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Originally Posted by MaineCoastMama View Post

I love hearing all of your answers. It provides hope to me, if I am good to leave soon, that I will be able to, and in the same token, helps me to consider that I may decide I want to stay the night or an extra night, as a first time mom. 

 

Just keep in mind what your insurance will cover. I'm Canadian, so I was on Alberta Health Care. The cost of the extra night was $0 (actually, the whole labor/delivery was $0). But I imagine some private coverage providers may not be willing to cover an extra night unless it's absolutely necessary.

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Anyone else have some days with ridiculous amounts of CM?  Today, and several days in the past, I've felt so "wet" down there and it wigs me out.  Plus, no amount of "normal" ever feels safe to me anymore so everything keeps me on edge. 

 

I remember with DD1 that I went into L&D at 17w (where I am now) because I leaked a TON of something all of a sudden, and they tried to convince me it was urine but I'm not stupid, I can tell the difference.  I had just had a friend who'd lost a baby at 16 weeks and it began with her membranes rupturing so of course I was on high alert over it.

 

But yeah, not enjoying this icky wet feeling today.

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Oh, and speaking of being concerned in the past at 17 weeks, I remember with DD2 I had something similar, as well as a lot of crampy ctx, around 18-19 weeks, and that really concerned me at the time, too.  This must just be a transitional time in pg, for me anyway.

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1babysmom - I noticed an increase in cm last night and today. I think it's definitely just part of this stage but I still check the tp every time I wipe. We are all pretty hyper aware of what is going on in our bodies. I've also noticed an uptick in breast action. The factory has definitely felt like it's been revving up the last couple of days. My nipples were on high alert all day today no matter what I did. It's so embarrassing lol. 

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Originally Posted by TIFF4NY View PostMy nipples were on high alert all day today no matter what I did. It's so embarrassing lol. 

Oh my gosh, this makes me laugh, because this is what I'm always trying to describe as an issue I've had ever since I started nursing like 7 years ago.  My nipples are ALWAYS making themselves known and I hate it!  I have a favorite bra (nursing) that I found on Birth & Baby that's only $14 and I love it because it's thicker cotton and a little textured, so that seems to help, compared to most bras- nursing or not- that are silky and seem paper thin.  But seriously, it's one thing I hate so much.  I keep my Lily Padz on hand all the time (looooong past the need for them) because I wear them on special occasions or for photographs so I don't have to worry about "nippleage". 

post #146 of 328

Nice! I will have to look at their bras because I definitely need some new ones. With DD I had flat/inverted nipples so she couldn't latch on her own. I wound up using nipple shields the entire 13 months I nursed her. This time I don't think I'll have the same problem and really hope I never have to use a shield.

 

Do you remember the name of the bra style you got?

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It's this one. 

http://www.birthandbaby.com/shop/products/1155

 

I love that it's so inexpensive because I can order multiple ones in different sizes, and not fret over having to replace them as I grow/shrink, or if like last time when we dealt with horrible thrush for years (8 months straight with DS) I had to replace my bras a lot.  They don't wear out very quickly, either. 

 

I just tried a TON of really spendy bras and never found a single one I liked, much less that I felt was worth what it cost.

post #148 of 328

No one except dh is allowed with me while I'm laboring and giving birth. My mom was in the house last time and it was unnerving for both of us. I felt I was going to be judged for the noise I made and she couldn't stand the noise I made. It wasn't planned that she'd be there during the actual birth.

 

For my first DH's parents walked in after she was born and I'm still miffed that no one asked permission and he and I got no family bonding time because of it.  They aren't allowed to come visit at ALL this time.  We actually aren't going to tell them we are pregnant :)

 

For my first, I had an unmedicated birth. We got there at 2:10 am.  Gave birth at 5:33 am.  Left  the next day at 2pm so we were there for about 36 hours.

post #149 of 328

Both your houses look beautiful. I want to move to the Maine coast!


Edited by stormysky - 11/13/12 at 12:49am
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The standard hospital stay here is usually 24 hours, unless you birthed in the middle of the night, then they might suggest you stay an extra day. The local birth centers usually have you on your way between 4 - 6 hours if you don't have any complications.

 

For me, the plan is that my mom will come over if the girls are awake and keep them company/occupied. My MW will be there with her student and probably my doula and her student as well. Once the baby is born we'll probably call the IL's and if this baby is born at night like their sisters, then the IL's and close friends will be welcomed the next day, for short periods of time, *if* I am awake. When my youngest was born my MIL & FIL took my older girls for two days so that DH and I could bond with the baby and not have to worry about entertaining the other girls and it worked out great. That was over the summer though so with a spring (ie: school time) baby, I don't know if they'll be able to do that this time, so we'll see.

 

No one's every brought me food either, and I admit that I've been a little jealous of that too in the past. This time, I'm going to specifically ask people for food, especially if they want to come meet the baby in the first few days. Either bring food, or plan on doing a chore while you're here thumb.gif

 

I'm also in the lots of CM camp and have pretty much had to wear a panty liner since getting my BFP. Now though, I'm also starting to have issues when I sneeze so I've moved up to a slightly larger pl "just in case". This happened right around the same time for me with my last pregnancy too. I guess it just comes with the territory of having your 4th baby.

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Jealous!  I've only once received one meal after any of my babies, though I did get well fed after my ectopic surgery.  It's juvenile, but I've always been sort of envious of those who have meals brought to them afterwards! 

 

I only ever had my biological mom and dad visit shortly after I had DD. With DS, we never had any visitors. I have never gotten any meals. I would *love* that, though, and I, too, feel a bit envious of people who got meals broth to them. Also, when I went to a... pregnancy support center, for people whose pregnancies were unplanned/they didn't have the means to get care/etc, they told me all about how they go and visit after the baby is born, and help out anything smaller of help you might need, and bring a "welcome baby" gift basket, all kinds of stuff, only for them to tell me that they weren't going to do it for me, because I wasn't delivering at a specific hospital. greensad.gif

 

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Is anyone else anxious to decorate and start Christmas festivities? I'm sooooo excited, but DH said I can't decorate until Black Friday, arghhhhh!

 

I am *so* ready! But, because it's "tradition," I'm forcing myself to wait until day after Thanksgiving/Black Friday. (DF is helping, he said even though he is equally excited, *no* decorating before then!!!)

 

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Originally Posted by firespiritmelody View Post

The standard hospital stay here is usually 24 hours, unless you birthed in the middle of the night, then they might suggest you stay an extra day. The local birth centers usually have you on your way between 4 - 6 hours if you don't have any complications.

 

For me, the plan is that my mom will come over if the girls are awake and keep them company/occupied. My MW will be there with her student and probably my doula and her student as well. Once the baby is born we'll probably call the IL's and if this baby is born at night like their sisters, then the IL's and close friends will be welcomed the next day, for short periods of time, *if* I am awake. When my youngest was born my MIL & FIL took my older girls for two days so that DH and I could bond with the baby and not have to worry about entertaining the other girls and it worked out great. That was over the summer though so with a spring (ie: school time) baby, I don't know if they'll be able to do that this time, so we'll see.

 

No one's every brought me food either, and I admit that I've been a little jealous of that too in the past. This time, I'm going to specifically ask people for food, especially if they want to come meet the baby in the first few days. Either bring food, or plan on doing a chore while you're here thumb.gif

 

I wish I was so bold as to say that. Unfortunately, I'm not. greensad.gif That's a great idea, though. nod.gif

 

 

 

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I'm also in the lots of CM camp and have pretty much had to wear a panty liner since getting my BFP. Now though, I'm also starting to have issues when I sneeze so I've moved up to a slightly larger pl "just in case". This happened right around the same time for me with my last pregnancy too. I guess it just comes with the territory of having your 4th baby.

 

I haven't had that much CM, but my bladder is pretty much shot, even when I'm not pregnant, so I'm afraid I will be moving into the "protective underwear" department fairly soon. greensad.gif redface.gif I probably should have done it sooner, but... it's very embarrassing to me, especially when I've had to use it outside of pregnancy, as well.

 

DD really wants to be present the entire time, even when the baby is being born. I am insisting that she and DS *not* be present at the actual birth, because I think it would be too intense for them (besides the fact the hospital doesn't allow children during that time). But I told her she can be there for awhile beforehand, and as soon as the baby is born and everything is cleared, she and DS can come back in. My mom is going to take them for me, she convinced DD that labor can be very physically demanding, so they (my mom, DD, and DS) should go look for me some snacks and maybe a small gift for the baby during that time, which seemed to satisfy her.

 

Other than that, I will at some point after the baby is born, and probably after we are back home and settled in, invite a few very close girlfriends over, one of which my kids consider their nana, the other their aunt. Other than that, my older sister *might* sneak over to visit, but I can't see my younger sister or brother doing anything specific. We have almost completely disowned DF's family, and the few members he *does* talk to live several hundred miles away, and would never be bothered to visit.

post #152 of 328
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Nice! I will have to look at their bras because I definitely need some new ones. With DD I had flat/inverted nipples so she couldn't latch on her own. I wound up using nipple shields the entire 13 months I nursed her. This time I don't think I'll have the same problem and really hope I never have to use a shield.

 

Do you remember the name of the bra style you got?

The midwife has already told me that I will have to wear a shield at the end of pregnancy (and later I guess) as I have inverted nipples. Any advice on how to make nursing easier?

post #153 of 328
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The midwife has already told me that I will have to wear a shield at the end of pregnancy (and later I guess) as I have inverted nipples. Any advice on how to make nursing easier?

 

I have inverted nipples, and I used both a shell, and a shield. The shell, I wore 99% of the time, it's a large-ish plastic piece that somehow creates vacuum(?) to draw your nipples out, and the shield I put on right before DS started nursing, and as he would suckle on that, it would draw my nipple into it and allow him to latch on easier. Eventually, it got to the point that (while I was nursing) he didn't need the shield, but I will need to get new sets of both again.

 

You can buy them from various places, but with DS, I *think* WIC office/the lactation consultant at the hospital gave me sets for free.

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I have gained 17 lbs since I got pregnant. I was pretty average. My diet hasn't been great at all. I get that. But, I am putting on weight way too fast! I've been exercising the best I can :(.

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I have gained 17 lbs since I got pregnant. I was pretty average. My diet hasn't been great at all. I get that. But, I am putting on weight way too fast! I've been exercising the best I can :(.

I think I've gained more than that! And I'm at 16 weeks only. I was doing awesome right before I got pregnant - watching my calories, exercising, I looked and felt really good. Then I got pregnant, very nauseous, very exhausted and alllll that went out the window.  So I started this week (I know its only Tuesday!) watching my calories and portion sizes again. Since yesterday I lost a pound - mainly water weight I'm assuming.  I'm not trying to diet or lose a ton, but the way I've been eating is not healthy and will make me gain like 60 lbs by time this baby is born. I gained 47 with DS1 and 30 with DS2. Plus I'm in my sisters wedding 5 mths after baby is born. Which seems like enough time to lose the weight, but my body holds onto weight after baby is born especially if I'm nursing.  And I have a large family photo shoot in Feb and my cousin's wedding in Feb so I kinda don't wanna look like a huge cow this pregnancy.

 

As far as CM, I had a ton during the 1st trimester. Like I would get chaffed down there if I didn't wear a panty liner.  But around week 14-15 it all went away and I'm normal again.

 

A question for you guys - what does your uterus feel like? When I'm palpating while laying down it feels really hard to me and still tender to the touch. And at 16 weeks its at my belly button. I don't remember it being so hard with my last pregnancies.  

 

Also - what are your current cravings? Right now for me its chocolate milk, salads, cottage cheese, and salty things.

post #156 of 328
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The midwife has already told me that I will have to wear a shield at the end of pregnancy (and later I guess) as I have inverted nipples. Any advice on how to make nursing easier?

I had to wear a shield to nurse DD,but after several weeks it was no longer needed. And my nipples look normal now. So I don't expect I'll have to use one again, though, if nursing starts off painful again I will definitely buy the shield sooner than I did last time. I heard so many people warning that a shield would confuse the baby so I hesitated to try it. Bah. Ridiculous. It can't be any worse for developing nursing than a mama screaming in agony every time baby latches on. eyesroll.gif
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I had to wear a shield to nurse DD,but after several weeks it was no longer needed. And my nipples look normal now. So I don't expect I'll have to use one again, though, if nursing starts off painful again I will definitely buy the shield sooner than I did last time. I heard so many people warning that a shield would confuse the baby so I hesitated to try it. Bah. Ridiculous. It can't be any worse for developing nursing than a mama screaming in agony every time baby latches on. eyesroll.gif

 

After all the time mine looked normal after I had used the shields for awhile, I thought maybe they would just stay normal looking. But no. A few months after DS completely stopped nursing, they went right back to the way they were. But at least now I know what works, so I will better be prepared this time. :) And since there will be no divorcing shortly-ish after this baby is born, I will be able to stay home and make sure we establish a really good nursing relationship. :D

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I'm a part of the "no meal" train(well, my MIL brought a lasagna after Sylas' birth..and lets just say, I've always been well-spoken about how much I dislike lasagna... lol). So does anyone have any recipes for freezer meals? I'd prefer to actually make my own meals that way I have stuff I like, know what's in it, etc. I've been browsing Pinterest for ideas, but any tried and true recipes would be fab :)!!

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When I was using the shield my nipples would come out more but DD still had a hard time latching so I continued to use them the entire time. Eventually it got to the point where the second I put it on, it would fill up with milk so my boobs obviously knew what was up. I actually had no issues using them the whole time as it became part of the routine and didn't take long to prep or clean. My nipples seem to be sticking out more now but I'm going to have some shields handy just in case. I didn't have them right away with DD so those first two days of nursing were a bit of a struggle.

 

Also, my recommended size were the mediums because I guess they covered my entire areola but I found that the small size worked better. It wasn't too big of a space over the nipple when the shield was on and it was a better fit for DD's mouth. I always found mine at Target.

 

 

With DD my mother was in town from OR for two weeks and she did all the chores and cooked for us. It was totally a blessing and I really appreciated it. This time they are trying to sell their home and move locally so I'm hoping it will happen in time for the birth and she can be here to help with DD while I'm at the hospital. My MIL kept her distance in the beginning which I also appreciated. Now some of our friends... not so much. In fact, I remember being at the hospital looking like crap and all of a sudden DH's friend and his ENTIRE family showed up. I'm talking his wife, parents, siblings, kids, etc. I was like o.O WTF. No warning whatsoever, they just walked into the room. Thankfully I didn't have the boob out, heh. I'm going to have to request no visitors other than immediate family this time around. 

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It's this one. 

http://www.birthandbaby.com/shop/products/1155

 

I love that it's so inexpensive because I can order multiple ones in different sizes, and not fret over having to replace them as I grow/shrink, or if like last time when we dealt with horrible thrush for years (8 months straight with DS) I had to replace my bras a lot.  They don't wear out very quickly, either. 

 

I just tried a TON of really spendy bras and never found a single one I liked, much less that I felt was worth what it cost.

These are a great price!  How do they fit?  I am a little overwhelmed looking at the sizes, as I usually get Bravados which fit a range of sizes...Are the lower bands stretchy?

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