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[1babysmom]

I've been a SAHM the whole time, too.  We homeschool as well, and that's a priority for us, so I've never even considered anything else.  I have made money at home (online) for things before (I paid for our last Disney World trip) and will probably get involved back in that now since DH will be back in school for 9 months and we will have little to no income and we already have itty bitty income so it's hard to save up, but no debt, thankfully...we finished off paying off DH's student loans in February ($15k in 2 years, so it felt SO good to be rid of them!!!), though I immediately had to go and incur medical debt with my ectopic surgery, which put us about $8k in debt, but my parents just paid off our last $1800 for us as a Christmas gift!

[Greenlea]

I have worked full time with both my previous kids, but once this baby comes we won't be able to afford 3 kids in daycare, so I'll probably stay home. Or at least get a little PT job evenings & weekends to help out with expenses. Me & DH started a small direct sales internet company a couple months ago that we are hoping picks up and brings in some money too. And I plan on becoming a doula once baby is old enough (like 3 mths) to be away from me for a longer while. I also have an interest in being a lactation consultant AND a birth photographer. So hopefully that will all come into play too.

I have a large box of maternity clothes from two previous pregnancies, some from my sister, and some from my cousin. But hardly anything fits! I'm getting so frustrated. To have this big box of clothes and not be able to wear hardly any of them. I'm too big for the mediums, don't have any larges, and too small for the XL. I already feel big and crappy, having to wear clothes that don't fit doesn't help. I want to be the cute pregnant lady in fashionable clothes darnit!!

So over the weekend I went to the Good Will and got 2 pairs of pants and 2 shirts. The one pair of pants I love! So happy there. The other pair don't look the best (they are a little tight in the legs and too short) but I figured they would be good with a pair of boots....now to buy a pair of boots LOL.  Anyone else having problems finding clothes?

[Munchkin08]

I will get 3 weeks of leave in addition to the 8 weeks I get off every summer. DH will then take some time off - 15 weeks overall. We are hoping to start a nanny share after that. 

I am starting to have a hard time sleeping. And my sacrum hurts pretty regularly. 

Does anyone know anything about the Leachco Back N Belly Chic Pillow?

I read a lot of positive reviews but also read that it is not returnable. I was hoping to buy an organic pillow but it seems pricey. 

http://www.amazon.com/Leachco-Back-N-Belly-Chic/dp/B004W02YMG/ref=sr_1_1?s=home-garden&ie=UTF8&qid=1354033417&sr=1-1&keywords=Leachco+Back+%27N+Belly+Chic

[bmcneal]

I had my "big" ultrasound this morning, and an appointment.

The appointment went pretty well, meeting-the-doctor wise. The one I saw today seems pretty nice, but she talks *super* fast. She's very expressive with her hands and face when she talks, which I love, for some reason. My blood pressure was fairly high (166/88 the first time, 154/84 the second time [smaller cuff], and 137/70-something [other arm]). She said she's not terribly worried about it, because a lot of things were factoring in (I ate a ham sandwich for breakfast, and she said that was enough to have done it, especially with how much it was going down), but she's still going to have me go in again next week to double check if it was the myriad of factors, or if it is really just high. Because DS was so big when he was born, she's going to have me do the glucose test early (she wants me to do it before I go in next week) to make sure that I didn't have diabetes with him and somehow the tests didn't pick it up, but she said if none of the flavors of glucola sound good, I can call and they can do the jelly bean test. So we shall see.

The ultrasound went pretty good. The technician was very hurried, and was rushing me around, saying because I was late, she would have to hurry, and we couldn't do a lot of the "fun" pictures. (We still got a lot, though.  ) But what upset me most, more than being rushed, was that *they* scheduled the appointment! The OB office called, told them the time of my first appointment, with the OB, (9.00), and the US people said that 10.00 would work, even if it was a little after 10, but when I get there at 10.05, they are rushing me because I'm late, and I should have made sure I was there on time.  I was going to ask her to put the sex in an envelope, so that DF and I could (maybe) find out when/if we decided to, but she said she was in too much of hurry. Thankfully, she did do the pictures, so that if we want to find out, we could let doctor know, and they could look up the pictures, and find the right ones, and we could know, but... it really felt not like I thought it should have. But bright side, baby is doing good! Would *not* stop moving/squirming! And even when she was getting the picture of the hands, Baby put it up, then back to mouth, like waving to us. 

[alaskanmomma]

Where's everyone at as far as work vs. stay home after the baby is born? 

I'll be a SAHM, looking to start selling my tutu's on Etsy or something for extra income, though. While we are NO WHERE near "comfortable", sending 2 kids to preschool and a newborn to daycare is WAY out of the question. I used to do in home daycare, but I couldn't keep up with the extra kids, and can't really see myself devoting my time and energy into it again for 1-2 kids max.(all I could take in, depending on ages, with the newborn) for such little pay and respect from parents... *sigh* Gonna be tight, but we'll make it, we have an awesome support group :)

[alaskanmomma]

Awww bmcneal.. what a rude tech! You'd think at the very least writing boy or girl down would take the time it takes for them to print the pictures.. *sigh* Glad you got a good scan, though and baby seems to be happy and healthy  Are you going to ask your doctor what the sex is?

[Cananny]

I am going to be a SAHM ... I'm worried about finances but with three babies at once daycare is out if question... I am a career nanny so going back to work doesn't make sense... I would resent taking care of other kids while ours are in daycare .... I've always worked and been very independent so this is a very hard change for me... Dp makes enough to cover our bills and very little left over ... But we will be ok.... I will hopefully do some newborn overnight baby nurse work once the triplets are older ...

[IronMam]

I was a mostly SAHM with DD (worked a part time job a few times, but never for very long). I may try to do some design work (I make blog layouts/themes) and sell them on my blog for some extra cash. And I do mystery shopping from time to time.

[Greenlea]

I've been reading some birth stores on Mothering and its making me teary eyed and so excited for this birth. I can't wait. 

[BeanBean06]

Cananny, I've worked as a nanny too! Is the only job I've ever done, done it now for 12+ yrs. I always assumed if I got preg. I would work throughout the pregnancy and then work after while taking my LO with me. In fact, the job I had when we found out my boss was thrilled and very happy to have me come back after the baby. Of course life had other plans when at 10 weeks I started bleeding and was put on bed rest which lead to all the other problems I've had. There is no way I could work now. So now that I haven't been working, I will stay home with baby. I'm currently using my bed rest time to work on my BA classes in management. And I'm hoping by the time this little lady is a year old or so ill be done. Then I will see abt getting a job with my husbands company! He works at home full time for an online university, and they have PT coordinating jobs that are 100% work from home. So hopefully that would work out and we would both be able to be home with baby girl while working as well. We would have family that could come over and help feeding/playing with her while I was working. But who knows if that will all work out lol ultimately my DH is committed to providing for us, even tho things are tight, so we will figure it out

[Cananny]

That was my plan... Work until deliver take a few weeks off and go back with LO in tow... But all that changed with triplets:) I never planned to be a SAHM but I'm sure I will enjoy it! Being a nanny has been my career for 17 years.... I def am going to miss the kids and the income!!!

[IronMam]

OK, website troubles make me want to cry on the best of days, but combined with pregnancy hormones and I just want to burn down the city right now. I am so frustrated. I thought I had fixed whatever security issues happened with my blog (I think it got hacked, and someone inserted malware into the code somewhere - but I am nowhere near tech-savvy enough to figure this crap out myself). My server's tech support is going to look into it, but if they can't fix it I don't know what to do. I can't afford the $90 a year to get a "cleaning" service run on it. And I can't rebuild my audience, and start generating income if no-one can even access the blog.

I used to use Blogger, and I had a fairly decent audience growing...but then I felt I should take a hiatus and focus on my "real" life. When I came back, I switched to self-hsoted Wordpress (since everybody says WP is sooooo much better), and it is just problem after problem after problem. And after a year off, I have no audience anymore. I think I have a grand total of 4 e-mail subscribers now. Considering what I used to have, that makes me want to cry.

And today is DP's bday. So I really need to be trying to clean things up a bit around the house, and get stuff done so he doesn't have to, and make him cookies (he prefers snickerdoodles to birthday cake). And I still haven't exercised today (and that's non-negotiable for me right now). So wasting time trying to just make my site work is pissing me off so much.

Just needed to vent.

[TIFF4NY]

I have been a SAHM since DD1 and it's got it's perks and downfalls as does any job. Thankfully with DH being a pharmacist we are able to survive on his income with some cushion leftover. I would like more regular adult interaction though... It's hard to find playgroups where I actually relate and/or feel comfortable with the other parents. 

[TIFF4NY]

Also... My boobs are hurting today which can only mean they are growing yet again. When I was first pregnant I ordered a nursing bra in a couple sizes up and it was HUGE when it got here. Now it's the only one I like wearing because it doesn't make me feel like my boobs are being compressed or look like a uni-boob. I'm super scared of how big these things will get when my milk comes in.

Cananny - What sports bras do you like? I think I want to get a few nursing sports bras in addition to another regular nursing bra or two. I despise bra/clothes shopping but I can't live in this one bra for the next x# of months.

[Cananny]

I love the ones by fruit of loom I think they are! They are like 10.00 for three at ***gasp*** Walmart they hold up well ... Though I will prob need a few better ones for pumping/bfeeding

[IronMam]

Anybody who has had more than one baby, what has been your experience when it comes to how much your boobs grow the second time? Same as the first?

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Anybody who has had more than one baby, what has been your experience when it comes to how much your boobs grow the second time? Same as the first?

This is my 4th but only my 2nd "real" experience with this since I was nursing the last 2 pregnancies.  I'm kind of expecting it to be the same as the first time, though.

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Anybody who has had more than one baby, what has been your experience when it comes to how much your boobs grow the second time? Same as the first?

Just as with the belly, the second time around, it's easier for things to stretch out when they've been stretched out before! This is my third, and I'm definitely fuller than the other two.  Sadly, it's never enough to move up a size, even when nursing. I stay a tiny A/B, but dh can tell, and I guess that's what counts!  When nursing the second time, I definitely didn't have as much fluctuation in size in the early days as with my first... they seemed a bit more under control; maybe because I kinda knew what I was doing by then!

[Oliver's Mama]

Originally Posted by TIFF4NY 

I have been a SAHM since DD1 and it's got it's perks and downfalls as does any job. Thankfully with DH being a pharmacist we are able to survive on his income with some cushion leftover. I would like more regular adult interaction though... It's hard to find playgroups where I actually relate and/or feel comfortable with the other parents. 

I hear you... whenever I am in adult-only company, I find I almost don't know how to act or what to say anymore.  When you're having completely non-sensical conversations all day long with toddlers, your brain goes to jello fast. Dh and I joke that we both deal with a lot of crap at our jobs too; me literally and him figuratively!

[MommyRuth]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 

I totally popped somewhere between weeks 19 and 20 and feel enormous now (at 21.5w).  I can't believe I already feel this lumbering!  That being said, we were traveling over Thanksgiving break and my...erm, digestion was off.  I actually feel a bit smaller today now that I've been back to my normal eating/eliminating routine.  I guess when your uterus is already taking up space, any small amount of bloat is going to make you look huge!

Even though my fundus is near my belly button, I'm still feeling kicks and pokes pretty low, and nowhere near my belly button really.  Where are you all feeling movement?  This baby NEVER stops moving.  It's a little concerning because we definitely saw correlations in in-utero/earthside sleep habits with both of our other kids.  My better sleeper went long hours in the womb where I wouldn't feel him, especially in the mid-afternoon and after around 10pm.  My daughter, who never napped for longer than 45 minutes and still fights bedtime more than my son, was never still for longer than...45 minutes. And she was often most active at night.  This baby follows those patterns to a T!  My husband is terrified.  LOL!

We have an u/s scheduled for tomorrow and I am DREADING it.  My m/w wants me to check on things because I've been having a lot of unusual spotting.  I really hate u/s and for many reasons don't choose to do them normally.  However, I see the value in making sure nothing weird is going on with my placenta.  I'm still not looking forward to it though.  It does not help that one of my dearest friends in the world, who is due the day before me, got some devastating news at her u/s two weeks ago.  I'm feeling pretty anxious.  And when you're not finding out the sex, it's not really that exciting, so I feel I have little to look forward to (except, God willing, peace of mind?).  We shall see.

It's noticeable when my digestion is off, too.

I'm feeling most movement fairly low, between my pubic bone and the mid-point to my belly button but some kicks super high, right at my belly button. I like to imagine he's doing head stands :-)

I hope your u/s went well and you got good news! Let us know, please!