yesterday to go work and have lunch with my mother. Then yesterday evening I started having stomach pain, it has gone from bad to worse this morning. I've read diarrhea and stomach pains can be a sign of impending labor. I'm not sure which I'd rather have right now, sickness or birth..... neither sound good. Can I just go back to feeling great like I did yesterday morning???